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sebbs
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24 Dec 2008, 7:23 pm

Amicitia wrote:
elderwanda wrote:
I just feel like when that moment of clarity comes, I'll be able to successfully organize my house and my life, and keep it that way. I'll be able to find important papers when I need them, prepare balanced meals for my kids each evening, plan for the future (immediate and distant), and make the most of myself.


I don't think this is an AS thing. I think it's a kind of procrastination stemming from fear - that the thing you want to do will be hard, that your attempts to do it will fail, or even that you'll succeed and then find that it doesn't make you a better or happier person.

If people didn't have this, they wouldn't make New Year's resolutions. They would begin to take action as soon as they realized that there was something about themselves they wanted to change.

Don't read this as an attack, but - You want to cook better meals for your kids? Study nutrition. Get cookbooks. Go to the store and buy better things to cook with. Magical inspiration is not going to descend from the sky and give you the knowledge and energy to change what you put on the table.

I'm not saying that taking steps to change yourself is easy. But waiting for some unknown "moment of clarity" to come along and make everything better is not an effective way of accomplishing your goals.

Don't wait. Start now. Good luck. :)



ah this was what i meant :D
you put it in writing perfectly :D


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25 Dec 2008, 4:54 am

All the time. It's like I know what I want to say but just...can't



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27 Dec 2008, 4:59 pm

I've had trouble feeling "stuck" for the last several years, but I thought it was just fear or laziness or whatever. Every time I try to update my resume or organize my room better or get on a schedule or decide on a new career, I get stuck. Sometimes my thoughts get muddy if I sit for too long, and walking around a bit helps them circulate better. Maybe that's why I've started a blog more times than I can count, and failed.

It's a relief to know that I'm not weird for feeling stuck. My family and friends have waited for YEARS for me to leave my old job, to move forward in life (sort of like that Beyonce song "Upgrade") and it seems like I'm stuck in my early 20's, in terms of lifestyle.