Parents not Aspie, but have some traits?

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Autism/Asperger's is genetic, so it makes sense that parents, even if they're not diagnosed with anything on the spectrum, at least have a few traits.

For me, my mum likes keeping everything tidy and in order. I think she has minor OCD or something

Don't think my dad does anything Aspie, in fact he keeps going on about making me "not Aspie anymore" whenever the subject comes up (I hate that).

Anyway, how about you?

I'm one of those "some AS traits" parents who gave birth to a beautiful, full-blown, AS boy

My mom and dad both have some AS traits.

My mom doesn't really like socializing with her coworkers and customers at her job, but she's told me that she has learned to put on a facade of being outgoing. She likes routines, and becomes upset if there's something different about her schedule (for example, working hours that she doesn't normally work or people coming over unexpectedly). She has bad anxiety too, which runs in her family.

My dad is highly intelligent; in fact, I'm willing to bet that if he took an IQ test, he'd score close to or within the genius range. He's very gifted in mathmatics, and is a great artist. He's got a very childlike, innocent personality (though he can be very serious when he needs to be). He's a very logic-based person; he doesn't understand emotions, and sometimes comes across as insensitive without meaning to.

I think both my parents would have been diagnosed with some form of autism as children, possibly even as adults. My mom, especially, is practically a textbook case of Asperger's; but because she hates psychologists, she's never been evaluated.

My dad doesn't seem to read body language and can go on and on talking about something forever. and my mom sticks to her schedule and can't stand it when someone messes it up.

My mom has a couple traits. Namely she likes to rant and nitpick on her favourite subjects, chiefly her annoyance with other people and being around people. Whenever it's a lecture, it's a one-sided lecture where she just goes on and on and nothing you can do to make her stop. Did I also say she gets bothered by being around other people and having to communicate with them? She gets flustered easily - especially when it has to do with keeping herself busy and hands on things. Did I happen to mention that she gets agitated when she is around other people? She has some traits and she - oh did I mention that she gets on her nerves being around other people? - and she is like half-way aspie.

My mom had obvious traits, and may have been a full-blown AS. Outside of family, she had NO friends. She was an obsessive and perfectionist homemaker (she ironed socks & towels, lol), and completed her tasks according to unwritten but unvaried schedules. My dad looked after all bills and household administration. I have two first cousins, children of my mom's sister, who are quite autistic.

My dad, as well as his whole family, seemed to be thoroughly NT.

Everyone on my mothers side has a few traits, my Great Uncle has enough to get diagnosed and my father and his family don't really have any traits. Well, he has obsessions... (Creature from the Black Lagoon, Westerns). And routines.

I remember when I first found out what this was, I asked one uncle about it, I assumed he didn't know what it was. Not only did he, but also he thought he was an aspie too. He's kinda like me though, aspie-like obsessions, but really probably not impaired enough in the non-verbal cue department to get diagnosed.

There is no doubt my mum is on the spectrum. Toe walker, odd prosody for an Australian woman, pedantic, fixated with routine and extreme sensory issues, and not many friends and has been keen on social justice issues, a current affairs junkie and an all round odd and brilliant and eccentric mother of 8. She was a notoriously flawed mother when we were young. She is a notoriously wonderful mother as we have become older. She once had a group of women friends when i was about ten or so. In the end they ganged up on her and bullied her. i remember it. It was horrible and not unlike my relating with women in groups. She is just a bit clueless socially, outspoken in the wrong places, and silent in the places where she is expected to agree!! Just out of kilter with the group and the pack.

She admits to many traits but has never received a formal dx. She is in her late 70's and does not see the point.

I sometimes wonder if I have AS too, but have 'grown out' of a lot of it. My daughter is AS and she is just like I was at that age. Her teachers and pyschologists think that I understand her far more than a normal parent and that I am brilliant at explaining exactly what she struggles with, why, and what would help her with it. But this is only because I know exactly what she is going through because I felt it too.

When I say I have grown out it of it, I mean that through age and experience I have learnt ways of being normal that are now so ingrained that it is impossible to seperate the real me from the carefully engineered me.

My mum is very oversensitive, addicted to Facebook apps, referred to by other family members as a bit 'dorky' or immature, has a bad short term memory etc.

My dad was very artistic, liked to fish a lot, had his own yoga business (that was quite successful in Sydney), didn't relate to people on an emotional level, wasn't too bad at carrying on a conversation though. I remember always sitting there still and silent while he's talk to his friends. If only my dad knew about AS before he died.

I think my dad had stronger traits and my mum has a few too. I'm the one that is so AS I don't work or have my life together.

Both my parents have traits.

My mom however has a history of childhood neglect and trauma(and so do her siblings) so that would mask. My grand parents on her side had some issues and narrow interests too.

My dad is bothered by disruption in routine, has few close friends(and reaches out to none). This is mitigated by his large family. His parents have/had some traits too. Grandpa would retreat from crowds after short visits.. overwhelmed. Grandma.. I have never heard her laugh, though she isnt stuffy in any way.

My paternal uncle was certainly on the spectrum. Unfortunately he died just after I learned about aspergers. I was working up the nerve to call him about it.

Funny,

I cannot really say about socialization traits on my parents. But I can relate some mainly hormonal traits.

My father had problems waking up, and was a pleasure seeker.

My mother is hypersensitive to noises, smells, heat, and she is very logical and methodic. Her father is very good in Math and almost do not demonstrates emotions, and her mother has ligamentous laxity, and is very literal when communicating.

I have all that together! (Ok, not so literal as my Grandmother )

My parents are both pretty neurotypical. There are a few very minor aspie-ish traits in them, but that's probably the case for most people.

Both of mine have certain traits. My dad is really obsessive, will talk about something on and on without noticing that people aren't listening to him, and takes things literally a lot of the time. He's also not very social, but i don't think he's actually socially impaired that much. He can "fit in" okay when he wants to. My mom probably has some sort of mild sensory-related issues.. She stims a lot more than what is considered "normal" for an NT(she even rocks back and forth). She also has some of the same trouble i have with hearing what people are saying in noisy environments. Sometimes she talks too loud or something, but she's mostly able to socialize fine. Although, lately she's been kind of like a hermit and rarely leaves the house.