Quarterlife Crisis

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I'm currently going thru it, and wanted to share my experience with all of you.

I'm 27 now, and am bored to death of my job at the indoor waterpark/hotel resort. And no, I doubt doing any other work would thrill me any more; the only thing I want to do now, really, is work on my career.

The entire concept of looking to continue my social life as is has begun to seem quite tedious to me; I'm more interested now on just working on my retail website, and becoming successful--not to mention hopefully in a few years marrying my girlfriend, and starting a family.

Also worth noting about my social life, as I've already mentioned, he who was my best friend for almost 20 years...well...no longer is, due to some problems that started last year. We're still friends, but not close anymore.

I also used to have a "$#!+" list which I recently dropped, deciding to stop hating people...realizing that those on the list mostly did what they did out of peer pressure due to my Autism, and they weren't even worth the time.

And you know...I was at the waterpark yesterday with my girlfriend, and some of her friends. I confess...I was very tired because I had to get up early to go with them. At the same time...I just didn't get the excitement out of it that I did back when I was 25-26. It's like...I just want bigger and better things now.

So, just wanted to share my thoughts, and hear from you folks as well about all of this.

Go For it ! !

Grunthos' theory od age

0-27 Youth

28 - 54 middle age

55- 81 Old age

>82 BONUS TIME

So IMHO it is fantastic, as 27 you enter a midlife crisis and dont need to have one at 30/35/40/45 or even 50!

WHAT THE HECK?

0->25(still considered kind of young)
26->35(Still thought to be growing to some degree)

40 is considered middle gae, but 35 is probably more appropriate.

50+ is considered about old age.

70-85 is about the max that most people are expected to live.

BTW

0->2 first major growth spurt Baby to maybe young toddler
2->8 next young toddler to puberty
8->13 third puberty to teenager/adolesence
13-18 fourth(My hair started showing signs of loss at 17) teenager
18-35 some growth continues(Some problems may start around 30, I started having bone problems at 32) young adult/adult
35+ is considered downhill for most.(I started getting gray hairs around 40 or so) adult

Yeah, I have to agree with 2ukenkerl's timeline on aging.

As for the topic, I hit a kind of existential crisis at the same age (27). Two years later, it's still unresolved. I always think of the albums created at age 30 by two of my favourite musicians, Billy Corgan and Robert Smith. Adore and Disintegration are dark, slit-your-wrists-in-the-tub sort of albums. I wonder if 30 is going to be worse.

*edit* One more thing on those timelines. From what I remember reading, people with AS don't really start hitting their stride until thirty, where the rest of the population begins at twenty.

I get quarter life crisis on and off for a while @_@

I hear you.
Being 27 myself, I can at least loosely relate to your position.
I feel my internal age to be about 50. I've aged exponentially in the last 5 years or so.
My "mid-life-crisis" happened when I was about 16. Now I just feel old, and done with life, and ready to retire. I'd love to just putter around in the garden all day. I don't long for dynamic change. I want all the chaos around me to stop, so I can think again. Please, life, slow down. I am an old man inside.

You familiar with this song? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UMJk4Edm8rU

Ben Franklin: At 20 years of age the will reigns; at 30 the wit; at 40 the judgement.

No, in fact I'm not cause I don't listen to most of the stuff my age group listens to; for me, the cutoff point for good music was 1988, with a few decent hits afterwards.

ive never even understood the midlife crisis thingy. one of my stepdads had one but thats because he was a wierdo. he purmed his hair. im not even joking, it looked like a black poodle sitting ontop of his hair, then when i decided i like silverchair and grew my hair out he tired coping my style with a lame ass mullet. dude was ghey

"cause I wonder sometimes, about the outcome of a still Verdictless life. Am I living it right?" "I rent a room" .. "Make it feel like home. But all I feel's alone. It might be a quarter life crisis. Or just the stirring in my soul. Either way I wonder sometimes, about the outcome, of still Verdictless life. Am I living it right?"
"So what. So I've got a smile on, but it's hiding the quiet superstitions in my head. Don't believe me when I say I've got it down." "Everybody is just a stranger, but that's the danger in going my own way. I guess it's the price I have to pay, yeah."

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Yeah, it seems tht I have that too. I want to do bigger and better things like have a family, not go galivanting around like my mother thinks I ought to do. I am 29, and I feel old.

yeah I think I know what you mean. I love my job, but I absolutely despise the lifestyle, the getting up in the morning, doing the same things, having the same conversations, etc etc. and the thought of starting a family and doing the same boring stuff for the rest of my life is horrible to me. I'm not that big on routine and I'm too ADHD to live in one place for too long and do the same things over and over. some highly controlled change is what I always plan on doing but it hardly ever works out nowdays.

I've also been trying to complately reboot and rearrange my mind in order to get rid of the fixation on "human contact = happiness" thingy. I don't know why I used to believe that having partners and large groups of friends was what makes all humans happy, without exceptions. turns out there are exceptions, and I am one of them. so I guess that upon reaching my quarterlife demarcation line I've realised that 1) socialising is just too stressful for me; 2) in my case it is almost always futile; 3) if I haven't learned it for 25 years, I never will; 4) there are cooler things to do and more interesting things to think about, and I should spend the rest of my life pursuing those.