Mmm, the fun subject.
I dream of the day i can be Aspie me and just go along in life without being hassled more than anyone else is, EVERYONE gets the bullies and the morons at one point or another, but the Aspie gets the near constant questioning and at times bullying from those who dont know WHY.
A world where i can wear gloves almost all day and no one, NT or otherwise will bat an eyelid if i dont take them off or I wear them indoors.
A world where Everyone has the godsdamn intelligence and social awareness to know not being looked at doesn't mean the person doing something or thinking hasnt suddenly gone spontaneously deaf,
honestly, THEY think WE'RE clueless on bodylanguage? i know when someone is listening to me even if they're backs to me.
A world where a "lack" of social indicators actually makes someone look for more subtle signs than getting freaky and all scaredyweredy.
You know, a world with other intelligent sentient lifeforms... HA!
The big things really are
1) HFA and NT's REQUIRE social interaction of SOME kind even minimal to remains mentally functional..
those odd guys on the street who talk to themselves and are obviously not all there? its because every f*cker treats them like they're invisible, you want to live totally alone in some remote place, go for it, most people will simply collapse into themselves mentally in that situation.
2) Its not OUR society, neither in the exclusive or the inclusive sense, its NT's.
Here's the real sucky thing, we bash NT's (i do it too), but i realised a day or so ago, guess what..
That Silence we try to maintain both in terms of what we reveal verbally(by never speaking up) and none verbally(by conforming behaviourly) when in NT society, that we learned from the times of our probably bullied/picked on/demanded upon early life, That "personal" silence that protects us and has probably protected Aspies for as long as we've been around, is what's let society develop WITHOUT us.
Society Learned how to assist and deal with wheelchair users, everyone knows not to stare, not to mention and to get the doors etc, it "helped" to be very visible and have very visible advocates and mostly today its "bad" too bully someone in a wheelchair.
We are (as has been said) Not visible, and that's by intent for many of us, are our advocates focusing on society accepting us and our PRESENT needs like wheelchair bound peoples did? No they're focused on a more "home care"/"privately done care" method and research/curing, the middle bit that other visibly "impaired" people get NOW is being overlooked because day in day out we maintain our Protective personal silence.
Those "before" us likely "kept silent", but today due to those with physical disabilities we have in most places the protective laws in place, in schools and in the workplace and most people (not all but most) have learned HOW to learn how to treat those "differently abled", Our silence which IS acceptable, has, it seems protected us -too- well.
"They" dont know about us interpersonally and even if they did they wouldnt know how to deal with us, that level of blindness and ignorance is a recipe for disaster.
21 Mar 2010, 10:46 pm
