Not a proper diagnosis?

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Okay, so, I was diagnosed with Asperger's in May. I'm now feeling like all the support given to me (note takers in classrooms, 'helpers' on trips -- I was supposed to have one in all my classes, but Jesus, no...) is too much.

I feel like my liberty has been taken away, and as my feelings of 'oppositional defiance' (as my SASC co-ordinator referred to it) grow, I feel like Asperger's isn't what is wrong with me.

I hav a lot of unresolved issues, and I suffer with real problems of insecurity and self-hatred. I've never spoken properly about my problems, and I wonder whether, without anyone being aware of my thoughts, feelings and private actions, I can even be properly diagnosed with Asperger's?

I mean, I'm not saying I have anything at all. I just think that, with the fact that Asperger's can be mistaken/misdiagnosed for other things and vice versa, whether these things can be thrown out anyway?

I dunno. I just can't keep on being treated like I'm ignorant of my surroundings, I'm ignorant of what to do and ignorant of social activity.

And just fyi, I'm using ignorant as unaware and not with any negative undertones.

getting a 2nd opinion would be useful if u feel unsure of the diagnosis.
u have got to speak out fully about the problems in your life.

It is the usual, we are all a culture of one, and the bandaid is one size fits all.

You do have problems, human, teen, in school, but I lack empathy.

As for the real problems, that is what this site is for.

Diagnosed by a slightly trained human. Three points out of twelve and they have done their job.

The real deal is as a group we are different, and within that group we are different.

I would say ride the ride, use everything you can to get through school, for life is more fun with more education and more money.

As for coming to terms with being yourself, that is the human problem we all face.

So welcome to the playground, we are the different, and all different, some will be more like you,

Have Fun!

Sorry, the intellectualism has got me in my sobered state(!)

Seriously, though, it's not about coming to terms with myself...

If Asperger's is charateristically about not understanding others feeligns and having an 'obsession' I do not fit that catergory whatsoever.

I've been bullied sicne I was 7, and I have a huge fear of being called ugly and fat, amongst a s**t load of other stuff. That explains my lack of unsociable tendencies, even though I find it relatively easy to adapt to being 'sociable'. That was the only real reason for diagnosing me Asperger's, as the face recognition part I was well tired (5 hours into the test!) maybe a second opinion is called for...

Although, tbh, I dunno how much that'll help. Without me disclosing my feelings, thoughts, desires and actions not much can be 'diagnosied' or 'undiagnosed'.

I mean, to be told I have another disorder or illness or to be tol I have nothing at all, I'll have to disclose my paranoia, my sucidial tendencies and my eating disorders.

Which I cannot do. I am so confused.

I wonder why they are smothering you like that. If you don't need the help (Asperger's or not), why are they giving it?

I'm so sorry to hear that you are feeling so confused. I have borderline personality disorder and OCD I have not been diagnosed with Aspergers, and I still feel like I have all the social awkwardness and non awareness that AS is supposed to include. But in my opinion I agree with my BPD diagnosis and I think the two conditions have a lot more in common than psychologists are aware of. What does this mean to you? I felt like you expressed some of the issues that I have dealt with. People with BPD have intense emotions that change frequently (I often have meltdowns as well), a poor sense of self and self image, fear of real or imagined abandonment (which in my case makes me really paranoid), and impulsive harmful behavior (like binge eating, drinking, self-injury and often Borderlines suffer from eating disorders from the poor self image). AS and BPD can occur together, which is what I'm wondering about myself. And I saw myself in you when you wrote about those things so maybe looking into BPD wouldn't hurt.

However, mental issues are very difficult to diagnose especially a PDD or a personality disorder so I am by no means saying you have what I have.

I don't think it could hurt to look into other possible diagnoses if you don't feel you are getting attention for all of your issues.

The best thing is to be honest and not to be ashamed, you shouldn't have to be afraid to talk of the pain you feel or the problems you are facing. Best wishes.