14 Mar 2010, 8:34 pm
14 Mar 2010, 8:40 pm
14 Mar 2010, 8:52 pm
zeldapsychology wrote:
Obviously that's a simple topic question. 
My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping? 
My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping? Only ignorant people think that. No one in my family or close to me looks at me weird for doing it or tell me to stop. When I was little I got told to stop fidgeting but there's a lot more awareness about AS these days so it's more accepted.
Zelda, you need to tell your family to accept you the way you are. It's impossible to change yourself (even if you wanted to) and if they want you to then that isn't showing love. I've read so many posts where your family has told you to stop doing things or treat you in a disrespectful way. It's not right and their behavior needs to stop, not yours.
14 Mar 2010, 8:58 pm
pensieve wrote:
zeldapsychology wrote:
Obviously that's a simple topic question. My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping?
My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping? Only ignorant people think that. No one in my family or close to me looks at me weird for doing it or tell me to stop. When I was little I got told to stop fidgeting but there's a lot more awareness about AS these days so it's more accepted.
Zelda, you need to tell your family to accept you the way you are. It's impossible to change yourself (even if you wanted to) and if they want you to then that isn't showing love. I've read so many posts where your family has told you to stop doing things or treat you in a disrespectful way. It's not right and their behavior needs to stop, not yours.
Couldn't of said it better myself thank you very very much.
14 Mar 2010, 9:09 pm
14 Mar 2010, 9:13 pm
LukeInFlames
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14 Mar 2010, 9:31 pm
pensieve wrote:
zeldapsychology wrote:
Obviously that's a simple topic question. My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping?
My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping? Only ignorant people think that. No one in my family or close to me looks at me weird for doing it or tell me to stop. When I was little I got told to stop fidgeting but there's a lot more awareness about AS these days so it's more accepted.
Zelda, you need to tell your family to accept you the way you are. It's impossible to change yourself (even if you wanted to) and if they want you to then that isn't showing love. I've read so many posts where your family has told you to stop doing things or treat you in a disrespectful way. It's not right and their behavior needs to stop, not yours.
It's impossible to change yourself? How fatalistic is that? Of course it's possible.
And the reason why your family doesn't remark about your stims is because they know you, and expect it. The average dude on the street does not, and does not know you personally. Thus, it looks odd.
-Luke
LukeInFlames
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14 Mar 2010, 9:33 pm
14 Mar 2010, 11:29 pm
14 Mar 2010, 11:32 pm
LukeInFlames wrote:
pensieve wrote:
zeldapsychology wrote:
Obviously that's a simple topic question. My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping?
My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping? Only ignorant people think that. No one in my family or close to me looks at me weird for doing it or tell me to stop. When I was little I got told to stop fidgeting but there's a lot more awareness about AS these days so it's more accepted.
Zelda, you need to tell your family to accept you the way you are. It's impossible to change yourself (even if you wanted to) and if they want you to then that isn't showing love. I've read so many posts where your family has told you to stop doing things or treat you in a disrespectful way. It's not right and their behavior needs to stop, not yours.
It's impossible to change yourself? How fatalistic is that? Of course it's possible.
And the reason why your family doesn't remark about your stims is because they know you, and expect it. The average dude on the street does not, and does not know you personally. Thus, it looks odd.
-Luke
Let me rephrase that...
I DON'T WANT TO CHANGE MYSELF!
And there are things that are impossible to change about myself. I could force myself to be more social and end up with social anxiety, so no that's not going to happen. I force myself to learn maths and then I forget it. I force myself to concentrate and get mentally exhausted. I can force myself to stand up straight then start slumping my shoulders again. I can force eye contact but not keep it. I could go on and on and on.
With AS, ADHD and a few LD's in there it's a lot harder to try and change yourself.
I also couldn't give a crap if anyone that I'd only ever see once thought it looked odd.
InaWoodenHouse
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15 Mar 2010, 12:07 am
zeldapsychology wrote:
So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping?
my mom used to not like it, I think... I believe it's because hand-flapping was the only obvious visual sign that makes me "look autistic", so it always kind of took her by surprise. Also, my family used to tease me about hand-flapping with good intentions, but it made me really self-conscious. However, once I told them that they were making me self-conscious, they stopped right away
I stamp out any urges to stim at school, though- if I need to move my hands around, I shake my hand like I'm trying to shake my shirt sleeve back
Tory_canuck
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15 Mar 2010, 12:15 am
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15 Mar 2010, 12:16 am
15 Mar 2010, 12:17 am
15 Mar 2010, 3:10 am
LukeInFlames wrote:
pensieve wrote:
zeldapsychology wrote:
Obviously that's a simple topic question. My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping?
My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping? Only ignorant people think that. No one in my family or close to me looks at me weird for doing it or tell me to stop. When I was little I got told to stop fidgeting but there's a lot more awareness about AS these days so it's more accepted.
Zelda, you need to tell your family to accept you the way you are. It's impossible to change yourself (even if you wanted to) and if they want you to then that isn't showing love. I've read so many posts where your family has told you to stop doing things or treat you in a disrespectful way. It's not right and their behavior needs to stop, not yours.
It's impossible to change yourself? How fatalistic is that? Of course it's possible.
And the reason why your family doesn't remark about your stims is because they know you, and expect it. The average dude on the street does not, and does not know you personally. Thus, it looks odd.
-Luke
The average dude on the street can grow up and try not to be so bothered by things looking odd. If the average dude on the street can't manage that, then the average dude on the street can go f**k himself.
15 Mar 2010, 3:18 am
