Do you try not to give up?

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I read topics here of people that quit socializing as much stay home alot etc. but I hold out hope I don't want to give up that maybe someday I'll have a boyfriend a job be a success. I don't want to be in my room forever!! !! But I know (looking at past behavior) if I put myself out there too much people will think I'm weird! The whole friends will come to you idea seems so weird and foreign to me (IMO don't you have to introduce yourself Hi I'm Brandy I'm into videogames and psychology etc.) (and looking at my school experience even in Psychology club I DOUBT any psychology major would be interested in Psychology as much as myself HELL I confused the TEACHER A PSYCHOLOGIST with questions of the field!! ! SHEESH!) (The burden of special interest I guess) So the question mainly is do you keep trying?

Never give up....never surrender!

Definitely.... "failure is the pillar of success". The best way to learn to do something "right" is to get it "wrong". The second worse mistake is to get something "wrong" and then give up trying to get it "right". The worse mistake is to think that there's a right or a wrong way to do anything...

I think I know what I'm talking about - though it's my own fault if no-one else has a clue what I'm trying to get at

Strangely enough, I used to find it almost impossible to give up on anything, no matter how crazy it looked to keep on trying. Don't know if that's part of the Aspie "stop-start problem" or what. I tend to see it as a sign of growth (in myself) when I notice I've been chasing rainbows and give up.

As for giving up on social outreach, I certainly don't try anything like as I have done at some points in my life, but even in my darkest moments I've never completely dumped the hope that somehow I might get to where I want to be. It might have been very different, though, if I'd never tasted social success. The fact is, my life history proves that it's possible to have enough social goodies going on, at least for a year or two.

I'm this way but I have learned when I need to draw the line.

If I don't think something is that important, I stop.

I would still be with my lazy ex if I never gave up with him. I would have been miserable and suffering from depression. You can't change people if they don't want to change.

With my last ex, I gave up because I didn't want a rude boyfriend and his ignorance and narrow mindedness, ugh. Plus he procrastinated for things that were important to me driving me into anxiety and stress.

It feels like a miracle if I get invited anywhere besides work functions. Yet I still dimly hope that I will find my 'niche'. Somehow. I don't do much though.

I am either too stubborn or too stupid to know when to quit...take your pick...

These days - at 47 - i prefer to give up gracefully than fight my way through a world that does not adequately understand me. the key for me is to find peace and happiness in THAT predicament. Sometimes it is fine. Sometimes it is not.

Giving up is an option but I figure that I'd then soon follow it with suicide. Since I'm still here I'm afraid I'm still forging on...

I am kind of biased at the moment considering I had the worst date experience of my life last night. She was absolutely horrible to me. She treated me like dirt, absolute dirt. Its times like this that make we not want to try any more.

I have a kind of all-or-nothing personality.

When I have something I can really focus on I have trouble letting go. I'm pretty insane when it comes to programming, I just refuse to quit until I figure out all the bugs in the code and get everything working perfectly. In the past I've stayed up all night working on a programming problem.

Though when it comes to things outside my area aptitude I don't try particularly hard and give up quickly. I'm particularly bad with using the phone. If I call once and can't get through to someone I rarely call a second time. If someone doesn't return my call I give up. Same when people don't respond to my messages or emails. I don't have much people patience.