Afraid of lying ?

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Are you afraid of lying ? I am often afraid of lying. I do not mean I am scared of lies like Christopher Boone but that I kind of need truth and lies confuse me. It is also applicable when other people tell lies because except if they are obvious lies, I do not see they are lies.
This leads to the fact that I am silent in class if I am not totally sure of the answer. So if the teacher asks the question to me suddenly, I am surprised and confused and I can not think right and I do not know if the answer I think about is right so I will not say it.
Do you have ideas to make things easier ?

To be true to myself, I as a HFA person tend to not want to wear
a mask. This is my weakness. is it also yours? I say this because
when you don't know how to answer a question, you cannot conceal
your feelings about it, and live with yourself. This is strictly observational,
and I may be reading more into it.

I think I probably am, because I know myself to be overly honest to the point where it often sprouts misunderstandings and misdemeanors in school.

Being honest and it's social placement value. The first person
could not dishonestly answer, or "makeup a answer". I really don't
know if they are AS or HFA.
The 2nd person is saying that they are as honest as I am. I don't
know if you are HFA? did you have a learning(speech or otherwise)
that caused a social delay, or made schools work with your strengths,
and weaknesses?
The real question is about the "Social" mask that hurt us all when
done by others. We as AS/HFA folks cannot tell lies since we
have to see through honesty of ourselves, and express it to others.
I really don't know how to solve this and can only conjecture the possible
solutions through other AS/HFA peoples experiences.

ANY IDEAS?????

mmm, when I was about 16 (duh), I finally figured out that everyone just lies and lies and lies, so I thought ok, I'll have a go, if that's the usual thing, but people just burst out laughing at my 'lie', it was so obvious. I had a few more tries but it was always the same, so I thought that since I'm so hopeless at lying, I'm stuck with being truthful. I like to think all sorts of spiritual merit goes with that, but maybe that's just wishful thinking. If I could lie like NTs, I would.

One of the things you have to realise is that although it may seem a 'bad' thing, people are just protecting themselves from the over-inquisitive, or those who would use any knowledge of them, to do harm, so...that's what makes us vulnerable too. Inability to present a false front makes you an easy target, because that false front is a shield.

[although it may seem a 'bad' thing, people are just protecting themselves
......that's what makes us vulnerable too]

Would you say Postperson that this is job performing weakness as well
since we do not wear masks for "Social Shielding"?

I find it incredibly hard to complement someone just to make them happy, regardless of whether what im judging is good or not.

I can tell when other people are lying though.

I'm afraid of lying amongst several other things, including saying certain things because of karma.

Ghosthunter, I have problems with your english, I don't know if u r a native english speaker, but you need to use more conventional english, otherwise you can't be understood.

I am a very good liar. Thing is I almost never lie. I dont like to. I seem to be very blunt yet deceitful (sp?) if that makes any sense. I can explain if it doesnt.

I'm afraid of lying until I actually lie in a given situation; afterwards it becomes second nature for that situation.

I can't lie very well so it doesn't really count...

Strange, this is contrary to my experience. I can't recall anyone ever lying to me (disregarding white lies on unimportant subjects, of course). I try not to lie, because I value honesty and dislike breaking my own rules. I don't think that I would be a good liar, because even attempting it makes me uneasy.


I don't understand why having a "false front" would be a good thing. I always thought otherwise...

I hate lying and often get into aggro for it - I will never compliment anyone to ingratiate myself when I think the compliment is undeserved for example (in fact I hardly ever compliment anyone at any time, and fard it very hard to do so, but anyway....). I just prefer to be completely honest and to damn the torpedoes.... I just don't have the inclination or energy it takes to maintain the web of lies it seems that you need to construct in order to be a successful social operator in the NT world.....

I'm not very good at lying...

If I think a woman looks mannish... I'll say so... If I think a woman looks perfect... I'll say so...

I know exactly what you mean. That's how I am. It's like I know I can be very deceitful, almost like a con-artist. Yet, at the same time I never do and am often too honest for my own good. I can't quite explain what it is though; it's complicated.