Do you have a sense of gender identity?

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I'm so there.

I'm male. In some sense, I embrace being a man. I certainly feel no compulsion to be a woman.

Still, I feel so "out of touch" with whatever it means to be "a man." Never understood the concept.

Women are still strange, mysterious beasts who seem to function on an entirely different wavelength. They don't make sense, and yet, I'm "supposed" to be female, I'm supposed to do these impossible things that they do with ease and enjoy. I'm supposed to think and act like them, but I just can't play the role. I never got the script in the first place.

No one I've met has ever really understood what I mean when I say I'm stuck between genders, and that's ok. I kind of like it here, in the middle. I'm glad you guys get it.

I should probably add that my 'act' isn't flawless, i just have enough of an 'act' to get by at least some of the time. A lot of that 'female' stuff i just dont' understand and some of it i don't even 'see', and it's hard to mimic something you can't see.

Well, I don't have identity other than what I know. Since I'm cut-off from outside social influence, I have no idea what another identity would feel like.

So, I have a Daniel identity, but that's it.

well... I don't Identify with being human but I have traits that would be considerd male

There's all that emoting and feeling and, well for lack of a better description, emotional squishiness... eeew. I just don't 'melt' at the sight of a baby, a new pair of shoes, or a new outfit. And talk about two-faced and back-stabbing...

I read the script, it just never made any sense, even when I was 3 years old. I distinctly remember being told little girls didn't play with trucks and I thought that was A) a lie, 'cause I did, and B) a stupid way to decide, based on gender.

I'm with Daniel... I have a me identity, not societies.

It's so good when you realise that loads of people feel the same way as you!

When I was a kid I used to think "When I grow up, I want to be a man", but it's not something I'd ever say outloud.

Now I am grown up I'm okay with being a lady but when I look in the mirror I don't see a woman. I don't fret over it but I sometimes wonder what it would be like to wake up male. I don't feel like it would be all that shocking to me. I mean, I wouldn't really have to change my clothes, I don't wear make-up, and male haircuts seem like a lot less hassle. My boyfriend would definitely object though.

Oh yeah, right there with you. I tend to communicate better with men, or other geeks regardless of gender - and I think that's because communication in those groups tends to be more straight forward and less coded - or maybe I just understand the code. People want to be understood, so they say what they mean. I also seem to get less hassle for asking for clarification if anything is unclear.



Same. Knowing who you are and being able to be happy with it is a wonderful thing. As long as you understand it, society at large certainly doesn't have to.

I agree. In those groups it's about ideas or getting something done, not about ooey-gooey, touchie-feelie, sweetums warm fuzziness. Cultural emetics.

I have forever been baffled by the way some women's brains seem to fall out of their heads or go on hiatus when a man walks in the room... but that would be sexuality, not gender identity. Well, no. When I've got the hots for someone, I try to impress them with my intelligence, not how stupid, witless, needy and dependent I am.

They find out about the stupid and witless parts soon enough.

I'm physically female, but I've often felt as if I should be a third gender. I contemplated for a while whether it would actually be more comfortable living as a man, but that idea did not feel right either, so I've reached the conclusion that I am somewhere between the two. I feel perhaps a little more female than male, but mainly I just think of myself as 'neutral'. I also identify as heteroromantic, but asexual.

Oooo, I like that term! I identify as homoromantic, and asexual; even though I am in a relationship, we aren't sexual any more. And we're very happy that way.

yes I Identify as female, even though my body is opposite.It felt like a lie when I put male on forms when it asked.I felt more natural to put female down.also gender identity isn't really something you notice unless something is wrong(like you have a male body and have a female gender identity)

I'm male. However if I were in a female body for a day, I don't think I'd really have any problem with being female for a day. The only thing is that I'd be a lesbian for a day.

I used to say I was heteroasexual.

I identify as female, although not particularly girly female. I tend to prefer jeans and T-shirts for casual clothing or more tailored items for business wear. I don't get too emotional (usually) and I'm not overly sentimental. Now that my daughter's grown, I'm not terribly motherly, either, although I plan to enjoy grandchildren one day. I won't be having any more, myself, though. I've done my bit for the continuation of the species.

Regards,

Patricia

For all of you who feel non-gendered, I offer the following advice:

Bing & decide.

Just kidding! That's from a microsoft ad to the left of my page right now. I just find it funny that microsoft purports its search engine will solve everyone's problems.

I feel like this: I am male, but I suck at it. I don't do sports. I don't like the idea of raising a family and becoming its breadwinner. Cars are kind of cool for like 5 minutes until I get bored with them. My hands are baby-soft to the extent that in high school I was known as "buttermilk" because they were like (American) biscuits.

I've very attracted to women, and I fantasize about them, but actual sex is not as good as advertised. I'm interested in a relationship until I get into one and realize what it's actually like. (Yikes.) I wish relationships were like having a roommate you could cuddle with when you happened to be in on the same night. Instead they seem to be about meeting family and discussing future plans. (Double yikes.)