Does anybody else detest parties ?????????

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If sensory overload and boredom were my idea of fun, I would love parties.

I used to love the thought of going to a party. I thought that it was what people did to socialize. It had a function, so I treated it like a job since I wanted to make friends, meet women, or build a contact list for a career. Most of the time, I'd feel out of place right away, even though I tried to fit in. Getting drunk helped sometimes. At times I felt pretty normal, but most of the time it would end up leaving me feeling depressed at the end of the night. I think for most people parties are supposed to be fun and rejuvenating. I found them exhausting unless I came with friends or was in a relationship that allowed me to only interject in conversations instead of carrying them.

I throw fantastic parties. Everyone brings a potluck dish to share. There is no dressing up, no strutting one's social prowess, no pretention... just good friends, good tunes, and good dancing.

This is definitely me extraverted side.

Depends on the type of party. For laid back social events with people in my peer group, it's a chance for me to talk with friends a bit more than I otherwise would have a chance to. I don't mind too much. Invariably, though, I eventually shut down socially and just sit there or walk around bored. Or find some way I can help out so I can kill time.

If there's a nice corner to sit in and the music doesn't suck, then I can endure it.

Parties:

A number of people gather together who drink too much.

From this you are expected to pick "Mr/Miss Right"

I don't think so.

I must admit that I can count the parties I went to on one hand. I just get freaked out by the idea of loud music, people that just want to get drunken, a lot of people in a small area so that they are close at your skin, .... The few parties I went to, I could cope for an hour, two hours at maximum and then I was really fed up by the whole thing. So, no I don't like parties.

I also dislikes family gatherings, work parties or gatherings, .... It just nothing for me. Also because I don't know how to act at these gatherings, I live in a different world than my family or colleagues. My interests are completely different and I can't interact with the chitchat. It feels like I miss life experience to cope with the social gathering.

I think it varies from person to person. Some AS people have an inherent fear of unregulated social contact, some would like to be social animals but don't have the skills (me included), whilst some are naturally sociable, but become isolated and withdrawn over time as a result of multiple rejections.

I can handle parties these days - although it took me some time to feel comfortable going to them - but I still couldn't do it without alcohol, as I'd be too inhibited.

I would love to go to a "real" party one day - lots of drink, loud music and interesting people. Unfortunately, all the parties I've been invited to have consisted of boring people who bring their toddlers, eat vegetable sticks and make interminable smalltalk which mostly amounts to a form of bragging or complaining.

I did not even like children's parties when I was a child, and at least those featured actual activities. The idea of adults' parties, most of which are an exercise in drinking and socializing, fills me with fear.

I like attending events as well. To some extent, I can handle social contacts (I'm actually naturally sociable), and when it gets too much, having something to do is a great excuse to get out of small talk without offending anyone.
I didn't like children's parties. My concept of "playing" was very... lets say non-average, okay? One of my first birthday parties (age five) consisted of fun with the chemistry set. The boys I had invited LOVED it. The girls sat in another room playing other stuff I never quite understood. I didn't ever act the female stereotype, haha.
Adults' parties are more fun! So far, most of the parties I attended were great, with good music and interesting people. And even at the bad parties (the ones where people only go to get drunk and possibly get laid) there are usually one or two people equally bored who I can talk to.
I usually don't drink much alcohol at parties, though. At least never enough to get seriously drunk. Maybe one or two drinks. Eller drunk would be a baaaaaaad idea. I'd lose all the few social skills I have. Last time I got a bit tipsy and someone even more drunk switched the TV to a porn channel, I commented on the (shoddy) camera work and I guess seriously weirded out some people... So... no.

I had the exact same experience. It's been that way with a lot of things since finding out I had A.S. Things I thought I enojyed, I actually hate and I was just doing it and pretending to like it to fit in.

I like parties. I guess my main problem with them is that I'm often alone.

I like parties. I guess my main problem with them is that I'm often alone.

*Sorry, I accidentally double posted*

If it's those parties where there's a bunch of people you don't know consuming vast alcoholic beverages and attempting to have sex with strangers, no.

Everything else is generally fine with me

really not into parties either but the ladies are there so that kind of keeps me going out every so often... and I also like to get cleaned up and looking my best (or so I think) so I enjoy having a reason do so.