How does it feel to make eye contact

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I used to feel uncomfortable until I realized that my eyes are also piercing into their soul, so that thought totally empowered me. Now I'm the one who can make other people a bit uncomfortable because I look directly into their eyes.

That's because everyone knows that the real reason people wear sunglasses is to check out members of the opposite sex without someone commenting on it. Hence why they are worn during the summer/on beaches.
BTW, I totally did not figure out this application on my own. I'm an Aspie. Would I think like that?

michel, My problem is I find it too great a risk to let them see into my soul. Besides, I wouldn't be able to tell what is in their soul if it hit me over the head.

okay, tricky text ahead, as i'm not sure what i'm going to type next.

eye contact, i can do it a lot WHEN i feel cornered, about to get overwhelmed, so i use it as a weapon to repel people
reminds me a long time ago when i told this girl i loved her and she didn't answer right away, i looked her int he eyes and saw way more than i ever wanted to, and everything blurred out then.

in a conversation

if we're sitting or in an enclosed space i do look at people in the eyes every min or so, but just for a couple of seconds, then i look away, can't keep it for long when talking to someone, now contrary to the most, cause i tend to over interpret them (which reminds me a long time ago when i told this girl i loved her and she didn't answer right away, i looked her int he eyes and saw way more than i ever wanted to, and everything blurred out then.)

if i have enough room i tend to walk in circles, big circles around the room, like 20 feet diameter -_- and never looking at the other person's face. now that annoys the hell out of everyone.

conclusion, looking people in the eyes is uncomfortable not cause i feel that they can read me but cause i can read there what those people feel for me, wich depends on the theme, basically it transmits to me that other people feel exactly what i don't want them to (pity, sadness, hate, etc...)

It feels...heavy almost. Uncomfortable -like something is weighing down on me. I don't mind as much with people I know (mom, dad and some friends from school). Mostly I just look at people's faces and avoid the eyes themselves.

Yes -that's it. Sorry ^^U I kinda struggled to get the right words. It's hard to exsplain. But it feels wrong somehow.

It feels strange. Especially if it is an attractive female I feel all squishy inside and don't want to look away so I avoid eye contact at all costs to avoid doing it wrong.

I get physically uncomfortably and jittery. I feel like there's a lot of pressure pushing down on my body. I also feel like people might see something in my eyes they may not like. Eye contact is too weird.

I had problems with eye contact when I was younger, but luckily, one can learn good eye contact.

it feels like an overwhelmingly inappropriate intrusion and violation of my privacy and sense of social security--clearly i'm not referring to the government program, but i thought a clarification was warranted and conducive to reaching a communicative outcome free of avoidable misunderstandings.

The eye contact thing really depends for me. Basically if I trust someone, I am ok at making eye contact, unless I'm feeling emotionally drained or I'm having to think about what I'm going to say, then I can't focus on them and think at the same time. Sometimes I don't know why I feel uncomfortable making eye contact when talking to some people, but when that happens I feel exposed and vulnerable (like another poster mentioned earlier). Sometimes eye contact feels to intimate for me and if I'm not on intimate terms with someone, it makes me uncomfortable.

I have learned to do eye contact to show I'm listening though, so even if I feel uncomfortable, I attempt intermittent eye contact.

I rarely, if ever, made eye contact as a child. I remember that I would almost always look at the floor when talking to someone. Whenever I force myself to make eye contact, I'd often forget what I was talking about. I have been improving though. Though I have noticed that I have been staring at one's lips quite often

It really freaks me out to even look at a person's face when I am speaking to them. I wear sunglasses a lot so people can't always see that I am looking behind them!

It feels uncomfortable, if I look into someone's eyes I tend to stare too much and not hear what was being said. Anyways I don't like to do, it just doesn't feel right.