Has anyone disowned their parents or family?

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My mother has hurled abuse at me for a long time. One of the repetitive things she did was to compare me to a 40 year old man with drug problems, no job, no money, and say I was just like him. Sometimes she would say I was worse. I ended up moving in with my grandparents while still in high school, just to get away from her.

My mother openly stated that she was in support of it, because it meant that she didn't have to spend any money taking care of me. She started giving a lot of my old things to my brother, and seemed quite happy to have me out of her life.

Now that my grandmother has passed away, my mother is bullying my grandfather out of his own home. She completely disowned me for standing up to her, and my grandfather doesn't want to lose his only daughter, so he takes it every time she hurls abuse his way.

My dad and brother are both taking her side, but for different reasons. They seem to cave in to giving her everything she wants. Everyone's been doing it for a while now. If you don't give my mother what she wants, she starts calling you ungrateful and cutting you down in front of everyone.

I'm the only one who made it known that I refuse to be treated that way, and I've been disowned by my own mother for doing so. I don't even speak to my dad or brother, and I don't intend to unless they back off their support for my mother. Until then, as far as I'm concerned they don't exist.

Both my parents have always been in their own little worlds since I have been around.
No need to disown my dad in particular He has never had a clue about anything happening in my life anyway No wait he did notice the verbal stimming accually used something I would say over and over again as kid as my name. Can't figure out how he could know about my problems but how he never wanted to admit to may be they were
not my fault. It would have be nice to have some help. I guess he did the best he could?
Oh my mom might have lost her pride and see what help was out there if my dad was not around I really don't know. Boy I sure hated dad telling me what I could not do as if I needed him to tell me I sucked at any sports No dad other people were good enough to tell me. Still hear his stupid condasending little whistle in my head when ever I would meltdown. Sure hope that their is a reason for living in the end and it is not all for not. Feels good to get this out.

My father and then stepmother disowned me for going to church. That's right folks, for going to church.

Father had always been a deadbeat dad and never even paid my mother child support. He became a Jehovah's Witness and got brainwashed into believing that all people who weren't JWs were evil. My mother's household was totally disfunctional and no matter how much I begged and pleaded with my father to live with him, he wouldn't because he didn't want my evil church-going cooties to contaminate his family.

He finally let me stay with him when I was around 20 years old because my mother was going through a rough divorce. That lasted about five months with his flip-flopping over whether I should continue living with him and making me prove why I should have the privilege of being a member of their family. It didn't matter that I was in college, had a part-time job and never got into trouble. All that mattered to him was the fact I went to a mainstream church.

The last straw came when he had a car accident and had to take pain meds for head injuries. The pain meds caused him to have a drug relapse and start using cocaine again. And guess who got blamed? Me of course since "god couldn't bless this household" since I was living there. I was disowned posthaste and sent back to my mother.

Oh, by the way, my father got kicked out the house by his wife a year later for being a dope head and had to live at his mama's house. And his wife left the JWs and became a mainstream Christian. Karma's a biotch, isn't it?

My mother disowned me because I got married to someone she didn't approve of. She never likes it when anyonet gets married, it's like they're finding another family and dropping out of their own it seems.

I'd like to disown my sister, because of the way she treated me practically from birth. She was always trying to push me around, always insulting me, always playing mind games, destroying things I made, and generally just treating me like dirt. She also tried to get me banned from talking, she would always interupt anything I said with "wrong," because according to her, I was always wrong because I was me, not for what I said and I was incapable of knowing anything because I was a boy. She also liked to say everything was my fault because nothing is ever a girl's fault.

On the rare occasion I did make a friend, Sis was always there to try and steal them, and usually did. Soon my friends would come to the house to visit her and not even acknowlege me. I would ask her to leave my friends alone and she wouldn't because she resented me having any friends at all and was going to mess that up any way she could. Of course if she had friends over, I was forbidden by our parents to bother them in any way, yet that rule, most rules for that matter, never applied to her, and our parents wouldn't enforce it like they would with me. After all, she was a girl and girls don't have to follow rules(at least according to her).

I'd also like to disown one brother because he physically abused me, including hitting me but his favorite thing was twisting my arm around. In fact, the day he left for college I was thrilled, because with him gone, there would be no more arm twisting. He also helped convince my parents that my not swimming was a major problem, so he attempted to teach me using threats, intimidation, and attempted drowning. Even though he didn't succeed, my parents got on this swimming fixation for me that they'd force me into the pool, even though I couldn't swim, daily whenever my sister went into the pool, and of course it made me miserable and my sister took full advantage of it, using going swimming to take me away from everything I liked to do. My parents later began forcing other things on me my sister did, which lasted many more years.

I have another brother who used to gang up on me with my sister, doing pretty much the same things she did. They both felt I should have no rights and should do whatever they said. They used to love to always say I was always wrong and didn't know anything, and shouldn't be allowed to talk or have any say in anything I do. Their reason was simply that I was the wrong person and if I were anyone but me, I'd have rights. No crime, just being born the wrong person.

All I wanted was the same treatment all of my siblings got, the chance to be themselves, choose their own activities, and not follow in anyone's footsteps. I wanted to just be who I was and be happy, but parents and siblings wouldn't go for that, they just wanted to force me to conform and to be my sister's garbage bin so she could feel good about herself.

The good news is I don't live in the same town as any of them, and seldom see or hear from any of them, which is just the way I like it.

I've disowned an uncle of mine who is mentally unstable to the point where he has no friends, and has been fired from every job he's had, including one this past year after only 2 weeks. It's possible that he has bipolar disorder as it runs on my dad's side of the family, but since he's not a threat to himself or others, he can't be forced into treatment. I'm not the only one in the family who has disowned him, most relatives have gotten tired of his verbal abuse, so most of us want nothing to do with him. My grandma is his enabler as she's paid his rent for many years since he couldn't hold a job, and now she's letting him live with her. Because of that, I haven't seen her since he moved in. It's sad that I've had to do that, but the stress of dealing with his verbal abuse isn't worth it anymore. The only good thing I can say about that uncle is that he's not a pedophile.