New to this and I'm wondering if I should even be here.

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I'm a 29 year old male and I'm not really sure if I really should even be here. I've always had these feelings that I don't belong and that I'm not part of society. I have been a loner most of my life and most of the time I enjoy it but sometimes I wish that I could interact like other people. It's hard for me to do so called "small talk". But most of my life I've been able to "fake" it with moderate success, I've had girlfriends and friends. But I constantly lose track of friends because I'm not very good at keeping in touch. The same goes for my family I can't remember how many times that my mom has called me and been like why haven't you called me in two months. The sad thing is I don't even know why I haven't called. My girlfriend is very loving and supportive and she understands to a certain extent. But sometimes I get angry at the smallest things and she has trouble understanding why. Which is one reason why I'm here because I don't understand why I've always been like this and I've looked at some of the symptoms and they match. I'm also accused of being rude, when most of the time I'm really just trying to be honest. There are somethings that I enjoy about it, such as my quest for knowledge. Seriously my thirst for it is uncontrollable. And I will ramble on for ours on a subject of interest. Like I'm doing right now. So will someone with experience tell me if this sounds like I'm really just an encyclopedia, reading a**hole. Or if there is something to this. Once again sorry to ramble. Thanks!

Sounds like AS to me but only you and your specialist can tell for sure...

What type of specialist would I need to go to for something like this? I mean if it's between being doped up on drugs or being socially ackward and having no friends, I think that I would choose the second option.

I can't suggest any specialist for you, but...

Have you gone through the DSM-IV diagnostic criteria?
Do you really need a diagnosis?
Will the diagnosis bring more harm or good?

If you just want to know more about yourself, I suggest you spend more time on the General Autism Discussion. There are a lot of threads discussing ASD traits. Give yourself some time.

No matter which brain wiring you have, WP is always open for you.

I haven't gone through in diagnostic criteria. And to be honest I could live my life without a diagnosis, as I've made it 29 years just thinking that I was odd. I guess the only things that I need to work on are social interaction and not being so sensitive to changes in my routine. Since everything that I do are really just odd quirks.

Take a test:

http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php

(Site is down at the moment.)

I scored a 41 out of 50.

Yes.

Yes?

Something you should consider before wasting your time and money on getting diagnosed is what exactly you want to get out of it. I've gotten nothing out of it ever. Ultimately, who cares if you fit the AS criteria? I don't even know if I could get diagnosed again at 16 after I did at 10. Getting diagnosed, especially that late seems pointless to me.
Welcome to WP

That's true. Thanks for the welcome.

from what you say, you may have aspergers.
whatever, you will find wrong planet to be supportive bunch who will give insight wherever they can. i hope you feel at home here.