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15 Oct 2008, 9:41 am

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What bad advice have people given you in relation to social difficulties?



"Be more Christ-like." What kind of Christ? The one who knotted a cord and whipped the money-changers until they left the temple? The one who told the people to let the children come to him? The one who let himself be whipped, beaten, and then nailed to a cross to die in the desert sun?


The one who rose above all that and used the experience to teach us to be compassionate to each other. He had a long row to hoe back then, and still does.



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15 Oct 2008, 5:27 pm

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8. Name it and Claim it. (Yes, that theology is still rife).


Gah! By the blood of Jesus, right? As long as it's in Jesus' name, it's good and right... (puke)
f****n' stupid. Anti-everything Christ ever stood for.


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15 Oct 2008, 5:45 pm

Eat your carrots, it will make your hair curly.



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16 Oct 2008, 5:37 am

To egnore my son's behaviour of handflapping and biting because he's proberly attention seeking.
Now we are waiting for an assesment for an ASD.



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16 Oct 2008, 8:06 am

But the ultimate bad advice anyone can give me is: "Hurry up." I'm at my worst when I'm being rushed.



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16 Oct 2008, 8:56 am

Here is the worst one:

"They're just words."


Don't they realize words hurt just as much?



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16 Oct 2008, 2:44 pm

cataspie wrote:
To egnore my son's behaviour of handflapping and biting because he's proberly attention seeking.
Now we are waiting for an assesment for an ASD.


Sheesh! In this day and age?! that just makes me mad.



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16 Oct 2008, 2:56 pm

mysterious_misfit wrote:
I thought of another one:

"Just talk! Say whatever you're thinking."

Yeah, that would work if only my mind didn't go completely blank every time someone looks at me.

:oops: :?:


I've gotten that one so many times along with it's variants,

"people will like you if you just open up more"

"just talk about what everyone else is talking about"

and my personal fav:

"It's not that hard. Just walk up to people, and start talking."

I tried that on the rare occasions that I could think of something to say. It did not go well.



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16 Oct 2008, 3:07 pm

"Anyone who makes fun of you is just jealous."

Yeah, people think my poor social skills and orthodontia are totally rad.

"Stop overreacting."

"You could do it if you only tried."


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16 Oct 2008, 9:42 pm

And the one who tells me that I can do it if I only try is often involved in preventing me from doing it.



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17 Oct 2008, 3:19 am

cataspie wrote:
To egnore my son's behaviour of handflapping and biting because he's proberly attention seeking.
Now we are waiting for an assesment for an ASD.

Much of bad advice I've come across in life were from biased NTs who think they could pass for a doctor or psychologist (but fail miserably).



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17 Oct 2008, 3:19 am

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And the one who tells me that I can do it if I only try is often involved in preventing me from doing it.

Yep, completely same here!



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17 Oct 2008, 3:20 am

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"Don't dwell on it." This came from the people who would force the same garbage down my throat every day.

yep, same here too. My mom is bad about that.

Also I agree with what everyone has said regarding bullying.