an extroverted aspie?

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I wanna know if there's any other like me. I'm actully pretty extroverted and generally enjoy being with people..... my socail skills are bad sometimes and my aspergers comes out mostly when I'm talking to people...... I usaully don't stop talking or I can't figure out the "right" thing to say or even if I should say anything at all. I usaully blabber on, than lose focas when the other person talks, and than say something in response that is completely "other" than what we were talking about. It annoys people quite frankly.....

I also can't handle being around people without having at least a decent amount of alone time in the middle. If I don't have alone time..... I feel very stressed and will usually do literally anything to get that alone time. However if I sit alone to often, I get super depressed and feel a hunger for social interaction.

I know I have aspergers because I share the common symptoms and traits of most people who have aspergers...... but can an aspie also be an extrovert?

and? Discuss

Seriously? A lot of AS people are described as "active but odd". Of course someone with autism can be extroverted.

At least a couple of aspies I know IRL are extroverted.
I might count as somewhat extroverted even though I am not very socially reciprocal with most people. I do things that would appear to be more on the extroverted side...

thats why I asked I don't know a super lot about autism/aspergers outside of my own personal life. The most common trait with those who have aspergers/autism is having trouble in socail situations..... so i just figured most aspies were introverted...... I am extroverted so I just was wondering if there were others like me

okay. learn to use the search bar, then.

I've considered myself an introverted aspie because I'm so mild, people won't know I have it unless they know of the condition. My therapists could tell I have it and my doctors, my husband can tell. Some of my online friends can tell I have it too just by the way I talk. My obsessions for one and things I say.

When people know me, they might think I'm just shy so no wonder I am not looking at them. If I stim, they might think I'm just nervous which is true. If I am not socializing, they might think I am just antisocial which is also true.

I've asked people how I come off as to them and they say I'm very smart, honest, direct, straight forward, black and white, funny, sometimes rude and I really like Benny & Joon and Spokane. People have also told me I ask too many questions. When I was meeting men two years ago, only two of them knew of my condition. One of them was also aspie and the other had a mother who was a special ed teacher, so he always hung out in the special ed room with his mother after school so he learned to pick out who is different, even if someone looks normal. Me telling an autism joke pretty much gave myself away and the fact I was talking about Benny & Joon so he knew I was on the spectrum. He even said something about it. But said he could tell it's very mild because I was talking a lot. So I told him, put other men in the car with us, I'd be quiet if they were all talking and if I did speak, I'd be interrupting.

In school kids knew I was different because they like told me to shut up and stuff and hated when I ask so much questions in class. For some reason, they didn't want me in their conversations either or caring about them when I ask "what's wrong?" Then they would turn around and say I don't care about people . So I told them when I did care, they just told me to mind my own business so I learned I wasn't supposed to care and you know what they told me? "Okay move on." My mom said it was because they knew I was right and what could they say?
No wonder aspies have difficulty having conversations with people, they won't let us and they make it our fault.
Maybe I was doing it wrong or saying weird stuff, who knows. I've been reading questions at Yahoo Answers by people who ask a question about someone they know who has AS and to them we come off as annoying, ignoring them, saying weird things, etc. So who knows how I come off as to people.


But as a person, I would consider myself as an extrovert because I can talk a lot and I am outgoing. But at the same time I can consider myself as a introvert because I don't socialize in groups. Sometimes I do but it depends on the people like if it's family and I am also shy and I don't go out often anymore. No point and I'm too lazy to go out. I never bother to plan anything and when I think about I should do this sometime, I rarely get around to it. I also don't have any friends, just acquaintances.

If I'm an aspie, then I'm an extroverted one. I get really hyper around people because I get energy from them. I am loud, active, and outspoken. However, I also need lots of downtime alone because socializing takes a lot of processing for my mind. I also don't form emotional connections with people, and have always had trouble keeping friends. I choose to be alone a lot because there are not many people out there who have the same interests as me.

I was more like this when I was a teenager...Now there seems to be more of an invisible wall and I and the small handful of people I can deal with are on one side, and everyone else is on the other....But i recall what it was like to get energy from other people like that...and I would get very hyper and bouncy...I miss it..kinda...

enigma,

My behavior when with a group of people is similar to yours, and I am sure that I seem extroverted. I blabber/jabber quite a bit and make comments that are somewhat "off the wall" - more so when I was younger, of course. No shyness whatsoever. I did this in class, too, when I was young, and continuously got detentions for it.

In reality I am quite introverted in that I prefer to do things by myself. I have never kept friends, but then I never really wanted friends, unlike some here who seem to have a desperate desire for them. I feel no emotional connection or empathetic reciprocity with acquaintances or people I have just met, but I don't dislike people, NT or otherwise.

I'm very extroverted

I am one of them.

My partner has AS & ADHD & he is far more extroverted than me & I have ADHD & NVLD. He will be the one to chatter away to people whereas I will not say boo to anyone. I really hate talking to people. If he sees someone he will approach them & talk to them whereas I will try to hide somewhere!

same here, 3 social activities a week is a very full-on week for me. that's not including small-talk with acquaintances or friends on a daily basis.

i also blurt out random stuff while i'm talking to someone, usually just trivia that's totally unrelated to the conversation. i don't know why i do it but most people don't mind, they just think of as my quirky habit. i think extroverted aspies are more 'social' simply because they're willing to stick their necks out and try talking to people, but overly extroverted behaviour coupled with aspie traits is probably a bit alarming.

Yup. I am an introverted Autistic here but I have to deal with those extroverts, even those with Autism all the time. I cannot hold my breath to deal with them!

Introversion-Extroversion has nothing to do with how social you are. an Introvert can be a social butterfly and an Extrovert can be shy. The actual distinction is that an extrovert seeks out stimulation while the introvert tries to escape from it.

I know an extroverted Aspie at work and he just won't shut up.

His name must be Charles. Charles Barkley:P

To be honest, these social butterflies... I just walk away and ignore them. Will this be impolite to them?