elderwanda
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Oh, you lucky #@!*&%! !
I get lonesome on occasion, but I've only known a handful of people in my life I genuinely enjoyed being around for extended periods (up to four full hours!), and I haven't seen any of them for years.
I miss sex with people more than I miss people.
I've tried marriage three times now and I just don't have the tolerance for it. Sharing living space with others stresses me to to the breaking point. Even as a child, I fantasized constantly about running away from home. That book 'From the Mixed-up files of Mrs. Basil E Frankweiler' was like porn to me as a kid. To run away from home and live in a museum with Dinosaurs and Mummies and art...kewl.
FaithHopeCheese
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leejosepho
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29 Dec 2009, 6:39 pm
29 Dec 2009, 6:39 pm
I'm very lonely, especially since I used to have someone to hang out with... It was great having conversations, laughing, and playing video games together. I want that. Not the years of isolation I am going to go through! 
29 Dec 2009, 6:59 pm
29 Dec 2009, 7:01 pm
Lonermutant wrote,
This applies to me too. But, i think its because nothing about an NT interaction aligns with what makes me happy?... Mind you i like closeness and 'being' with others, but i don't ever feel ( nor think) that I need them. Although, if I believed in the power of politics, i suppose i would need others. My life is full of everyday ordinary management stuff + all the things that interest me...Idon't feel lonely. I do like to have a "calm" sense of place too, so perhaps I am inclined to agree with
mechanicalgirl39
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE
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ilivinamushroom
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29 Dec 2009, 8:12 pm
I think it's probably true that most people get lonely, and that it's hard for them to grasp the idea of not getting lonely. I don't want to go so far as to say I'm immune to loneliness 100% of the time, but I do think I'm more like you in this regard than the average person. I'm trying to think back to the last time I felt loneliness. I can't think of one, but I'm sure I must have at one time or other. Sometimes it's nice to be with another person, but I can always, always, always find something to do by myself. I enjoy just sitting in a chair and imagining things.
Since I'm married with two kids, I rarely have a chance to be truly alone for any extended time, but I kind of like the idea of just being left alone for a few weeks.
I really enjoy my space and my time to myself.I'm more likely to feel the emptiness of not being alone. There isn't even a word for it, is there? When you feel the emptiness of not having people around (or pets), it's called loneliness. But what if you have people in your space, and need to be away from them? I feel like that quite often. When I was working at a job (now I'm a stay-at-home mom, which is still work, but unpaid), the hardest part was always trying to do a competent job with other people lurking around. I don't dislike people. Well, I somehow manage to dislike nearly every boss I ever had, and most co-workers. And most roommates.
But in general, I don't dislike people. I just prefer them out of my space.I also have two kids and we live with their dad, this completely changes things i would definitely miss my kids. Somehow people are out of sight out of mind for me if they dont call me I sort of forget about them . Before I had kids I lived in the high desert in Utah at first I had a roomate she was exhausting to be around when I came back from a trip she had moved it was empty and i didnt care I was just so happy. For a brief time I was living completely alone with my chickens geese and cat they were all the companionship i wanted this was by far the best time of my life, my own world . Oh and I have had the exact same experience with jobs sometimes I felt like the only competent person there.
29 Dec 2009, 8:22 pm
29 Dec 2009, 8:39 pm
Millie's back???? HI MILLIE!! !!
To answer the OP: I do not long for the company of humans simply for the sake of the company of humans. I can, at times, feel lonely for the companionship of a particular person who I feel strongly for. But I do not get "lonely" in the standard definition where one just wants to be around others.
I have no friends and my one companion is long distance and I only speak to him through the computer. But I do not suffer at all for this 'lack of companionship'.
Also, I see earlier in the thread someone mentioned being on WP as a sign of wanting companionship. While that is a very valid point, my reasons for posting on WP are not exactly to communicate/socialize with others. I have a very strong desire to express my thoughts. Unfortunately another person is required for such expression. If I do not have an outlet to express my thoughts, they buzz around in my head and drive me nuts. I don't particularly care if anyone reads them or responds, but I have to get them out. A blog is also a satisfactory form of outlet as is writing on a paper. But it does make me feel even better if the blog is public so that others can read or if I show the paper to someone. I wonder why that is? I suppose the desire to express oneself can be interpreted as a desire to communicate? And therefore to socialize? And therefore lonlieness if it is not realized?
Hmm interesting train of thought.. I will have to ponder this.
