Speaking without thinking first

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This happens to me some time, can give me trouble some times if i begin to insult people for no reason and ask people of same sex to have sex with me, even i am not really intrested, i am lucky to not have been beaten up or worse. Anyone know what could be the reason for this and how to control it?

This used to happen to me all the time but now it only happens sometimes but luckily people don't get mad at me anymore like they used to.


I had to get treatment for this through occupational therapy to slow my brain down.

I used to have this issue, but not anymore.

I didn't know treatment for things like this existed! I would benefit from this because I do this all the time.

You're not alone, I have this problem too. I think it's because we don't want to appear slow and stupid, so we automatically say something--anything--when we're on the spot. Of course, if you end up saying something that sounds rude or stupid, then it's no better, but it happens anyway.
I don't know what advice to give you, I mean ideally you want to have time to process your thoughts before speaking, but this isn;t always possible.

I have this problem as well. It gets worse when I'm excited. I usually "control" it by just shutting up.... of course that usually brings about the side effect of having people think that I am mentally challanged which isn't much better.

this is an ongoing issue for me that i try to keep an eye on. it is tiring as my natural inclination is to blurt and monologue at times - particularly when in a social setting. One thing that does help is to increase stimming - so i have a choice - either blather on and offend or do fairly strange stimming behaviours with fingers and hands, arms and shoulders and with back twists..

not much of a choice.

third option: stay home

Once when I was a kid, but I didn't even know what sex meant back then.

Now I think about it but I know such thoughts are not good, so I try to shake the thoughts from my mind.

I have the opposite problem. I overthink things to the point that they don't come out as they should.

I much prefer people think that I am mentally challenged than to say something dumb and confirm it. At least people who know me know the difference.

I speak without thinking... and speak even though I have thought and decided against saying something.

But I don't insult others impulsively.

I'm more like:

'Don't say it. Don't say it. Just be quiet.' is what I'm thinking to myself but then my mouth opens anyway and I loudly blurt out something like 'Did you know that...'

Urgh.

What a stupid trait.

I wish I wouldn't do that.

I do this but mine is very specific. Basically I say what I am thinking withoout stopping to think of if it is 'negative' or 'insulting' or if someone else may take offense. I need to make myself stop and think about those things but I really am not sure how to do so and how to determine if something is offensive or not. People seem to take offense at the weirdest things

But at the same time I often hear about people who 'say things that they don't mean' when they are upset. I do not do this. If I think someone is a bastard, I will say so. But I will not take it back later saying "Oh I didn't mean that, I was just upset." I don't understand how people can do this and claim that they don't mean it. IMO the truth just comes out easier when your inhibitions are lowered due to anger.

That I do do... I hate the fact that I will add things randomly to a conversation that has nothing to do with the conversation... Oh look, a birdy... Anyways, if a conversation were intellegent I wouldn't add random things to it because I would be more curious about what they were saying than -- Oh look, there is a birdy in the window! -- I hope that makes sense.

I do this.. it doesn't always have to do with not being interested in the conversation.. sometimes I am just preocupied with my own focus and I will still be thinking of it as others speak so I will interject something regarding what I am thinking about.
These days it's usually something havign to do with this forum

Thats the better way of describing that. But the more engrossing aconversation is for me, the less likely it is to happen.

Have been situation where it was funny too, like when my telephone alarm rings 10 at night when i train football, i instantly say it is my walkup call, made all laugh

Or when i have been threatend, i say without thinking things like "you know where i live, if you want to beat me up. Surprised the person to reveal his plans out loud so more heared it"