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Does it help to tell others about one's AS?
Poll ended at 31 May 2009, 10:56 am
Yes, gives them a way to understand one's behavior. 36%  36%  [ 9 ]
Just talk about the symptom (unable to read body language, etc.), don't give them a label. 36%  36%  [ 9 ]
Probably not 28%  28%  [ 7 ]
Total votes : 25

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25 May 2009, 2:30 pm

Wow, Patricia, you are a strong woman to be able to stand firm in the moment with that sort of situation. I didn't handle those kinds of situations too well when I was in college. I would be groping wildly for possible explanations, and often go off center assuming the worst possible conclusion. I just had a lot of meltdowns, as a result. You sound like you're a lot more focused than I was! Best luck to you in your studies!



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25 May 2009, 3:06 pm

Having never had a real label for my problems, I once attempted to let teachers know of my symptoms. Having told them, it changed absolutely nothing and I'm pretty sure they did not take me seriously and forgot what I had told them by the next day.



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25 May 2009, 3:51 pm

pscristmas, sounds like you're working with the same ordeal... you're gut is telling you things are getting a little odd, maybe you should say something, hoping to get by without taking the risk, what-to-do, what-to-do...

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if I think there's going to be an issue, then speak up, but sometimes I don't know when there's already an issue.
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Been there, done that; still there, still happening. If I knew there was going to be an issue, there wouldn't BE an issue... 'cause I'd be in on the 'NT secret language', dangit.

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a tendency to stare blankly at me at times. I think he thinks he's communicating something to me with these looks, but unless he talks about it, I really don't have a clue what's on his mind.


Well, you could always project something on it (tongue in cheek here); if you check the first definition of empathy, it's...

"the imaginative projection of a subjective state into an object so that the object appears to be infused with it."

No wonder the world is such a mess... :?

Not that this particularly furthers the discussion...

Is it an option in the 'staring at me' scenario to say something along the lines of "Are you trying to convey something to me? Because if you are, I'm not getting it." Or would that be rude?



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25 May 2009, 5:24 pm

DonkeyBuster wrote:
Is it an option in the 'staring at me' scenario to say something along the lines of "Are you trying to convey something to me? Because if you are, I'm not getting it." Or would that be rude?


I think I'm probably going to have to do something like that, eventually. Maybe if I can make it sound like a joke, he won't take it so badly? Knowing me, I'll blurt out something along the lines of: "My psychic antenna is busted today, doc. You're gonna have to talk." :lol:

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Patricia



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25 May 2009, 7:17 pm

Made me giggle. :lol:
With my luck, he'd be an Aspie and take me literally and refer me to mental health...
You could try my usual... "What?!" 8O



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26 May 2009, 1:08 am

DonkeyBuster wrote:
You could try my usual... "What?!"


LOL - sounds like the way I'd handle it too!