Does the Normal Life Bore You?

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The progression from school to work to retirement to death strikes me as boring and dull. I've lived too uninteresting a life so far, and I don't even have the memories to look back on. Instead I have a drab, rather undifferentiated experience of the passage of time. Work bores me; it pays the bills, sure, but it can be painfully dull to sit in an office in front of a computer doing something relatively meaningless to me. My current job is better than past jobs, but it seems the bulk of mind is still rather unengaged because it only uses a part of the logical, procedural mind. Outside of work, I'm not meeting people, and frankly I get too bored at home sometimes to do anything meaningful alone—I get in such a rut that it can be hard to motivate myself to clean up so that the place isn't turning into a cobweb-infested, crummy mess.

It seems the dullness causes my mind to shut off and just stop caring.

Consequence of the unrewarding aspie lifestyle and friendlessness? Anyone similar?

Yep, I'm similar. Never thought to wonder if this is typical for us.

Dear NeantHumain,

What about aspie interests? Something to occupy your free time, maybe in a creative way, maybe outdoors in nature, maybe an interest that there's a club with events you could go to? (Or maybe just events without having to attend actual club meetings.)

What about dreams or life goals? When you're sitting in the boring old office (I can relate) ... Where do you dream about travelling? Why not go there on vacation? Ever try staying at a bed and breakfast?

Friendlessness? True enough, that can happen ... Particularly to aspies (I can relate). I've resigned myself to walking the path of life pretty much in a solitary manner. That said, God has brought a couple of aspies into my life in the past year or so ... Sure they're long distance, met them on the internet but now we talk on the phone and have sent snail mail ... But they're close and very meaningful friends who have been incredibly rewarding to my life.

So, what kinds of things are you into, if I may ask?

~~ the phoenix

I'm kinda similar, where I feel I'm just waiting around to die, and I know I don't have as many great experiences to look back on as the average person.

Normal life is quite boring to me, that's why I'm an actor, because I get to escape from my life and be someone else for awhile. It's pretty sweet. :D

Normal life has always bored me. Even now i work 4pm-12 (or 2am), so by the time i get home im not tired, and by the time i get up its usually 2pm, so i got no time to go out and do anything.

Then come the weekend, im usually so used to sleeping in late that i still dont get up early enough to do anything. Theres plenty of things i Do want to do, but they take planning and money, very hard to set in motion. Also, everything i do end up taking on, i get eventually bored of, for example i took a furniture making course on saturdays. First 2 classes were awesome, 3rd class was alright, 4th class i didnt bother going to; i slept in, 5th class i went for an hour and a half then went home, 6th and last class i didnt bother.


So many times i have started things and got bored of, everything that sounds fun eventually becomes boring and pointless, sad to say it might be the reason i have no goals in life, everytime i get half way there i dont want it anymore. How can you get things you want when everytime you almost have it, you dont want it anymore?

A life of just work and going home is very unfilfilling. I recently forced myself to join a drama group for disabled people and it's been the best thing for me in years. Other people recognise I exist now. I'm awkward around the other people in the group but am accepted enough.

The best part is performing in front of schools and colleges. Despite the nerves, it's heartwarming when someone comes up to you and says you're brilliant. Even though I haven't a clue what to say back usually. But I won't lie and say my life is hunky dory. I think the consumerist society that's existed since Thatcher and Reagan is still plaguing us today although thankfully the recession is giving it a hard bout and beginning to put it in its place.

The hope is that eventually all the battles for awareness of people who are outsiders like Aspies will begin to be noticed once people have time to listen. Life is basically alright for most people in the societies we belong to: most people in first world countries have warm enough homes, decent clothes, electricity and access to plenty of information and choices. As soon as people can stop being overwhelmingly self-indulgent there's hope we'll have a social renaissance of a kind never seen where elderly people, mentally ill people, autistic people, learning disabled people and physically disabled people all become more generally accepted and accomodated by society.

Not only does a normal life bore me, I can't stand it.

The idea of my entire life being just...get a job, find someone, get married, have kids, grow old die. I'd rather just grow straight to the end and just die.

My healths poor.

There are not jobs out there that I know of that excite me, or hopes, there's nothing that I'm qualified for or good at (well talking, but outsides of my parents that would mean talking to other people, which I hate!).

The only obsession/passion I have at the moment is Doctor Who, which will end when Stephen Moffett takes over as I hate his writing.

And since I don't plan on getting married (I think it's outdated, why can't a person just decide to spend the rest of their life together, what's it got to do with anyone else) and I don't plan on having kids. There's not much...scratch that anything to live for.

If It wasn't for the fact that It would hurt my parents I'd end it.

i guess im just hanging out until i leave this reality until the next. fortunatley great gemstones and landscapes acompany me along the way also i dont think life is ment to be so serious. its finding what you like to do alog the way

You only mention the main milestones of life. Sure, they may be boring on their own, but it's what's you find time to do in between that counts. Relationships, parties, sports, social gatherings, nights at the movies, fast cars, marriage, children, dances, vacations. Get what I'm saying? Life's not boring if you stop focusing on work. Few people like their jobs, but they're what 1) keeps us financially alive and 2) (hopefully) provides the necessary funding to neutralize the boredom of day-to-day life, if only for a few hours or minutes.

Yes and I'm realizing this for the first time.

Our lives aren't that long when you really think about it. It also seems repetitious and dull. All the chances we could've had while looking back are gone....

Kidding I guess no one's ever too old to have fun. It's just that some of us are late bloomers, I believe I'll be alone for the rest of my life but that's ok, I accept this seemingly unfair fate of mine. Just like when Joan of Arc had to be burned to the stake. We all have to make sacrifices just for the well-being of..of..others....

i have the same ideology,.

Yes.

In naturalism there's a term, "extremophile" - a species that not only survives, but flourishis in environments dangerous or deadly to almost all other species. I identify with that.

It's the ordinary that crushes me. The normal world that I can't handle.

I have fanatsies about what I would do if say, a zombie apocalypse befell the world tomorrow. I think I'd be the one who'd survive and thrive and lead the rest. Because to my mind, it wouldn't be that much more difficult than getting a job and paying bills and buying stuff and eating healthy and all the other crap NT's seem to do on autopilot. I'd have the advantage that this situation wouldn't be any more alien to me than balancing a cheque book or sorting out my taxes.

The dead walking the Earth... At least it'd be different!

I'm just 14 so I havent experienced much for myself but I have always wondered how people put up with that boring crap.

I, for one, am going to make my own computer software business. I am learning C at the moment.

Normal life is completely pointless in my opinion. I can't see how people can tolerate being on this world and really accomplishing nothing. Look at the world, ants with mixed emotions abut trivial little problems.

Then again I tend to view things from a re-incarnation point of view.

I'm not saying i'm not affected by trivial problems because I am... very much so. But, big picture.