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22 Sep 2008, 9:17 am

I don't mind babies but their crying can be annoying although i blame the parent as they can be controlled sort of.

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22 Sep 2008, 11:30 am

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i blame the parent as they can be controlled sort of.

I felt like that until I found out first-hand how hard it is to be a parent. These days, the noise is just as bad, but I feel a lot more sympathy for the parents. On the other hand, some parents just let their kids run about screaming all the time, with no apparent regard for anybody else's feelings at all.

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22 Sep 2008, 3:12 pm

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I have been a mother for 35 years, to three NT children. I knew that they cry and just weathered the storm. It would not last forever and crying is their way of communication. I worked hard to figure out the meanings of the cries. When my kids got older I encouraged them to use words and gestures.

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22 Sep 2008, 3:34 pm

tomboy4good wrote:

I think you totally misread my posting & assume I know nothing about babies! Of course I don't think all cries are hunger related!! ! As I said not all crying bothers me. It's the obvious cry of hunger that does! I've raised 2 babies, I KNOW that sound. I dropped everything & took care of their needs & then went back to what I needed to do. I hear it all too often when I am out in a public place. It's also bad for a infant to wait to be fed when they have been left wailing for a long time. It means they are so upset, they can't feed properly. That's cruel. Young babies need to eat on their schedule period. Once they have reached 3 months of age, they should be able to wait at least for a little while between feedings. My youngest daughter constantly wanted to be fed, even at 3 months. Between the feedings, changing of diapers/clothes, housework, etc I rarely had a free moment to myself!

Trust me, I know it's not easy to care for a baby. I never said it was! Having raised 2 successfully, I understand this fact! I also tried breast feeding. I know how difficult it is no matter where a mom is. Often times, I waited until my kids were asleep to get things done around the house. Never lasted long enough before I was summoned again!

I did so with no help raising my 2 kids. I also had to put up with 4 hour long temper tantrums from my oldest & I never knew when one would strike (could be at home, at a store, etc). I am only now finding out that my oldest probably has a severe form of AS, while her younger sibling has a mild version. Neither child was a piece of cake to raise, but the younger one was not nearly as difficult! I am somewhere in between the two on the spectrum. It wasn't easy, & some days I cried my eyes out because I had no support or help. But they did thrive, & they are now well into their teens. There are still good & bad days for both of them, but life is like that!

Sorry for responding inappropriately.

But, just FYI, how can anyone know what a cry from a different baby means? Every child is different. I'm glad you were able to tell the difference on your own babies cries, but I never could. My hearing is not that fine tuned. I had to interact with my infants to figure out what they were crying for, and sometimes I remained clueless to the end. So, it is wrong to assume that the parents are intentionally ignoring a cry for food. It may not be a cry for food, or the parents may not realize it.

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22 Sep 2008, 7:11 pm

Most of the time if it's a cry that goes on and on, doesn't go away, sometimes is more intense than at othertimes it means the baby isn't comfortable. Something is bothering them. Usually it means they are coming down with a cold or flu. If the diaper doesn't need changing and they have been fed and they act that way it means they are either tired or getting sick.

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22 Sep 2008, 8:03 pm

I really like babies. Their crying doesn't usually bother me. They are usually just expressing that they are tired/hungry/wet/overstimulated/colicky. Crying is how they communicate.

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22 Sep 2008, 10:46 pm

I love babies, tots annoy me but they can be cute.

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23 Sep 2008, 1:12 am

Loudness continued will annoy me. But I love babies in general. I have a ridiculously strong maternal instinct.

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23 Sep 2008, 8:27 am

I do not mind babies at all but I do have trouble thinking of what to say if I have to sweet talk to them in a room full of people like all that "coochy goochy goo goo" and you tickle their little chins kind of stuff. But I am quite content to nurse one on my lap and occasionally rock it to sleep and not have to go through all that sweet talk. Or give the baby a bottle or a rattle. But of course it is impossible for me to breast feed it being a guy.

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23 Sep 2008, 8:42 am

Babies are the personification of annoyance. Do not want.

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23 Sep 2008, 9:45 am

Aurore wrote:

Loudness continued will annoy me. But I love babies in general. I have a ridiculously strong maternal instinct.

why should that be ridiculously?

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23 Sep 2008, 10:46 am

DW_a_mom wrote:

You are forgiven! It's a good & valid question. Wish I could answer that for you, but that's not possible on a forum. I would be able to show you if we were in the same room & an infant was crying out of hunger. I am able to distinguish a hunger cry, but other cries, not so much. With my own 2 children, I really got the hunger cry. My youngest only wanted to eat constantly. I believe she was born hungry! No joke! But for things such as colic or some other discomfort, or a different cry that isn't hunger, they all tend to sound the same to me. Trust me, there were times when I couldn't get my own kid to stop crying because I couldn't interpret the cry right! Maybe it's just something some are tuned to...I'm not sure. Maybe it's an acquired skill? I only had 2 kids, maybe it's different with moms who have more than 2?

I think that's why I get annoyed to hear a hungry baby's cry.....because *I* can distinguish it. I want the baby to stop crying before it gets into the red faced, truly pissed because it is starving phase. I've observed the parents of such a baby & they do appear to not get the meaning behind the cry. So maybe they are also clueless.

Thanks for making a valid point! Next time I am out & about, I may just approach the parent & let them know that their baby is hungry (when it's a hungry cry). It would be the kindest thing to do for everyone! (Baby's need is met & no one else is subjected to the cry.) LOL Now to just get out of my comfort zone & approach a total stranger!

That will be the hardest part!

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24 Sep 2008, 6:13 am

I love my neice and my nephew's. They are so cool. I get along with them better than older people lol(Oldest is 3, turning 4 in Nov, the neice and the other Nephew are 16months). Its fun being around them. Now, it would most likely be a different story if i had kids. Having them cry all the time and having to look after them 24hrs a day would be incredibly difficult. Of course, i would have to meet someone for that to happen :lol:

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24 Sep 2008, 7:31 am

I love babies. They bring joy to my eyes, and I find that their love is very unconditional. If we can all love one another in that fashion, the world would be a better place. Their crying doesn't bother me. I also love it when a baby grabs my finger, or tries to hug me. :O)

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24 Sep 2008, 2:12 pm

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if I have to sweet talk to them in a room full of people like all that "coochy goochy goo goo" and you tickle their little chins kind of stuff

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Sounds like you don't like looking girlie in front of people. I don't either. So I never did those things (nor do some women of course), I had my own style of soft touch with him, (never had been all that much of a hard man anyway, I'm glad to say)just talked with my normal voice, more or less, though I felt a lot more free to be silly with him when people weren't around, unless I felt really close to them.

Nappy changing he hated more than I did - so I hit on this strange idea of using a small hair drier to dry his bum. I figured he didn't like being towelled much. It worked like a charm, he kind of basked in the warm air. I had this notion that the sound form it would soothe him, so tried switching it on when he was sleepless and fratchety one night. Eureka! it calmed him down beautifully. Next time I got up to soothe his crying, he said "air" - and I realised he meant that he wanted me to put the hair drier on. Don't know if that would work for all babies, but with him I just knew it would, the idea seemed to come from nowhere. People said he'd be addicted to it when he grew up, but he wasn't.

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24 Sep 2008, 2:21 pm

They annoy me ALOT. silence them.

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