Parties - do you avoid them...?

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I hate clubs too, but raves and festivals are fun

Well, I'm 27 now--28 in a couple months--and my friends and I...we're kinda near 30( one of us is 31), so the whole partying thing is...kinda lame at this point already.

We do "sorta" parties; we sit around and talk about stuff. That's pretty much the exten' of it.

I have something i call the 'party of five' rule, (yeah lame name i know!) but that means ill go to a party as long as theres at least five people i know there which makes it more likely ill have people to talk to. People might get more points if i know they dont know anyone either or if they are related to me. And people i know who have girlfriends/wives/whatever dont count as part of the five. No one likes being a third wheel.

What i hate is parties where i only know a couple of people but they know everyone else there, so they only talk to be to a tiny portion of the time and the rest of it im left alone with large groups of people who i dont know but who know each other. Forget about AS, even normal people cant deal with that situation too well.

But as long as theres people i know, yeah i like going to parties

Totally. Though I've thrown a wicked fun party for 30 some odd friends (and occasionally people I don't know very well show up). Our parties are far from conventional, though.

Funny how I outgrew the partying thing almost immediately after college. It seems that most of my college mates took much longer to do that... all the way up into their 20s and their early 30s. Lincoln Park seems to be littered with these people who don't seem to realize they are no longer in college.

I generally avoid and if I have to go I feel uncomfortable till the party finishes

WOW I was actually going to post about this........................Yeah I am not one for partying either. I did my fair share of clubbing and pubbing when I lived on campus at Uni which I only enjoyed because of the alcohol involvement..............as I'm sure did most others. Now because I am married and have a family and I don't drink very often I tend not to crave being with other people at all really. To be honest I go to great lengths to avoid having contact with the vast majority of people. I actually crave being alone more than anything. I do have one really good friend who I went to highschool with and I like spending time with her because we both have 2 boys around the same age, we are intertested in allot of the same things and we can talk indepth about everything.

This same friend is having a 40th birthday party just before Christmas. I wish she just didn't ask me, it would make things so much easier. The fact that she has specifically asked my kids (who are very excited) and my husband(who today told me he would be working that night) makes it hard for me to say No. Apparently she is hiring lights and a disco ball and the theme of her party is DISCO..................My all time absolute unfavorite thing to do. MMMMMMMM small talk and dancing ..................YUK. I have met one other person who is going to the party and got along OK with her because she also has an ASDian son. SO when I met her we talked all things ASD. She seems a bit ASDian too However the sort that is hell bent on being popular and I certainly would not rate myself in that same category or even look like I am someone that a popular person would want to be seen anywhere near.

Even if I do end up talking with allot of other people, with the music and my CAPD I will just be nodding allot and getting very little out of it. Also my friend lives 3 hours away from us so we would have to stay at her place that night............... so cannot make an excuse and leave early. Why would someone who thinks about parties in this light even consider going??????????????????????Good question If my kids didn't know and would be upset if we didn't go I think I would give it a mis. Then I just feel like I should go because apparently I am her oldest friend and thus I should want to help her celebrate. If I told her she would say she was OK with it but more than likely would not be. My friend is estranged from her family and she kind of sees her group of friends as a surrogate family ................................................anyway.

Who knows what could happen in the mean time to get me out of this. Maybe I could drink some sulphuric acid and land myself in hospital or be sent to Siberia or something LOL

I haven't gone to a party since I was forced to go to birthday parties & such as a child. I don't even go to family functions because I'm too afraid of being around people. Parties are some of my worst nightmares.

Oh I can relate, half our friends are like this, late 20's or early-mid 30's and haven't grown up past college yet. Needless to say I avoid their stupid drunken parties unless my husband just *has* to go. He's more mature than that (he better be, at our age) it's just that he's very social for a spectrumy person and feels he's missing out if we don't go. When we do, we always leave early, just as things are getting really stupid. All they do is get drunk and play Rock Band, which I can't play, so I just stand around surfing the web on my phone unless someone talks to me. The phone really helps, but I still feel awkward and miserable.

I normally do well with big festivals and concerts where you're not really expected to make small talk or try to get to know everyone. There, I can just go and enjoy the main event(s) and not be as stressed out. Last time though, at a concert, everyone around us was very rude and a fight broke out behind us. It was very stressful and hard to enjoy one of our favorite bands that we paid to see. I got home in meltdown mode and took 2 days to feel normal again.

I dread them.

I never get invited to parties

I quite welcome parties. I think they're fun, just as long as I get to dress up in some Mod garb.

Wow, I'm surprised at all the responses, usually when I post something, I might get one response if any. I can say, I guess I am glad in a way there are more out there which feels the same as I.

(It's not as though, I receive "tons" of invitations to parties, but the occasionally affair, or holiday get together. What ever the event, I completely dread them)

Well, partying for me just meant "let's hang out, and play video games, hit up a few pops, and eat some pizza".

What...you think I meant drinking and sex?

C'mon dude...

And the reason I enjoyed it so much was cuz it was the first time in my life I actually ever had a social life, really.

but again...I'm now focused on my career and my day job, and my gal...and most of that stuff just seems so lame to me at this point.

It depends, recently I've been to three parties I was invited to because there was a guy I like going to them, who told me I should go. But since then I've stopped liking him so I don't plan to go to anymore. Basically, the only motivation for me to go to parties, is people I'm attracted to. BTW, the only reason I was invited to 3 parties recently is because everyone at my workplace was invited, so I'm not special or popular at all.

yer both, here