Overanalyzation and Depression

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Does anyone else out there tend to brutally pick apart every facet of their lives in an attempt to find out what kind of person you are, or why you act the way you do?

Sometimes when I'm alone, I'll approach myself from many different viewpoints. I tend to get very deep in thought, thinking about how I am in this situation versus that situation, and why I acted differently. Or why I feel more comfortable around these people versus those people, and how that influences my personality.

Most of the conclusions I come to are negative, and just make me feel bad about how I'm percieved by other people. Even when I know better to act in a certain way in social situations, I deviate from that just to try to "be myself". This kind of thinking generally just makes me sadder, and only propagates more of my self doubt and negativities. (which only makes me even more timid around people)

I was just curious, if anyone else out there shares the kind of thought process that I do, and if you often come to same conclusions. Any posotive results out there?

i think like that quite often my deep thoughts quite annoying i can get a headache if information process to fast like this week i got major headache lol i kind of do assess myself how to improve? what are my main flaws? then i assess other humans and their behaviour why do they do certain things? what do they think? and yes my thoughts are mainly negative i kind of like never talk to my peers lol no idea why though it just not happen sometimes reason obvious other times it hard to figure out

yep. the inability to communicate is tough.

It's hard... Cause for even "normal" situations you hear how hindsight adds way too many accuracies for any sort of actual real-time critiquing...

But I am guilty of it anyway and try to just adjust. But then, I don't hang out with too many people and it's probably not as big a deal as I always seem to make it out to be.

I also have that thing about being more comfortable around some people. I've been trying to figure it out and the only thing that I think might explain it is expectations. I think our subconscious mind picks up when people expect something from us that we can't give, generally social expectations. Some people just have less social expectations.

I've always analysed my words and actions as well. I ended up having a low opinion of myself. I felt quite stupid when I would sometimes say things that I didn't really believe, say the wrong thing, get confused or think too slowly. I'd always know what I should have said after the situation.

When I found out about AS, I started thinking about all those things again. I have a theory that it's my different thinking style that causes those things. It's not really that I think slower than most people. It's that I use a different mode of thought. My thought process means that I need more time to analyse things in my head before I say them. It's when the conversation doesn't allow me that time that I end up saying stupid things or things I don't really believe, because I feel I must say something. NT's tend to use a more social mode of thought, which doesn't require thinking time. This is why I think aspies can have trouble socialising with NT's.

I was just like that all the way up through high school, but I eventually grew out of it. Analytically, I knew nobody else scrutinized my faults to the same extent I did. My peers forgot my trivial mistakes that I would fret over. Eventually my emotional state caught up with this logical realization and I felt better.

Although I am very prone to
analytical thought.I think more
philisophically than anyalitically.
By this I mean I am more concerned
with the whole picture rather than
details.

For me 'detail-talk' is small talk.
Where as thought that seeks to unify
(dialectical thought) and draw
together opposing ideas and concepts
is moving towards wholeness as
apposed to perfection.

The person who is more anylitical over
philisophical is posibbly more prone
to depression.

Chris

Guilty. I pick apart every little detail to the way they look at me or the tone of their voice. Even if it wasn't aimed at me, I'll believe it was most of the time.

I'm working on this, it's taking me along time. But I used to have everything planned out in my head from the first step I took in a room to the last...and if it didn't go to plan. Oh WPEFKEROGJEORGJEG!! !%R@#%@#$%@#%!


You got my point I assume.