AS people can have "social demanding" roles?

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Well, I am asking that because my social skills are REALLY bad, they are awfull, and still I would love being a game producer and designer (the guy that leads the game making team, including managing schedules, convincing teammembers to do their stuff, and whatnot) and also I am going to give a speech next week, and I feel like I would love doing this more times...

And I relaly like to teach (altough I don't plan to be a techaer, but I plan to work as consultant...)

It's not hard having a socially demanding role. A sense of purpose makes it simple as you can easily focus on the task & assess how to complete it efficiently. You may not be hanging out with your staff for beers afterward, but at least the managers will love you.

Oddly enough my official role in my company is Social Medial & Public Relations. I do the television and radio appearances on behalf of my organization as well as coordinate all the community out-reach. Fortunately, my appearances are minimal (a couple minutes on TV and perhaps 10 minutes on the radio at a time) so I can fill the time with lots of information about our organization, our events, etc without it sounding too stilted (I hope).
Now, if I had to do much more than what I do now I'm sure someone would eventually see through the thin veneer that is my ability to be social.

I work as a "floater teacher" in a preschool, rotating through the classes in the school, filling in for teachers so they can take prep time. When a classroom teacher is out, I'll fill in for that teacher in lieu of my regular coverage schedules. It might seem like an odd career choice for an introvert who almost definitely has Asperger's Syndrome. However, the education and development of young children is a perseveration of mine, so I consider the challenges to be worth it. I actually have a much easier time interacting with young children than I do with adults. I generally bond with young children quite easily now, which is interesting, considering the fact that when I was a young child, I generally avoided interaction with my peers at all costs, preferring the company of adults. I've really done a complete 180 since then, and I find the most challenging aspect of the job to be dealing with the adults. I am becoming more adept at workplace banter with my colleagues, but that's a skill that it took me a long time to cultivate over the course of employment in several different schools. I do face challenges on the job, and my colleagues definitely see me as odd. I am completely drained at the end of each day. Even so, I very much hope that I will be able to continue in this field, and that I will be allowed to stay on at the school where I am presently working for as long as I choose to do so. I'm working in a field that I'm deeply invested in, and I definitely consider the challenges to be worth it.
In short, I think that if something matters enough to you, you can find ways to make it work.
Good luck to you!

i agree.
i have an odd but socially demanding job. i tattoo people for a living. art has always been my obsession. spending hours and hours with pen, paint, and paper is never a problem. years ago you could not have convinced me that i could tolerate a person for hours on end and even learn to relax them enough to get through the process.
obviously it has become much easier over the years. my one close friends tells me i am a completely different person when i am working. she seems shocked at how well i deal with everything then. sometimes my clumsiness even goes away... only sometimes.
i have horrible social skills when not working. i am not the guy that goes out with everyone regularly, but i try to every now and again. when you know all the people from working with them and they know you are a little weird it all finds it flow.

I spent 35 years as a radio Disc Jockey, and while most of the job was just me in a room alone, I was required to go out and do live remotes and appearances frequently. Was never my favorite part of the job, but I learned ways of coping with it, because I loved all the other parts of the job.

Like JasonGone, I'm now a Tattooist, and have been told by repeat customers that the reason they keep coming back is that I help them feel so much at ease they're not so focused on the discomfort. But the job itself is such a step-by-step routine, once I get in that zone, I feel very calm and centered myself.

Most social situations I avoid like the plague, but if it involves one of my personal obsessive interests, and I feel confident in my knowledge of and familiarity with it, that kind of overrides the social anxiety.

Nice Willard! always good to meet other tattooers.