has anyone here gone to a party before?

Post Reply New Topic

Ive been to one as a kid, and several as a teen/adult. The childhood one was a bit overwhelming, not to the point of a meltdown, but i just kinda wandered around with little to no direction. Later in life, it was with family and friends, and had a near panic attack at one due to the amount of noise (one jackass there was extremely loud and didnt help matters).

I've been to a few. The first three were pretty bad. I just sat on a rock away from people at one and was extremely awkward at another until I saw people I knew and then it got a bit easier.
I'm not too bad at them now. A party is about meeting people and having a good time. So just try your best to mingle. If you find that too hard then just find people you know and hang around them. It's ok if you don't drink. Just use the 'it's been 2 years since my last drink' then people will stop offering.
I usually have 1 to 3 drinks, to loosen up it makes it easier for me to enjoy myself.

Free grog seems to be the only redeeming factor of a party to me. :/ Pass me a couple of bottles and point me in the direction of the remotest linen cupboard my good man/woman.

People actually go there to interact with people? Now, that's strange.

Parties can be alot of fun, espeically if you know a majority of the people attending and they are friends. If this is not the case, the party may be unenjoyable.

My advice to you would be, as soon as you reach the party find a quiet spot that you can retreat to throughout the night if you feel the need. If you are stuck amongst the people and noise with no known escape, you will crumble much sooner, but if you know there is somewhere you can disappear to for a while to have a break, you might be ok for longer.

I've been dragged along to many parties, and I don't enjoy them. Too loud and crowded. My idea of a good party is just a few people and quiet music

i've been to lots of parties. on occasion i attend and enjoy parties, as long as i'm there with friends i know and trust. i will have a few drinks too to loosen up because it helps me be able to dance, have fun and be social without worrying wbout what people think.

Yeah. Parties are very boring affairs with lots of people talking about nothing, and no books or other interesting things in sight. Sometimes there is alcohol, which allows one to be drunk and bored.
I don't know much about New Year's parties, since normally on New Year's Eve I just have one or two people, if any, at my house. Even if there is lots of kissing at the party, you don't have to kiss anyone. Just say no, and if they persist, headbutt them in the face. The same goes for drinking- if you don't want to, don't.

I go to them every once in a while (maybe 2-3 months). I only go if there is enough people I know there that I will at least be able to talk with some people for a bit and not just stay in my corner and look like a psycho. If it's all people I know then I always have a good time. As soon as theres a few strangers tho, the good time rate drops to around 25%.
I also think it's very wise not to drink for your first time at a party with people you don't know.

I've been to birthday parties when i was a kid.. And last year i went to a small birthday party for my friend from work, but that was basically just eating birthday cake and watching movies. This probably doesn't count.

I was never invited to parties until I was 18. By this time I was a dancer in a school for the arts and dancers usually all party together. I got extremely drunk and ended up making out with my then boyfriend in someone's room. This is not something that was very socially acceptable since I'm gay and everyone saw us making out. I was never invited to another party by that person after that. Since then I've been to a few parties thrown by other dancers. I actually threw one myself. I can only bear them if I get really really drunk. Then I just want to make out with any girl or guy around. Those are the few times I've ever had fun at a party (if you call having fun being delirious and making a total ass of yourself, which I do). However, since you don't drink, you will most likely be bored out of mind. At least I would be.

P.S. I avoid parties now because I don't want to become an alchoholic and I hate them if I don't drink.

I used to enjoy being INVITED to parties and that wasn't frequently. When I got to the party I usually felt terribly uncomfortable and would drink to feel better about being there.

Truthfully I don't think I've ever really enjoyed a party. The IDEA of a Party used to feel good but the actual thing...NO!

Although I love dancing I wouldn't go to social dances ..... the atmosphere was too meatmarketish. Many parties can be like that if you dont know many people there.

Dinner parties sound nice but all the polite chit chat or ever worse heated arguements over politics, religion or whatever can be unnerving and boring.

Nowadays I dread going to a party. Tomorrow a nice man who used to work for /with my partner is coming up from Melbourne with his wife for the day. They are both nice people but I'm dreading it ..... I've nothing in common with them. My partner will be able to talk to the guy without any trouble but I will be left to "entertain" the lady....... small talk is not my forte....so it will be a very wearing day for me.

In some ways a party would be preferable as I wouldn't be responsible for relating to anyone in particular and I could go home when I wished.

You mentioned you will have to stay the night as no one can take you home..... I strongly advise you not to stay...... take public transport or a taxi home. If that would be too expensive it would be better to stay in a motel, or a cabin at a caravan park.
If you know another girl who is going and not keen on staying overnight you might be able to share a motel/cabin room and the taxi fare.

I tend to enjoy parties where I can talk a lot or can talk with others (2 way) on a range (NTs prefer to have more than one topic of conversation during a party) of topics.

I tend to not enjoy parties where I can't really talk much.

It sometimes feels like I am being ignored if I am silent at a party for more than a few minutes.

I used to go to drinking and drug parties and stay completely sober. If you're the only sober person there, and nobody else knows that you're sober, watch how easy it is to interact with people. It's a good way to practice social interaction, because whoever you're talking to will pass off any little Autistic trait or weirdness as being an effect of the alcohol or drug they think you took (but didn't actually take).

Find a really drunk person there and talk to them about absolutely whatever's on your mind. I've had multiple hour conversations about diesel-electric freight train locomotives with people who were so trashed that they couldn't think of a different subject to talk about and thus took the same interest I had in whatever I was talking about. For the Autistic mind to interact with someone who hangs on every thought mentioned to discuss it in detail is almost like a drug in itself

Some of my best friends I met while they were drunk at parties and I explained Autism to them and that I have it. I'd go on and on explaining how Asperger's affects me, and they'll tell me about their friend's cousin's upstairs neighbor's son who posts these crazy drawings on Deviantart.com. Then just relate with whatever that person finds so cool about what that kid does and explain your thoughts on it. Then throw in some Autism Speaks is evil stuff and see where you can get your conversational partner to go with that.

Ever wanted to be a comedian? Stoned people will laugh hysterically at even the mundane observation or dumb joke. Again, stoned people, just like drunks, will pass off any abnormal Autistic tendencies like stimming, lack of eye contact, carrying on with the same conversation, etc. as being simply an effect of the drug they assume you're on and will look right past everything you do that's weird. Knowing that you're in a place with a lot of people in a good mood who will mostly ignore your Autism is an unbelievable sigh of relief.

You'll have a really good time, and the people you talked with won't remember much about how you acted, all they'll remember is that you seemed like a really cool person, you said something about having "ass burgers" (which they will likely type into wikipedia and be corrected, as well as reading up on it more). And of course one thing will stick out in their mind, that Autism Speaks is bad bad bad.