Did your parents take away your obsession?

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My mom took away my blocks and my toddle tots at some point. Pretty much though I just focused on doing things on the computer - that's always been something that I've been able to do without getting into conflicts with my parents.

My parents have never taken away anything related to my obsessions. My mom actually encourages it and lets me talk about it for as long as I like, and she lets me use my extra money to buy things related to my obsessions. Sometimes my dad worries about the impact that my obsessions have on my spiritual life, though, and my mom has to remind him that my obsessions never have a higher priority than my relationship with God. Sometimes I worry that my dad will take away my Hellsing stuff because of its potentially offensive themes and imagery, but I think he would have taken it away by now if he was really concerned about it (I've been obsessed with it for 2 years and counting).

I never talk about stuff being an object of my interest with mom (mostly because she doesn’t have any knowledge of ANYTHING but things she is professionally engaged in at work) so she thinks (told me so) that... I don’t have any interests. Really .

I was the same way. Just give me a Transformer toy and allow me watch the cartoon and I was happy along with the GI Joe cartoon. I did had a few dolls, mostly a Rainbow Brite doll and a few Magic Nursary dolls (did not care for Barbie).

Lol, it’s also my case. But it was before I was an adolescent, when I was about 8-11. And also with this difference that I never talked about this issue at public because I realized this sort of interest wasn’t found appropriate for a child by adults.

A few years ago I was obsessed with the band Queen. My parents hated that. I was so obsessed that I would was extremely depressed for several months about Freddie Mercury's death. I never stopped talking about them, my life revolved around them...the whole aspie thing....My mom threatened several times to take away my posters, dvds, tapes, videos, cds, cassettes, clothes with Queen symbols on them, everything. She never did.

I've noticed in the parents forums, there are parents who think they can discipline their Autie/Aspie children like you discipline an NT child. They've talked about taking their child's obsession away. Even here a mother claims her son is being over-dramatic, and playing a martyr, after saying his mom might as well "throw him out of a window" if she's not going to let him use the computer:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp1940983.html#1940983

Look at the post I posted and the one directly below it. Fascinating how the mother accuses her son of going into "martyr mode" when she's playing the Martyr Mommy herself. "I do everything I can. How dare you say I'm not doing well, you don't know how much I suffer!" She claims providing for her son will turn him into a monster. Clearly her lack of real care or concern for his needs, is what will turn him into a monster. Either that or she'll be surprised seeing her son come home as a junkie, cause the drugs provide the comfort his mother never allowed him to have.

I do limit DS-Lite time to 1 hour/day (although I'm not too much a hardass about it). There wasn't a time limit to start with but, unlike his other obsessions, he was continuing until he would wet his pants. Holding your bladder like that can lead to serious health problems, at the extreme they are life threatening.

Lack of access to the DS-Lite is also used as a consequence for the same, and for refusing to put away his DS-Lite at the end of the time allotment (and once for throwing it at me in anger because he didn't want to stop). We don't like using lack of access as a consequence for unrelated actions, trying not to leverage him too hard like that.

Fortunately, at this point, he tends to either have fairly constructive obsessions (printing, reading, writing, drawing) or cycle through the obsession over a period of months. He is also getting better at setting something aside, it's a key skill he's focusing on right now.

Perhaps it's just me being a gamer, but how is playing a game, that is learning to use puzzle solving skills, reading skills, ect any less constructive than printing, reading, writing, or drawing. Oh and that also reminds me, since the DS has a touch screen, there are aspects of it that play into drawing skills too.

If you don't like using a lack of access as a consequence, try something else then? I tell you I'd be upset if I weren't able to play my DS Lite, but then again I don't spend like hours on it unless it's a new game. The issue seems more about the distractedness from needing to use the bathroom, not the Nintendo system. Has he forgotten to use the washroom printing, reading, writing, or drawing? Have you taken away those expressive outlets from him too when he does so?

I'm going to calm down a bit here, and chalk this up to perhaps a issue regarding generation gap. That you really don't see all the skills video games can enhance in someone, and that the new fangled technology must be a waste of time, cause when you were a kid you managed to get by without it and yadda yadda. So welcome to the 22nd century, people use electronics all the time. You can't force your son to live in your idealized past.

nope. When I was about pre-school age, I was obsessed with snakes and dinosaurs (dinosaurs continued until I was about 8 or so, and I still like them to a certain extent. Hell, I just made dinosaur-shaped gingerbread cookies today), and my mom just took that as I was really smart for my age, so she encouraged it. I remember going to the library and getting non-fiction books about those things, mostly dinosaurs, which I'd make my mom read to me since I couldn't read well yet (this was before I even started kindergarten). Whenever I get all emo and complain about how stupid I am, she sites the fact that I could tell you everything you'd ever want to know about snakes or dinosaurs when I was only like 3 or 4 as proof that I'm smart, so I think she's actually proud of that or something.
I'm 19, and I have dinosaurs in my room (which is my boyfriend's fault, since he got me this dinosaur skeleton thing for my birthday, so I decided to start collecting those. haha).

They tried to take away my computers. You can imagine how that worked out.

*rolls eyes*
Try actually reading and trying to understand the posts instead of creating a "straw man" and making that the subject of your attack.

I'm not sure if I had an obsession until I was in high school. I spent most of my time in my room, with my stuffed animals lined-up, singing along to my Beatles records. I was pretty obsessive about that, but I was too shy to talk about it or sing outside of my own room, and I don't remember it interfering with school or anything like that. I would rather listen to my records than play with other kids, but my mom didn't see that as strange, since she's always been the same way.

In high school, my obsession was Stevie Nicks and Fleetwood Mac. I had posters of them (mostly Stevie) on every square inch of wall. I sometimes felt the need to play the records where my mom would have to hear it, because I really wanted her to hear and appreciate it they way I did. But I think I just came across as an annoying teenager. My mom left when I was 15, though (not because of me), and my dad paid no attention to me at all because he was of the mind that teenagers should raise themselves. He was too busy fart-assing around with his skanky new wife. (Sorry. Didn't like her.)

My own AS son's obsessions are much more invasive and noticeable. I understand AS and don't try to take them away. However, I can understand how parents might think they are doing it for your own good. Parents get tons of advice from all angles, and if the neighbors, mother-in-law, and everyone else is saying, "He misbehaves and has trouble at school because you let him keep that candy-wrapper collection! You're the parent! You need to put your foot down and make him do some normal stuff"...well, that's a lot of pressure. Sometimes parents think they are doing what's best, because they really don't understand.

Don't worry about her. She did the same thing in another thread in the Random Discussion board. She took words out of contexts and puts words in peoples mouths.

Are you having fun hating on me? Perhaps you two could take your little hate-fest to pm.

Is it really wrong to mention someone when I say don't worry about them?