Interesting thread.
There does seem to be a significant difference between being shy around a few people, as in conversation, and being shy giving while a performance in front of large groups.
I've always been very shy around individuals and small groups, usually wanting to avoid direct conversation. I feel like there is too much at stake in terms of making social errors and damaging relationships.
Performing in front of large groups has never been a problem for me. It's like an entirely different part of my brain is switched on when I am playing music or acting or teaching in front of a group, however large.
I've played in lots of different bands and ensembles, in many different venues, playing various styles of music (jazz, rock, blues, folk, orchestral, symphonic), for many different kinds of audiences. When I am performing, I am in control, expressive, and vibrantly alive. But as soon as I'm done, Lord help me if someone comes up to me and tries to have a conversation. I freeze up and have nothing to say.
I have similar tendencies with acting and teaching, which are similar activities to me. I can get really into character, mimicking voices and gestures, to achieve a dramatic effect. But take me out of the performance context, and I am clueless as to how to speak and behave.
This is a really curious phenomenon. I can't wait to hear from more aspie performers...
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