Are you 100% okay with it?

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I'm neither proud nor ashamed, I am what I am.

Proud no
embarrassed only when I do something embarrassing cause of it
Do I accept it: I struggle with that sometimes. I'm glad I finally know why I do/did the things I do/did.
Do I talk about it: Only if I feel the situation calls for it. I tried talking with my mom about it cause my daughter and I both have Aspergers. It's easier for her to blame my dad for my behavior and Alana's dad for her behavior. Long story short, she was not receptive. The rest of my family has not accepted it or expressed a desire to know more or to understand. Since I really don't see them that much anyway I said the heck with it.

Proud no (I'll never understand pride for something that I didn't achieve), accepting yes. I don't see that I have any choice but to accept it; non-acceptance would leave me resentful and hurting and with the same problems anyway.



I am not embarassed about it.




If people want to know about it, I'm happy to talk about it.

A fact is a fact. Nothing to be ashamed, embarrassed or proud about.

ruveyn

I'm only open about my Aspergers in the relative security of online anonymity. My close family knows, and my last girlfriend knew, and that's about all. I'm not particularly ashamed of it, but certainly not proud either. I definitely don't feel any compulsion to tell people I have it; somehow, it would just feel like indirectly asking for special treatment, which is the very last thing I'd want.

I was diagnosed with a mild case, but have always remained open to the possibility that the diagnosis could be inaccurate, so I guess that means I'm not 100% okay with the label. Rather than being proud or ashamed, it's just something I take into account when trying to deal with my life.

I would never say that I am proud that I autistic. It has forced me to adjust my goals in life. But I have adjusted my goals and have accepted them along with my condition. It's how I must live my life.

I'm still trying to accept it. I'm the cliché, I'm relieved in one sense and so, so angry in another.

But I'm also able to stand back and count my strengths and blessings. So I'm good.

Bold by me.

Proud of it--not really. It's just a condition I was born with that is part of who I am. I'm not sure "pride" makes sense.

Accepting--absolutely. It explains so much that was previously unexplainable.

Embarrassed--no way. Why should I be?

Talk about it--I've told a few people. Actually, one of my professors (my thesis committee advisor, BTW) guessed it the day he met me because he has a family member with AS. I would never have brought it up before, partially because there seemed no reason to do so (it never interfered with my work--in fact, some aspects of it were helpful) and because, being only self-diagnosed, I wasn't sure I'd be taken seriously.

I mentioned it to my doctor and he said that he'd need to see a formal diagnosis before he believed it--he thinks my social skills are "too good" for me to have AS. I guess that was probably a compliment.

I told my neighbor. She asked me to explain what it is, and then nodded and said "okay." No big deal.

I told my bf. He had already told me he suspected that he himself is an Aspie, so no problems there.

I am proud of who I am.
I accept my diagnoses, and I accept me as who I am.
I am not embarrassed about who I am. I may do something, and apologize, and be embarrassed then. But who i am is who I am and no one will change that.
I talk to whoever asks and actually cares to listen. But I haven't really told anyone. My grandparents know, my mom, and sister know. Also when I talk is if I hear a stereotypical thing about autism or someone dissing autism then I speak up.

I am who I am. I accept who I am, what I do, what I say, and what I have.

Oh about talking about it. My grandparents were curious. So I was talking about Aspergers. And my grandpa said when I was going in and out of psych hospitals in 2007, that one of his friends at work said it sounds like she has Aspergers. But my grandpa ignored it because he didn't know what it was or what to do. Than when I got the diagnoses from my doctor, he brought it up and wanted to know more. So I told him more. But my grandpa and grandma are always in the same room. My grandma is stereotypical. I love her to death but she doesn't get it. She's like your no autistic. I was like Aspergers is a form of autism. I kept trying to explain her the difference and same things of Autism and Aspergers. She kept saying you don't flap your hands it got me aggravated it was like talking to a brick wall But it was good that my grandpa wanted to learn and understand more.

Yep, accepting and proud, and I sometimes mention it casually if the subject happens to arise in a conversation.

Depends on what you mean.

As far as my opinion goes I am 100% accepting and not embarrassed. (Doesnt mean there aren't unpleasant or difficult parts, I accept those too.) If by proud you mean not ashamed, then, same. If you mean superiority or like pride in an accomplishment then no. This is just all in terms of consciously developed opinion.

But as far as unconscious stuff goes, I still have a lot of internalized ableism that can make me feel bad about it. I don't truly believe it, if you know what I mean. But it's not like I never feel bad about it from those parts of me that are fearful or retain prejudices about disability and other stuff like that.

And again it's not like it never causes problems or difficulty doing stuff. That's a totally separate question (even though those who blame their hatred of autism on the things they can't do because of it often believe otherwise)

I accept it and am happy with it. Not 'proud' as such, because I see pride as being for something I've worked hard to accomplish. I am no more proud of being Aspie than I am of being female or white or British - those are things that I didn't accomplish through my own effort. I am not proud or ashamed of such things. But I'm proud of how I work hard to find strategies to survive and thrive.

I'm not embarrassed to say that I have it, but there are other considerations which make me choosy about whom I tell, such as other people's stereotypes, how I will be treated, and assumptions that will be made. I want people to know me for who I am, rather than to superimpose some outdated stereotype upon me, together with daft assumptions that will stop them really knowing me for who I am.

And yes, I talk about it with others - with people I choose to tell. I don't talk about it with them all the time though, because I don't want people to immediately associate me with a label. I want them to know me in a broader context than simply the fact that I have Aspergers.

I've told some people that I'm pretty sure I might have it. It's not a huge deal, I was tested for all kinds of neurological stuff as a kid including AS, most people know I have ADHD and that I can be a space case. Once I explain to them that;s it a lot like ADHD just with more obsessive traits and social difficulty I don't think they're that shocked. I wouldn't tell an employer or anything though. Not ashamed, just don't want to have a label in the workplace.

I am neither proud nor ashamed of it. I don't feel pride because I didn't do anything to get it, it's just there.
It's not the only disability I have, so I wouldn't over emphasize the autism because it would over shadow other difficulties I have.



No, but I don't tell a lot of people because if you thought ableism was bad in the regular world, then you should come here. It's the Nazi capital of Canada. I already face massive discrimination from reeking of mysterious, un-named otherness that makes other people nervous around me. If I gave it a name and told everyone it's autism that would just make things worse.