Did I finally do something "normal"?

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It was my birthday the other day, and because I share the same birthday with my boss, he is usually the one to buy cakes for the people in the office, which is the custom where I work.

This year I offered to do it because he is going through a rough time, so I bought some cakes & emailed everyone telling them where they were & to come help themselves (which was imitating what other people have done in the past).

I was so amazed by all the really friendly emails I got wishing me "Happy Birthday", some of them from people I hardly ever even talk to. I feel like they suddenly "accepted" me because I did something that was expected of me socially.

Now I am wondering how much friendship I have been missing out on by keeping to myself so much, but I still don't know how to change and act like an NT all the time!

Trust me it doesn't work that way. One incident changes nothing in the long run unless maybe it's huge.

Yes, I realise that.

What I mean is, I feel I suddenly had a glimpse of the NT world, & it felt so warm & friendly! But it was only a glimpse, because I don't know how to prop that door open!! !

Happy late birthday! you'll probably start getting friends if you open up and start talking(ugh!) It works so I at least try every once in awhile.

It's like this for me too. I get some glimpse in from the cold now and then, but my general impression is to be locked out in the cold. That does not bother me so much, cause I like it, to be alone.
Now, it might be a matter of training, to socialice but you always do it on the others terms, not your own. Means, that you can fake to be social, but you ain't. I also realize that it's sometimes nescessary to appear as a social person, for various reasons. So training in socialising is a good thing, as long as you keep the real you in it all the time. In short, we are talking pretending.