How much do you talk?

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I was an extremely quiet child when I was growing up and still don't say much outside of performing my job duties. However, at worst, others think I might be slow but most think I'm bashful or like to keep to myself.

I think there's a cultural difference in how people view men and women who're quiet. While it's easier to apply the "serial killer" or "arrogant" stereotype to men since they're supposed to be aggressive and outgoing, females are considered "well behaved" and "poised" if they don't talk very much. Little girls are expected to be obedient and not make waves while women are often looked down on as being b****es if they speak their minds.

I talk too little normally, then when drunk i talk too much. I think this is because i am not distracted by all(and there are a LOT) the painful memories that came from me talking as much.

I talk too little, drunk or not.

When you talk and get scarred, you quickly learn that it's safer to shut up.

Thanks for all the responses guys. To answer a couple of questions, I meant "how much do you talk" in real life, out loud - not online or in writing. I was also referring to talking to other people, not yourself. (Although that is an interesting distinction because I too talk to myself a lot but I don't talk much to other people.) And like some other people have mentioned, I can say a lot more in writing, things that would never come out when I'm talking. It's like hearing from a whole different person - my husband calls my writing "the real Amy".

Far too much when with friends. Then when I'm excited I pity everyone around me! And when I get going on an obsessive topic ... At home though I hardly talk at all, and when not with friends it's the same.

too little!! ! i got my hair cut today and i hate all the small talk that goes on (i don't get it cut too often!!). anyway, i get up in the chair and she starts in and i'm not talking. she finally asks if i have a job, i said no i'm disabled. so that shut things up for quite some time. then she asked if i had any kids, i said yeah three. she asked how old, so i told her 16, 15, and 9. so then she goes on about how teens think so differently. i said yeah. and that was about the end of the conversation for the whole time she cut my hair. i was glad to be done!! !!
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Interesting to read the replies. When I'm tired or stressed and I try to talk it always ends up a mess, so I try not too talk at these times. Most of the time I say too little. Sometimes I'm aware I'm going on too much and showing my oddness (mostly get too caught up in irrelevent detail, too pedantic.)

At the hairdresser's... that's when I talk so much I almost start rambling incoherently.

My hair is longer so I don't get it cut very often, and when I do it's done by a friend so that's not too much of a problem. My husband does remind me to chat with her more though - he says I look like I'm dead when I'm sitting in the hairdresser's chair. I do get my eyebrows waxed once every 2-3 weeks and I hate the hairdresser small talk that goes with that. (Not my usual hairdresser.) I get the same person to do it every time and I'm pretty sure she's at least a bit aspie. She's really quiet - she sometimes tries a bit of small talk but only if I'm getting into it too. Some days I go through the whole appointment with neither of us saying a word! The other thing I like about her is that she follows a definite routine so I know exactly what to expect - what she's going to do and when. I'd get her to cut my hair too if I didn't already have a friend doing it.

I now live with four aspies, and they all talk differently.
My husband talks about his obsession all the time, with a few other subjects, he wakes talking and doesn't stop till his asleep.
My son hardly ever talks, when he does it's always worth listening too and he makes some great wise cracks.
My daughter talks about phycology, and she anaylizes everything. She talks most of the time, but it's interesting stuff. She also talks to her boyfriend.
The forth person is her boyfriend, he talks mainly to her, but it's possible to get a good conversation from them both as long as it's about something specific, neither talk for the sake of talking.
Me I'm Nt and sometimes I long for the small talk, so I phone my mum. I do like to talk about different things, and they don't have to be important.
Over the years though I don't talk as much as I used too because my family don't do small talk.

According to most people, I don't talk enough. According to those I am really close to, I never stop talking. I have a lot to say, but I don't tell it to people I am not comfortable with.

Just yesterday evening a friend of mine remarked that I "don't talk too much". But she said it affectionately.

No, I don't talk much, but there are advantages to that. I've developed a laconic sort of wit.

I talk a great deal to myself, very little to others. Much more online than in person or on the phone. I'm quite dissappointing on the phone...unless you get me on a favourite topic and then I am difficult to stop from talking.

With people I'm comfortable they say once I get on a topic I like they cant stop me but in general not much to other people.Tomyself or my dog plenty

In that case. Very very little. I speak mostly when spoken to, say what needs to be said and am done with it.
When I was a child people would often ask my mother if I knew how to talk because I didn't in public and rarely did at home. And when I was living in Richmond last year a lot of people probably assumed I was deaf and mute because I didn't understand enough of what was said to me most of the time to formulate a response. The environment was often far too loud and well, I have yet to be able to understand a majority of slang.

i didn't speak until i was three years old. my mom says people were concerned there was something wrong with me, but she didn't think so. as a child, my older sister would often speak for me because i was so shy.