MarchViolets wrote:
Obviously, I am extremely distressed by what he said,
Obviously indeed. I am distressed also. I am capable of having a sense of humor, and I am most certainly very capable of understanding the simple concept of sarcasm. I do not always pick it up in practice, but I've understood the theory since it was explicitly explained to me the year I turned 9. I am offended by this person's derogatory and denigrating assessment of my skills, competencies and potential. I expect it felt a great deal more offensive, distressing and humiliating to you.
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and wondered if anyone else has had similar treatment, and how you believe I might deal with this in the future since I have to work with him.
Yes, I have had similar treatment. I tried to be reasonable, accommodating, and relied on the professional and ethical standards of the persons involved to work with me. I cannot say I'm happy with the outcome.
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I would really appreciate hearing from anyone with Aspergers with an opinion on what he said, or sources that I can potentially present to him to show well known instances where an autistic adult can appear to be comparatively socially able?
My opinion is that his comments are denigrating, offensive and contrary to the evidence. If people with autistic spectrum disorders could not do the things he refers to, being able to do them would be an exclusionary criteria in widely used diagnostic criteria.
Not only is this person behaving no differently to someone who encounters a few women who are not good with maths and then assumes no women can be good at maths, he is bringing his discriminatory nonsense into his professional conduct.
This little stereotype of his, based on an absurdly small set of data, requires that people with AS universally have particular traits that no widely used diagnostic criteria require someone to have for the diagnostic threshold to be met. Does this chap honestly think that the people who put the DSM criteria together (for instance) all universally failed to notice what he found out working as a social worker? Frankly, it's difficult for me to differentiate that from delusions of grandeur.
Do you have to continue to work with this person? Is there some community service where you live that could give you advice on your legal rights as a person characterised by disability, in regards to anti-discrimination law?