ssenkrad wrote:
In addition, Tony Attwood, in his 2006 Book The Complete Guide to Aspergers Syndrome, posited that adults with AS have a higher likelihood of suicide than the neurotypical population due to feelings of being "alienated, socially isolated, and not understood."
Hope I've helped.
I read that as well, it kind of figures.
I meet some people who get pretty heavy about suicide, and who say some of the things I've read here, about it being selfish, egocentric or whatever. I know that some people who get depressed can sometimes start feeling very bad, but can reason with themselves that suicide is not the thing to do.
But when someone starts actively thinking about suicide, or even decides to go through with it, it's because that ability to reason has gone. So, in my limited understanding, it's maybe not helpful to pummel that person with even more blows to their self-esteem. Why does someone get to a point where they genuinely believe that dying is better than living? To discredit mental torment and suffering as a possible reason for that is to deny the human experience. Mental suffering can be something much greater than physical suffering.
I've tried to kill myself. Two other members of my family have tried to kill themselves. Two of my friends succeeded in killing themselves, and I know of others. I'm glad I'm still alive. I'm glad it didn't work. But it does sting a little to be accused of cowardice. I was ill, very ill. What I really needed when I was feeling that bad was for someone to actually understand what I was going through, to support me and to help me feel like life was worth living somehow. Not to re-confirm my own opinion of myself that I was a complete loser.
I think I see where someone is coming from if they say that suicide is cowardly or selfish. But I don't agree with it. To me it's not a wise thing to do, but it's not a matter of cowardice or selfishness to be thinking about it - it's normally a response to incredible pain and desperation. People who are thinking about it, or who attempt it, need love not rejection.
That's just my opinion though, and everyone's entitled to one, especially the people I disagree with
Also, contrary to popular belief suicide isn't easy. It's a frightening prospect. People who attempt to kill themselves are either in incredible pain or are mentally impaired in such a way they their normal human fear of death is missing.