Family not Aspie but do you see some traits in them?

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given that we have simular genes...then yes

My mum says the wrong thing all the time. Sometimes I just let her get away with saying something offensive.
She loses things a lot and forgets about certain things too. She's 50 but your mind doesn't just go the day you hit 50. She's been like this for awhile. She's got a short temper, is oversensitive. She is social but very embarrassingly so. She's always making mistakes at work and people in authority treat her like a child. She does act a bit immature sometimes. She does say that she doesn't feel like she is over 16.
She doesn't have much interests apart from Facebook applications. She seems more ADHD.

My dad...oh geez where to start?
My dad (r.i.p) wasn't very good at communicating but he took on the teacher role to his friends. He knew a lot about medicine. He wanted to study medicine but for some reason didn't. He loved to go fishing, as well as drawing /painting, calligraphy and was really into Hinduism. He was a yoga teacher but from the 1960's to early 2000's he was into yoga/hinduism. He was very clean and orderly. The family say I'm most like him.
There were things about him that seemed very AS like he wanted me to eat dinner with him (when I would be absorbed in one of my interests) and he's get really mad if I wouldn't join him.

My brother and sisters have bits and pieces of AS about them. My eldest sister used to line things up in the supermarket, my brother regurgitated our encyclopedias, and my sister was very literal and has synesthesia.

same. severe ADD in mom. bro maybe aspie, also maybe has tourettes, but finds all irrelevant since life is functional. dad previously thought to be completely mad, now i think has AS and maybe narcissistic personality disorder or some such. nephew diagnosed ADHD and AS. so i guess it is more than traits; but i seem to be the only one whose life is so profoundly affected that i want to know what is and what is not.

Can you tell me what your mama did to encourage you to be yourself and not care about others perceptions? I need some help doing that with my kids.

My immediate family has a handful of traits, but are definitely not aspies. My little brother is ADHD and quite possibly ODD but he is adopted so not sharing of genes between us. I have a cousin (I think he's a 2nd cousin) who is probably AS, that's the only person in my family who could probably meet the requirements.

My dad may very well be an aspie. But he's very succesful with business and dealing with people (NOT his family members, only work people)
My mom also acts aspie at times. She's strange. But she's a bitter aspie.

My brother is almost certainly an aspie. He's not very social at all. During family gatherings, he's very quiet and keeps to himself. He's got 2 friends whom he's known since elementary school, but he won't go out of his way to make more. When he is stressed out, he rocks in his chair. He is a perfectionist. He is extremely picky about his clothes and food. He is obsessed with guns and wildlife. He's prone to having meltdowns, one of which was so bad he climbed into bed and didn't get out for 3 days.

My son is on the spectrum, and both my husband and I have a genetic predisposition, I think.

As a child, I would often lie to my friends on the phone when they asked me to come over and play. I liked being by myself most of the time, although I did get lonely. I also faked sick A LOT to get out of school. I was a very picky eater and had major sensory issues. I also had a lot of irrational fears. My family called me "space cadet" constantly. Now I still enjoy being alone and find social situations daunting and often uncomfortable. I often have trouble keeping a conversation going, and frequent/prolonged eye contact makes me squirm. I tend to get all-consuming interests which I will fixate on completely for a few months before moving on to the next one. I tend to be oblivious to subtle body language and indirect verbal cues that others give. I like making lists, planning, and organizing things, although I'm not very tidy and I rarely clean the house. If the windows on my work computer desktop are not opened in the right order I have to close everything and fix it.

My husband has always been an introvert and socially withdrawn/anxious. He says he finds eye contact very difficult to sustain and he also has obsessive interests. If you interrupt him in the middle of something he gets extremely grouchy and has trouble picking up where he left off. He also has major sensory issues and cannot tolerate light touch or very hot/cold water. He hates the dentist because his mouth is so sensitive. He often has trouble judging what is and isn't appropriate social communication, like telling really un-funny jokes repeatedly or posting overly-personal information on his facebook status.

I'm not surprised that the 2 of us produced a child with autism.

My dad and brother might be. And I think my paternal grandfather was. And his mother. They all have aspie traits.

Oh yeah, my turkish uncle almost positively has it. And I suspect my american uncle may, and I'm sure my late american grandpa had it.

Neither of my parents do much socializing or have groups of friends. My dad's never had a friend that I could meet. It's never been "oh, this is dad's friend." I don't know what he was like when he was younger. My mom has obsessions.

I see traits of AS in a lot of people. It's one of the reasons some people think the diagnosis isn't "real".

As for my family..

My brother talks loud where he really doesn't need to. When playing games, he prefers playing the same things in the game. Not a lot of variety. He sometimes listens to the same song over and over for hours on end.

My dad as a child had been given stimulates for undiagnosed ADHD. He said it helped him pay attention quite a lot. He has zero male friends. People at work don't count, since they get together outside of work to hang out. He likes drinking beer, socializing, and playing darts, however he never went to bars, where he could do all 3 of those at once! He told me he wasn't sure how to interact with the people there, or something like that.

My mother has pretty much had the all the problems I have, and still has them, except her coping skills are waaaay greater than mine.

That's pretty much it. Out of my siblings, I was the most difficult to raise, and in fact my mother had suggested to doctors a "mild autism". This was before "mild autism" was really talked about so they just blew her off. Hey, I could have gotten some help as a kid if those damned doctors weren't so stubborn!