Why do you keep quiet?

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Reminds me of a remark Culpeper put in his herbal book: "to the vulgar, I have nothing to say." Don't think of yourself as not fit for the world......it's the cold-hearted gossips who ought to leave it. Best thing is not to listen to them.

Most of the time it's because I just don't have anything to say.

Because I tend to be very rude and disrespectful if I go up to someone and talk to them without preparing a mental "script" in my head first. And this tends to hurt their feelings and make them hate me.

Do you think about talking with sb and make strategies how if..., prepare answers etc?

I do. But sometimes I only imagine but not talk really. For me it's done

Best song - Enjoy The Silence:
Vows are spoken
To be broken
Feelings are intense
Words of trivial
Pleasures remain
So does the pain
Words are meaningless
And forgettable

All I ever wanted
All I ever needed
Is here in my arms
Words are very unnecessary
They can only do harm

Exactly.

If i have a need to speak, i consider it and then do it. When i speak without a point or having previously considered it, i usually spend the next minutes/hours/days thinknig about how stupid i came across or i wish i hadn't said what i said etc, so i try to avoid doing it. Sometimes i make the decision to do it anyway, taking the hit to my personal feelings for the benefit of seeming more human to someone, but i'm really not sure it's worth it.

I do this too!! ! Plan out what I want to say and think of what that persons response might even be LOL!

I've always lived by this phrase and wish it were more true, but in my experience it's often the other way around - "It's better to open one's mouth and be known a fool than to allow doubt to spread."

People look at quiet types with mistrust, or jump to unwelcome conclusions about us because we're so unknown. I often feel that I'm perceived more negatively for my silence than I would be if they just thought I was a harmless "fool".

There are some people I enjoy talking with. There are others that I don't enjoy talking with. However, if I have something to say, I'll say it. If you ask me a question, I tend to give long, detailed answers. However, if I don't like your question (if it is sarcastic or insulting, for example) I just roll my eyes and end eye contact. Then I am quiet. There are a lot of people in my classes that would say that I talk too much, as I often have an opinion, or will challenge the professors criteria. NEver got me in trouble though.

Because I assume that other people think like me, and that all the little details that i leave out, need not be mentioned because they're so obvious(to me).

i prefer not to talk. many reasons already mentioned above

i dont like phones for this very reason, i like phones to use but not to talk on

Hello Millie I don't like the quiet/introvert stereotype either. I made the topic since in past topics I've heard people mention they are mostly quite/don't say much. I myself am a talker (my psychology teacher said I needed a muzzle LOL!) I remember when I use to chat with Maddduck he mention going to an AS meeting thing and said some people there were loud/annoying etc. he said I wasn't that way but IMO over AIM/WP I'm different than real life and going off my track record I'd probably end up upsetting you/someone. (Maybe I hope not since we are all Aspies and hopefully understand each others quirks/thought process' etc.)

by not sending commands to the muscles used to make noise

My interest' are not in "what's that cute baby doing now" or in someones romance- " did you see those sparks a' flying there" ......."Or did you watch American Idol last night?!"

There is a strong absence in interest in anything that is abstract in nature , and society is just into the immediate surface impressions.
They can get glassy eyed real quick if you go deeper with any 'what if 'scenarios.
I noticed someone recently remarked that I was a "thinker" in casual conversation, and I thought to my self " what fuel is everyone running on here, then"?
"Aah I said to myself, the fuel is pure emotion."
The 'feel good glands' carries this in a viscous loop , caught up in the feelings of others , perpetually cycling.

This is reminiscent to me of phadreus in Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance .

But 'It takes all kinds' to resort to the old cliche here.

I usually have far more to say than anyone cares to hear, and lot of times I just can't seem to organizing fast enough for it to become verbal. Its a wonderful tragedy to have a mind so full you cannot speak.

Me too! Sometimes I talk a lot but only if it is about something I really like or if my mom needs to talk about something or if something is really bothering me. That is not a lot, though. My daughter is a "Chatty Patty" so I try to interact, but she is the one who wants to talk and I just act interested (thats fine with her too!)