Did your parents ever train your social skills?

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They were very careful that we were to be careful about other people's feelings. Never mind our own. It took me a while to figure out that sometimes people dump on you for no particular reason. If I complained to my father that someone at school had been mean to me, his first response would be "I wonder what you did to deserve that."

Yeah I grew up being taught all the basic social skills and the dos and don'ts and stuff. And I've grown up being taught the importance of having company and seeing people and not becoming a shut in (which I end up doing anyway if left to my own devices, being a shut in.)
A lot of the more complex social stuff I've learned from experience or reading up on it.

I'm 42 and am still being trained. Nt's are very confusing.

Yes,becuase I would fight with most "therapists" and refused to cooraperate with them. The only one who could reach me was my mum. My parents relaised there was nothing they could do about my special intrests and was talking about meerkats 24/7 really that bad? My parents taught me about "true friends" and if they truely were my friends they wouldn't give a s**t about my weirdness. My mum said I didn't have to care how the other person felt or be intrested in what the other person was intrested in but I could pretend or fake it. They didn't try to change me and make me normal (which is what the therapists wanted) they just helped me so I could function. If I didn't want to do something you COULD NOT make me do it. Sticker charts and rewards just taught me to focus on the reward and if no reward was offered or I did not like what as offered or it took too long to earn it, I would not do what was wanted of me. For a while I wasn't allowed to "have" anything, I had to earn it and never knew when I would actualy get it.

lol...i was very lucky the way i grew up

my dads side was very shy and quiet which is what i inherited

however my moms side is a big italian social network, lol....i grew up with a lot of people around all the time, socializing, large dinners, noise, kais, emotions

my mother is the most social person i know...she easily makes friends and they are for life

i thank god i grew up in that strict, noisy, social, and VERY LOVING family.it helped me immenseley on learning the social nuances we find so hard...................i was a very weird little fellow but was accepted fpor who i was

brilliant mitch.....being polite and respectful of people will get you far.....if you are socially awkward but act like a gentlemen, you're in the club

No. my social skills were pretty bad but my parents never noticed. One s pretty blunt and the other is a mild aspie so it was normal in my household to be blunt and outspoken and lecture people. I was taught manners but that was about it. I had no idea what was going wrong with my interactions with people until I was 25.

I think I have ok self esteem because I grew up wth my parents not knowing about AS. I think it is very hard on a kid to know their parents are not pleased with how they are. My parents were most concerned about my poor spatial awareness, sporting performance, handwriting and concentration span.

My mother's as unsocial as I am, so she never saw any need to change me.

My father told me that I should talk to people more but never gave any idea of how I might do that.

My Canadian parents tried to get me to lose my Cockney accent, and discourage me from talking about my special interests. The two things that make me, who I am.

Not much. My mom would explode at anything that didn't please her we often lied to avoid getting beaten. My dad just ignored everybody. I never told them much about my life, school or friends, and they didn't ask either. It's very lucky they were not the only adults in my life.

My mum teaches people how to communicate effectively, so she kept reminding me to "make eye contact" and "don't interrupt someone when they're speaking". It definitely helped a bit although I still don't like eye contact and occasionally interrupt people. But my ramblings about things (continuously talking about something I want) hasn't stopped, my mum actually encourages me to do that because she can keep up with me.

And she encourages me to go out with my classmates so that I can socialize. I don't socialize too well with girls, but when boys are around I find myself being very social because it's so much easier because I can speak their "language" better than I speak "girl language". But talking to boys = you have a boyfriend because a lot of people in my school are very immature, so I rarely get the opportunity to actually have a situation where I'm socializing in a fairly normal manner.