So, who DO you like touching you?

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Not anyone, really.
Although I like my cat.
It is a nice cat.

My wife, The kids (like others mentioned as long I see it coming) other then that , that's it!

I really get annoyed by these people at work that have to pat your arm or put a hand on your shoulder. It makes me want to scream "Get out of my space!"

And it's tought the other way around. I'm not thrilled about shaking hands or being in a confined space with too many people and will try to back into a corner so as not to touch anyone.

Man, I'm such a basket case.

My girlfriend.

My cat's the only one I like touching me. Especially like on my arms when I'm wearing short sleeves, or my feet when I'm not wearing shoes, or my face.

My cat, he's nice and soft and doesn't give me much of a choice don't like his whiskers though so I always have to move him around so they aren't touching me. Don't like people touching me, it feels weird.

I agree about handshakes. Hands are disgusting. I'm not really a germ-o-phobe, heck, I'm not even that tidy. Hands are just really personal, and tend to be oily, sweaty, and have a little of everything else as well. And I know I'm always wiping my eyes, rubbing my face, scratching my head, etc, so really people just shouldn't be shaking my hand. I'm always itchy somewhere, there's not much I can do about it. And wouldn't you know it, where the women in my church are always hugging, guess what the men choose? Yep, the hearty handshake. Mind you, before I decided to risk seeming rude (by definition, being rude, I guess) by avoiding handshakes as much as possible, I did find that you can get a lot of a person's personality from the handshake... The lighter ones make me wonder why they bother since they obviously don't care much about it, the stronger ones, to the point of being painful, irritate me to no end because I think people should give some thought before crushing a person's hand (go figure). The ones in between are most tolerable, but it's like a lot of things I've come to avoid in recent years... after a while I just can't take the pressure of trying to figure out which type I'll be dealing with and have chosen to dispense with it rather than try to figure out how firmly to squeeze. Simple civility is enough, surely.

On a different tangent of the same topic... What about too much pressure? I agree that firm touch is better, provided you don't get someone like the crusher handshake types... if someone touches too lightly or is too overbearing, I'm going react poorly. Light touch can bring the nervous cat response, y'know, a startle. Overbearing touch is actually worse... where considerate firmness can set me at ease, roughness can trigger a fight or flight response. This is logical to me, considering what roughness means... attack, force, robbery, rape, the intent to take what you would not give if asked.

I once had a college roommate, a rather hefty girl back when I was tall and thin and fairly weak, decide it would be funny to take a running leap at me when I was bent down writing something in the snow with my finger. So one minute I'm forming words and the next I am face down in a snow drift with this moose on my back. I panicked, thrashed, got out and onto my feet and screamed, I mean primal scream here, "WHY DID YOU DO THAT?" and turned and pelted home as fast as I could run. By the time the bunkies caught up with me I was sitting and drawing repetitive shapes in my sketch pad... over and over and over...

I ask you, do other people, attacked without provocation, roll over and start laughing? She meant no harm, I don't doubt that. There may have been some latent irritation, I certainly wasn't a sweet girl, not careful with my words. But it had been a long time since the rough and tumble days of my childhood. Anyway, I don't get it.

Mostly it is either yuck or irritating, sometimes painful (although I guess the pain comes from flinching to avoid touch). And I absolutely hate those social hugs, especially from people I know well but only through work (office hugs are the most excruciating intrusion). There is a strong sense of insecurity.

I generally do not mind being touched by dentists, nurses, doctors and so on when they have explained precisely what they are going to do beforehand, or I know what they are going to do. I actually like the physical contact in a safe context.

I used to be very openly affectionate, but that has changed in recent years.

I have one friend who likes to cuddle. We're perfectly fine with taking our meds together and cuddling/talking for hours on end. Nothing romantic at all. In fact, it's curbed my urge to be in any romantic relationships at all.

Besides her, I'm very uncomfortable with people touching me anymore. There are various sensitive spots that make me flinch involuntarily upon contact. I was touched by someone I was just introduced to the other night and I got very hostile and snippy with her when she touched my arm.

My bearded dragon. When she was a baby, it was a tickly sensation when she would scurry across my hands and arms. She's just about all grown up now and her claws are now actualy claws. She's gotten used to me and is now content to just sit and be cuddled. I love how she feels and the soothing "energy" that emits from her. I love how her back is prickly and her underside is so soft and "squishy". She is handfed and sometimes she will miss the worm and get my fingers instead. Her little tounge coming out and touching my fingers feels so neat. She is my favorite thing to touch and be touched by.

Anybody as long as I don't dislike them and as long as they don't take me by surprise. And they have to be reasonably clean.

It can seem strange if I don't know them well, but not so strange that I'll feel unhappy about it.

I like being touched and I guess almost anybody could touch me but my favourite touchers are my husband and daughter of course