Are you blunt when you want people to get to the point?

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I tend to be blunt sometimes as well. Usually when people are talking too much and I am not in the mood to listen to it...

I can be very blunt, at times. If a guy sits close to me, and I've that he's trouble, I tell him that he'd better not make a move on me. I can also be blunt about how most young women dress, these days, but not to their faces.

Most people get right to the point, so I never have to do that.
It does frustrate me in my head, though.

My subtext: "Yeah, yeah, I've heard all of this already--tell me what I need to know/do."

My filter: "Nope, can't say that. Would look rude."

My spoken text: (nod). (nod again).

My subtext: "Hey, filter, do we really have to sit through all of this?"

My filter: "Screw it, I'm on lunch."

My spoken text: "I know, I know! Can you jump to the new part?"

My fiance's family loves to ramble on and on about nothing, most of the time, without having any specific point in mind (as sinsboldly priviously mentioned).
The only thing I can do is smile and nod, or else I would be considered rude and disrespectful.

If they are talking about stuff that is common knowledge to me, and I say, "I am well aware of that", that's considered rude.
If they are rambing on and giving all the inane details and blah blah blah about a very simple task (like getting the beef out of the freezer and leaving it out to thaw), and I start to appear impatient ever so slightly, then I'm rude.
If they ask a simple question, and I give a simple answer (rather than rambing on and on about anything slightly related to the question), then I'm blunt and rude.

Sometimes, I think they talk just to hear themselves talk.

Oh yes. All the time. Some people can just drone on and on forever without achieving any further understanding. I'm more patient these days, but I used to just cut them off very rudely.

I've gotten much better with the realization that most people like talking about things as a way of venting/expressing/whatever. Talking about something helps them crystallize what they're feeling I guess.

But in the past I would very often say things like, "I'm sorry, but exactly what in the F do you want me to do about the extra 45 mins. you spent in traffic yesterday? Take you back in my time machine so I can help you figure out a better route or what? Please get away from me before I literally eat you alive." I always figured people wouldn't be talking to me about something unless they wanted me to actually do something about it.

Yes.

I have an aspie friend who will not give me straight answers. I ask him a simple question and he turns it into a soap box. So I have to keep asking him the same question over and over and I go "yes or no" and it gets me angry and I feel like having a meltdown. Then he finally gets to the point by answering it correctly. God I do not need details. I just want a yes or no answer. Not have him go off topic and saying irrelevant things. One of my other aspie friends does the same thing too. I feel I have to wrestle them to get to the point.

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