Does it annoy you when others want to know about stuff?

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Does anyone else get really irritated when well meaning friends and family keep asking questions like "Are you seeing so and so this weekend" or "Have you heard anymore from so and so about the cinema?" or "Did you go to such and such place yesterday?". Even more annoying is when people say "Did you cash that cheque?" or "Have you got your keys?" and other such stuff which grates on me and makes me feel like flying into a temper.

I don't know why but people wanting information about aspects of my daily life irritates the living hell out of me. I know they are just trying to be friendly and are probably genuinely interested, so why does it feel like an intrusion? Am I going overboard here? By the way I'm not a child - I'm in my 30's with a child and people don't know about my AS..

Yes, these things are irritating because it's tedious to explain every little aspect of what you're doing. I find it's easier to get things done when I don't have to explain what I'm doing to anyone.

I don't talk about my work with anyone who can't do something with it because it's as tedious for me to explain it as it is for them to listen to. I may be becoming a hermit.

it is annoying having to explain every single detail of what you are doing , i get things done faster when i don't have to explain myself.

^tweety_fan, yes indeed!! Those who ask a lot like that is people who likes to talk and to me it appears they say it just to have somehing to say and that annoy me.
Im very spare in talking and only speaks when "needed to" and dont like to be forced to reply something that didnt need to be said in the first place...

It does annoy me quite a bit, yeah.

Yes I feel that way exactly. I have everything under control inside my head and to have someone constantly asking me about what I'm doing tomorrow or next weekend or whenever makes me feel that I have to explain it all externally which is boring and IMO totally unnecessary. I also feel very drained while replying to such questions and tend to answer in short sharp sentances which probably makes me appear rude, but I just can't change that.

I do this to my bf. I want to make sure he is ready before we leave because I do not want to be kept waiting when it's time to go. It really irritates me.

It's hard enough to keep information in my head, but for people to harp on the small details is rather annoying. My wife will often remind me of small things because she knows how forgetful I am, and even though when she reminds me I am usually okay with it, when she asks me if I remembered to do a certain thing, I fly off the handle.

It's just small talk to most people, but I can't help but find it intrusive. I'm also scared people are going to judge me by my answer.

Funny thing is, I try to ask these questions myself now (even if I'm not interested in the answer), since it's actually seen as rude not to take interest in other people's lives, rather than the other way around. Another NT-AS parallel universe!

I sometimes get annoyed when people ask me about my venue. They will ask how we came up with the idea to make the place....(to which I usually blank out)....They will ask..."Who did the artwork?...Did you do the artwork?....Which of all this artwork did YOU do?....lots of different people did the artwork...rawwwwrr.....I am constantly doing stuff at the place...but I get embarrassed because the only visible mural of mine is the half-assed blank sky with moustached sun...and some spray paint stencil detailing around the doorway..and a few other little things here and there....and several sock creatures...and the calendars and all the handmade signs everywhere...and the lamp lady...but it is really tedious to break down what specific things that I did...and why do they want to know in the first place?
I feel sorta judged too by the answers..

This falls under the classification of small talk...and i tend to find small talk pretty tedious...and give really brief answers.

Yup. Most small talk pisses me off. Why do people want to know exactly what I said to someone, or how many times a day I go to the toilet? (ok, that was sarcasm...)

Sometimes, when I don't feel like talking. It depends who is talking to me too. I guess I do get annoyed when people remind me about things I would obviously have to remember.

I love those questions. They're the easiest type to answer

sometimes/ online no, in real life yes

It annoys me when people ask me questions about my life that don't seem to have a point, for example..."What did you have for dinner last night?"..."Have you been online much lately?". It really gets to me when people just ask me questions for the sake of asking questions.

My mother is a very detail-oriented person. She often gets annoyed when I don't remember to tell her details of my life that I don't consider all that important. Conversely, she tells me things that she expects me to tell my wife, and I often just don't do this.

I remember when I was graduating high school, she would ask me where various people were going to school. I told her I didn't ask, and she would say, "How can you not ask that question?"