LucidDreamGod wrote:
I don't quite understand why some of you guys don't want people to know, don't you want to be one step closer to being understood, so that people have a reason to look at you as just acting "normal" in your own way then being weird.
I thought I made clear why I don't tell people. Let me state it more plainly: I don't want to give unknowing people a convenient justification for discrediting what I say or do. If you try to use AS as an explanation to someone who hasn't studied it on an academic level, they'll start using this knowledge to manipulate you and/or cast doubt on you. Co-workers, classmates and neighbors can be especially insideous about it, depending on how strong they secretly feel about you. Then you can go through the hassle of starting over with a new job or moving far away. That makes it not worth the risk for me. They don't need to know.
It's good that
I know, because then I know why every social interaction feels like such a weird, unwanted experience to me. Knowing clears my mind of any uncertainty, allowing me to offer responses that people accept at face value. You can pre-plan responses that explain why you don't like something without asking for special consideration. If they're someone you care about, you're probably going to be spending more time around them in the future, which might lead to them eventually just figuring it out. But by that time, they'll like other things about you, enough that they won't be scared off. That's much better than trying to explain what AS is AND THEN hoping that the sharing of this info will help. The only people who want to know you have it are the ones with ill intent.
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Why be a label, be yourself and keep others guessing instead. - Dee_.