Do you deliberately avoid people to great lengths?

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I never tend to go through the park in my village anymore, as there are "chavs" there, but i generally use the term on anyone who is very neuro typical for my age (14) and have noticed that I fear to some degree almost everybody my age except my friends as I expect some sort of "very inventive" insult from them i am often approached by such people at school aswell, usually in class so cant do much about it and they then proceed to ask annoying questions or start doing something "friendly" (usually girls who know I am rather socially withdrawn) and making me feel generally uncomfortable. I have noticed such behavior in avoiding "chavs" in my my best friend aswell. of whom is also an aspie.

I'm just curious to see if anybody else does anything similar to this.

Well...I'm sure I am a lot older than you.... but... yes. I do things like that, too. I have even gone so far as to use strange entrances to buildings to avoid encounters with people that make me feel particularly uncomfortable. Most of the time, however, I just suck it up and talk to who I have to talk to.

If I pass other teens in the street, I look down at the pavement and I actually get a few tears of fear in my eyes until they pass. I don't know what I'm scared they're going to do, but they make me feel uneasy.

School is hell. People are trying to make small talk, and it's all so phoney and fake, and I don't want to speak to them, so I pretend I don't hear them. Once I was walking into school with my mother, and someone said hi, and I pretended not to hear them, and Mum turns round and waves to the person, then says to me, "Someone's talking to you, don't be so rude!" and I'm like, "MUM, I'm trying to IGNORE them, you've gone and screwed THAT up for me now!"

She told me I could get through the day by not talking to people, so why did she tell me off for doing so?! What the hell?

i also dont like going past groups of teenagers because i used to always attract their attention and not in a positive way, maybe because i would look at them for too long or something. this hasnt happened for a while now but i still dont like to go past these groups of people.

They're like the Taliban, never stare at them...

I also have always hated going past groups of teenagers, even when I was one. They always make me uncomfortable, and I always have the feeling they are probably talking about me, or going to once I pass. Or that one of them will talk to me or approach me for some reason, which terrifies me.

It extends beyond strangers for me though, when I was still with my ex boyfriend, and over at his parents house, I would always try to avoid his family members. I'd only leave his room when I absolutely had to.

I literally got my butt kicked once in highschool by a girl who thought I was staring at her. I used to "zone out" and I would just end up focuse on whatever thing was in front of me. I was really looking through this girl, but she had no way of knowing that. She just thought I was staring at her. She was a really mean girl and she actually kicked me in the butt over and over as we walked from whatever class that was to the next class that we had. No teachers noticed and no students did anything about it. It was AWFUL!

Only people that make me uncomfortable, otherwise not. I usually avoid other teenagers & considering I don't go to school anymore it's not hard to do. They often seem to laugh at me even if they don't know me, stare at me or walk past me then say something horrible about me. I don't know what I do to make them want to do this. If they are walking towards me on the footpath I'll cross the road to avoid them, at least that way I wont have to hear their laughter & nasty comments.
People think that I imagine others talk about me but I'm not if I'm hearing it!

Yes, and I'm a lot older than everybody here.

I am way older than you and don't want to depress you or anything but I still avoid people. Ever since I was small I have crossed the road to avoid having to talk to people I know. I hate making eye contact with people in the street in case they respond. I have really bad facial recognition so often people will start talking to me and I have no idea who they are. I just don't recognise them and it's really awkward. I'm not good at small talk anyway and trying to do that and work out who they are at the same time is very difficult.
I hated school as I dislike being around groups of people. I find it very tiring. I like being on my own. It's the only time I can really relax. Teenagers are especially awful because they are so big on conforming and belonging to the group. They laughed at me because I was different. I laughed at them because they were all the same.

That sucks.

A boy in my French class was accusing me of staring at him, cos I'd been staring at the wall. Then everytime that I looked within a mile of him, he'd say, "Piss off, stop looking at me!" and I'm like, "How important do you think you ARE, anyway?"

I do that too. Except I avoid more then just people who are my age.... I pretty much avoid everyone I don't already know. I don't know many people The only time I ever meet new people is when I'm forced to(At work, through a friend/event, etc...)

And for the record... I always get accused of staring at people. I don't know why. It's not something I do on purpose, and to this day, I've never once caught myself doing it. But apparently lots of other people have...

I avoid many people on a daily basis including friends, neighbours etc as I hate small talk. I don't mind teeagers as I'm 30 now and they don't usually bother me.

Do tou deliberately avoid people to great lengths?

Yes

Avoid people?

As much as is feasable.

- So also does wildlife.

Perhaps like them, we have learned:

Nothing good comes of meeting one.

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I still avoid ppl, even at work, if someone is outside their house I will pass there house and go back and deliver their stuff later in the day