Research: Aspie Humor sometimes innopropirate?

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My sense of humor is definitely not typical of the general population. I can embarass my wife with my humor. Not too long ago we were eating at a nice restaurant that wasn't very busy. This man was leaving and passed our table. His cell phone went off. Just as he was opening the door to leave he said "Hello" fairly loudly on the phone...and I said fairly loudly, "Good-bye." There were people sitting at the table next to ours so they must have heard me. My wife laughed, but she was embarassed.

My sense of humor is described by some as dry, and off-the-wall by others. I kind of catch people off guard with it. I don't socialize much, but when I am in a social situation I frequently use humor. The basic chit-chat just doesn't work well with me. At my job (I am a gifted intervention specialist at a high school) I often do photo shop projects of fellow teachers when they mess up at something. I use copy-paste a lot. For example, one of the teachers who had parking lot duty messed up in directing students out of the lot after school. So I photo-shopped his face on Barney Fife's body from the famous Andy Griffith episode where Barney was directing traffic.

Well, I voted no (and at this time I seem to be the only one) because I don't think my humor is ill-willed or suggesting of malice in some way (in the dark, sick, and twisted sense). Sure, I might laugh when everyone is acting serious or laugh and do things from time to time for not much reason other people can understand (perhaps this falls under the not being able to empathize with people from not getting the subtle body language) and it all might appear inappropriate (in the case of laughing at something that I see as ironic or silly when connected with my thoughts that others obviously won't be seeing), but for me to vote yes I would feel I would have to truly believe, in my mind, that I want some kind of harm or pain put on people; and for me when I feel raw emotion I get overwhelmed and need to disengage and evaluate the feelings I felt and what just happened and try to figure out what it might have been that caused me to feel so negative.

**On second thought I should have voted yes. I think I confused dark, sick, and twisted with someone having some form of malice in their humor. I should have voted yes if the poster can change my vote to yes. The reason being I remembered someone saying once that the virginia tech shooter didn't kill enough people, that if someone was going to go on a killing spree that it would be easier to do better and that he could; and when someone else laughed I knew it was okay to show that I found the idea humorous as well because he had a good point and I laughed and never thought about it again until now. I do this a lot in my head, but I'm good at only laughing about certain things when I'm around people who I feel are open-minded and generally non-judgmental.

i definately dont have dark humor but theres stuff i say that people laugh sometimes and i really dont think its funny but i end up laughing too.
i like to laugh at the weirdest stuff too not sophisticated and confusing jokes.
i think the word fart is funny idk im weird....

I like shows like Celebrity Deathmatch and Superjail

When someone asks me, “Do you work?” I reply, “Yes... why? Do I look broken?”

ha!

Yes I do have quite a twisted sense of humour, also quite sarcastic.And it can aslo be very immature and me and my aspie friend often make stupid word plays and jokes up about un funny things, like in science once we watched this darwin documentary and david attenburough said "layer upon layer..." and it sounded like "lair upon lair" and we started giggling our heads off and kept repeating "lair upon lair..." for ages.
I am also a fan of satire, especially contraversial style satire like when serious stuff is made fun of.

from the response I get from others, I would have to say yes

I really dont care what others call it, it's all humor I dont use mine any more, after my parents started to find it really offensive i stoped, now i just keep it in mind

Language is often meant to be in a way, but I accidentally look objectively at it.
I think it's funny when someone says something like: 'I'm pretty content.'
My reaction will be something like this:
'Oh so you're the pretty kind of content? Are you content in general?:P"

'Oh come on, Hitler also thought he was doing the right thing:P' can be shocking to people. But it explaines a bit to me that good intentions aren't always to trust..
Should he be called 'you know who' ?
I also talk abouth death, and make fun of it, because it's something that connects us all, so the least bit of shocking to me.
I just 'like' to confront myself with the/a god awful truth..

And offcourse the famous words of Al Gore:

'Come on you guys, I'm serial!'

And Scott Tenorman Must Die, what a genius piece of morbid humor:D:D.

No way! I prefer corny jokes.

I haven't been criticized for my sense of humor directly, but I have had many people very clearly not understand I *was* joking. I find when I say something innocently and honestly, people burst out laughing, but if I actually go out of my way to make joke, it comes off clumsy and offensive. I usually know I have said something amazingly wrong when I get the "look" - that confused grimace that I have seen on almost everyone I have ever known from time to time when I have attempted deliberate humor. Then I spend the few minutes explaining that I wasn't advocating ....<fill in the blank> and that I have the greatest respect for <fill in the blank> sigh somedays I just want to be like Wyle E. Coyote and hold up a sign that says something along the lines of "joking in progress, please step back to a safe distance", it might save me a lot of trouble in the long run...

I think all "Aspies" as we call ourselves at times have the capactity for what one may call a "sick twisted sence of humour"

Becuase of our:
- lack of understanding with regards to what is socially acceptable
- out ability to see things at face value and litrally

consiquently, we have a nasty sence of humour, to what would be described as "Socially Acceptable"

People didn't think it was funny when we had Chinese food, and I said, "Does that greasy-Chinese-food smell hover over all of China? No wonder they have to arrest people for complaining too much!" COME ON! If Jeremy Clarkson had said it people would have laughed!

my sense of humor is very basic, but people never see the reason i think it is funny.

there are many phases of my humor, and none of them are infectious to others.
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1. "immediate" sense of humor. this is where i suddenly laugh at a situation currently happening. i could not suppress it even if i was bowing in front of the queen.
it usually happens when i know i am not allowed to laugh. like in situations where i am expected to be solemn.

example: my friend (girl), who was watching TV (because she was tired) at my place, saw a story about someone she liked, meeting the queen of england.
the person she was watching had the "privilege" of meeting the queen. the people the queen was greeting were all standing in a line.
they were all so well behaved, and fawning over her in a sycophantic way.
i imagined myself in that line, and i imagined "i was not sure who i was going to "meet" because i forgot".
i imagined it became my turn to be "hand shook", and i would say in the snobbiest way i could muster "goodness gracious you are a tiny little thing aren't you. Betty Windsor is it?"

i started to giggle, and my friend was annoyed that i failed to pay attention to the person she was interested in seeing meet the queen.

another example: i went to a meeting in brisbane with my female boss "judy" to see if we could secure a contract. after the meeting, the boss of that company asked us up to his office and he said that he was satisfied and was going to sign a contract.

all throughout the meeting, he was very articulate and eloquent. he was a picture of a confident boss with greying hair and lots of authority.
when we got to his office upstairs later he started a sentence and suddenly crashed into a serious stutter.

he said "well judy and mark, i think we're pretty much on board with this, so what i'll do is get janet to type up the final propppppp propp prop prop pro pro pro ppp ppp ppp pp pp pp". ("proposal" i guess he was going to say)

i immediately tried to prevent laughing by closing off my soft palate so no air could escape from my lungs. i could not do it, and i snorted into extreme laughter and ran out of his office. i did not know what else to do because if i had stayed there and seen the expression on his face in response to my reaction, i would have been paralytic with convulsions of laughter, and that would be worse.
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another example: when i was recently pulled over for a breath test by a random RBT, the policeman asked be to blow into the tube. he leaned down and looked at me with a stern face and he was a very grizzled looking man of about 55. the lines on his face amused me. normally they would not amuse me, but i was in a situation where if i started to laugh, i would pay dearly for it, and then i seemed to see everything as absurdly funny.
it is almost a subconscious masochism, or another form of pre-conscious self destructivity.

when he said "blow into the tube please sir?" i imagined saying in a gay sounding voice "oooh dear thir, not here by the thide of the road" (i imagined that i misconstrued his request as a sexual proposition). i imagined his reaction of hauling me out of the car if i behaved that way, and i started to smirk.

he repeated that he wanted me to blow, and i blew, but i started laughing as i blew into the tube. he took it back and asked "what do you think is funny sir ?!" . then i imagined that i mistook his question for him asking me to tell him some good jokes.
i laughed at that too, but i knew i was getting into trouble, and even that seemed somehow funny (due to the absurdity of an NT getting wound up and confused in something that is innocent that they can not understand).
i was asked to get out of the car and i finally got bored with him and calmed down and blew correctly into the tube, and the reading was 0 so they let me go, but police are always suspicious of things they can not understand (which is a lot of things).

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2. "intermediate" sense of humour.
an example is where i watch TV (rare occasions) with other people i am with that all shut up to listen to something they find important.

situational example: at my girlfriends parents house where i was obliged to have dinner a few weeks ago, there was a story on the news that was about 3 teenagers that were killed in a toyota .. something or other.. and they lost control going around a corner and smashed into a tree.

tammy's mother said "shhh!! !" to everyone when that story came on.
she looked very serious and concerned.
as they showed pictures of the dead teenagers (live pictures from better times that is), she gasped and said "oh my god!! what a waste!! those beautiful, beautiful boys!! !".

at the end of the news clip they again showed the upside down toyota (that was demolished by the impact) with 5 rescue workers walking around it.
i imagined they all suddenly jumped up and punched the air in slow motion to the jingle "oh what a feeling!! ! toyota!". i actually verbalized (sang) that jingle under my breath, but everyone heard it and her mother said to her father "do we have to put up with this???! !! !! !".

her father said to me "mate!! ! keep your thoughts to yourself OK?!?!?".
i imagined retorting with "i do! you have not got any of them in your possession". this thought did not make me smirk, but i must have had a glazed look of defiance in my eye because her father said "ok mate. i think it's time to go".
i agreed and as i walked out, i thought "you are so correct! it was time to go before i even got here", and i started to smirk at that, but thankfully the door closed behind me and they did not follow me to my car with attempted gabble.
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3. self created single line "jokes".
i can not do it. i have tried, but i can not think of brief witty things that can make anyone laugh.

one example of a Q & A joke i made up is:

Q: what is the similarity between "riding a horse" and "having just enough dinosaurs (therapods)?"
A: you have no spare tire, an' a sore ass.

no one ever found that funny even though i explained it.

like you have "no spare tire an' a sore ass" when you ride a horse,
but you have "no spare tyrannosaurus" if you have just enough dinosaurs.

heh...heh...hmmm
i will not post any more one liner things.
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4. role playing humour.
there are types of people that are so stupid that i find them funny. sometimes i play an acting role where i assume their identity and try to say silly things i can imagine them saying. like toothless idiots on "springer" etc.
i never lose my real identity, but i let myself go into characters that mimic the short sightedness (complete with accents etc) of those that i find hilariously misinformed, and who are now passionate advocates of their misinformation.

an example was when there was a story about michelle obama in london, and it said "she stole the show".
i remarked in a southern hick character accent "well she's a colored woman, they'll steal anything 's' not nailed down."

i found it hilarious (i was alone), but i know if ever i said anything like that in public, i could never explain myself. i do not obviously think that about m.obama, i just think that some flimsy funny brains would arrive at that conclusion, and when i mimic them, i find it hilarious to experience.
i never found anyone who can see why i find it funny.
that is just one example as i am already way too verbose here.

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5. imaginative humour.

i like to imagine scenarios that make me laugh. they usually involve some sort of shock factor that i impose upon NT's. i think it is because i find their facial expressions of puzzlement the most amusing of all.

anyway, one example:

a person gets an expensive "baby" replica doll. it moves like a baby and it's skin looks like a baby's.
he records a real baby in all it's modes of expression. from screaming displeasure to babbles of contentment.

then he climbs a tree that is very tall, and he alerts a passer by that he has a problem, and he also has a baby with him.
the passer by rings police immediately and police come and assess.

then, along come TV trucks and reporters.
all the producers back at the station are licking their lips in expectation of a blockbuster story.
(it soon becomes covered live on every australian channel, and the story is breaking in the US and europe)

the person stays up the tree yelling gibberish in reply to every frantic question (there is a little baby with him (in the mind of the public) remember).

like (shouting from the ground to the top of a 70 foot tree)
Q: (police with loud hailer) what is it that is troubling you? (echoes dramatically down the bush)
A: lettuce and cheese sandwiches!!
Q: OK. uhh huh. did you get a bad one?
A: not as bad as clouds though!! !
Q: errr the clouds? could you explain?
A: yeah they f**kin' change all the time!! !

by this point the riveted national audience believes the man is totally insane, and they almost have heart attacks about the baby's fate.

the man stays up the tree for three days (people at home are having strokes) and then he decides to come down , but suddenly he drops the baby from about 65 feet up and it falls to the earth.

people would have been utterly electrocuted with fright as they saw the baby fall.
i do not think the man would be shot after he dropped the baby because he is unarmed and people want to meet him, and try to understand why he did it, and then punish this monster.

paramedics would scramble to where the "baby" fell and discover it was a doll.
the whole thing was a hoax.
all the world was riveted on this frantic story!! and then it is revealed that the man up the tree was just doing a personal experiment because he wanted to see the responses of the general public to a potential scenario he wanted to test.

he would have to be released with only a charge of "cause public alarm and affront", and if he pled guilty, he would get a good behavior bond.

i developed that thought in private to entertain myself. i tried to tell a few people, but they become alarmed when i mention the "baby" (right at the beginning) , so i stop. it is not a real baby, but they are already too flustered to explain that to.

i am so sorry about the length of this. i can not be brief, and brevity is the soul of wit, so i am witless.

i have not even touched the surface of all the examples, but typing is more arduous than rambling verbally.

my humor is inappropriate because it is not appropriate to convey. it does not make anyone else laugh.