Anyone else have a sorta neuro-eccentric social group?

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Oh man how interesting, ive been thinking the same thing

its how like attracts like. I was only dxed last year and ive noticed almost without exception all my friends are at least abit aspie or add/adhd or both.

That all the music and artisits i like all disply aspie qualites.

That i work in an industry that attracts AS people, i am a designer. Infact i tend to attract clients that are and i have gravitated to wards AS type disiplines like watch making etc.

that all my gfs and girls i am attracted too are also AS

i reckon there is an invisible division, an appartite between NT and unsual people.. to me because i am surrouned by AS stuff and people, its like the world is AS. then when i go into a place or an enviroment that very NT, pubs, clubs, supermarkers, i am taken aback how different everyone is!

I got diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD as a result of a big chain of events connected to the fact that I frequently attend social events called a Geek Dinners. I met someone there (an Aspie); his wife (ADHD) started working for our company; I noticed that I struggle with many of the same things which she ascribes to ADHD; I took myself off to see a psychiatrist and was totally surprised to be diagnosed with Asperger's on top of the ADHD.

All makes sense now, though.

See http://www.geekdinner.org.za

I think there are plenty of undiagnosed Aspies in the Geek Dinner group; there are definitely other recently-diagnosed ADHDs. One of the NTs in the group decided to do a presentation on Asperger's at this month's Geek Dinner, because for his university thesis he is working on a software project to aid autistic children's learning.

i think the description 'loose coalition" is excellent.

I agree.

I have found that since I started doing stand-up, all my friends come from that social group or tech people I met through comics. This works out for me because most comics, though most I know are NT, are extremely damaged, self-centered people - ha ha. I am very high functioning on the spectrum, and I get along with most of these people. There are also 2 other definite Aspies in the comedy scene, but they have a little harder time "fitting in" than I do. Sometimes I think that's just because I'm a girl and a lot of my oddities wouldn't be forgiven so easily if I were a boy.

But yes, I think when we find a social group it is usually comprised of people in the social "margin."

I seem to hang out mostly with NT´s- (near as I can tell, because they do seem to be different from me)- but who have quite a few AS traits themselves. I hang out pretty exclusively with dance/theater people, which means they are not like the "average" person. In addition, we talk dance/theater almost exclusively. One positive thing is that people in my profession are also pretty obsessed with the work; I´m basically surrounded by people who have the same narrow interest as I do, so that´s good, and it makes talking to them much easier. What I also notice is that theater people seem to be more "take them as they are" kinds of people, so they are not bogged down by certain social constraints, the way the masses are. In my profession, I am allowed to be quirky- (thank God!) So, I would say they are different from the norm.

Back when I was a teenager, I had some friends who I strongly suspect were on the spectrum. It would kind of make sense; there were a lot of "geeky" kids in my school, and living in an intellectually progressive town with 2 Universities meant that there was probably a chance that there was a proportionally high number of Aspies.

Another thing: almost all my friends are gay- (though I am not gay). I seem to get along quite well with gay people.

Honestly, I can say virtually all my friends are what you'd consider neuro-eccentric. Oh well. I like it like that. Normal people are boring.

I seem to gravitate towards people who are outside the 'norm'. Those I have been closest to, have all been aspergers, or at least eccentric.
My current small set of 'friends' are a totally non neurotypical bunch, and in truth, they are the only ones who would accept me as I am.
My attempts at interracting with those who are not eccentric in some way, have only met with disaster or rejection.

I have a couple of Aspie friends at my school (incidentally, they're both fellow geography majors as well).

I have met a few other Aspies in person (including several people from WP) at meetups in San Antonio and Houston.

My closest friend is fellow WP member LiendaBalla.

^ Yes. Many people have speculated that I am mad or unstable in some way...even in the art scene. It is not that I am mad or unstable - just that I think outside of the normal trajectories - and this makes others uncomfortable...Unless of course they are other true outsiders who really cannot help but be anything but different. It is not really a choice - just a way of being.

Yes since most of my social life is with other Aspies.

i don't have any friends, if i did neuro-eccentric ppl would be preferable, but frankly any friends are welcome at the moment.

Me! My closest friends have a histories of depression, panic attacks, self-mutilation, and violence. It was bad when we were teenagers. My best friend used to cut herself, beat her girlfriend, take prozac. Then another had a major panic attack - he thought we were all against him. But that wa years ago, now that we have more or less found the right work for us, we've become ok.