Would you want to live in an "aspie community"?

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just for being born a JayBird



I'll just change my name to JayWalker then

Well if more women than men are on this site, then surely there is a near 1:1 correspondence between males and females who are functioning autistics (functioning at least to access and post to this site).

Are there actually more women than men on WP?

@DaWalker, .

That is quite an assumption.
I am talking about the number of women with Asperger's. You're drawing from an undifferentiated pool which includes an unknown number of curious NTs, NTs who incorrectly believe themselves to be Aspie( or otherwise on the spectrum), and all the women on other parts of the spectrum who frequent this site. Add that to the fact that neither WP nor Alexa is designed with the methodology to give us accurate data on this question to begin with. You might want to check out the epidemiology from real, scientific studies. The sex ratio is usually between 5-2 to 1 in the papers I've read.

would i ever

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I wouldn't mind living on the outskirts. Like everything else though I'd rather not limit myself. I'm a nudist but I don't want to spend my entire life in a village full of naked people some of which who would probably be in it for the wrong reasons. Nor would I want to live in a village full of bonehead redneck drag racers just because I do race, nor a village full of nerds (god forbid I wanted to get a game on it's release date), nor a village full of metalheads, and etc. Not that I like being away from certain members of the above groups.

AS interferes with social initiative. I would guess if more women visit this site then men, that that doesn't imply that there are more female members. Men have, by default more initiative then women (imo) at least to out-group people. Thus i would suspect that there are more male posters even if there are more female visitors.

This same issue plays a role in the statistics of the number of diagnoses that exist of AS. I would guess there are as many females with AS as males, but that males are more likely to a) notice the symptoms because males have greater need for social initiative then females (again imo) b) I would think that a higher percentage of men that notice their symptoms would seek diagnosis than women.... Mainly I think this because I believe that there is a greater social stigmata placed on "shy" men than there is on "shy" women.
Shy is attractive in women... or do i just think that because I'm an Aspie?

Anyways ... to the question of the OP... Well, i haven't checked my lotto-max ticket yet.. but if i win the 50 million, i'll start a colony tomorrow.

Most of the problems with such a group that have been pointed out are superfluous. People that don't "wish they could be more social" wouldn't likely move to the community. Most of us are anti-social not because we choose to be, but because experience has taught us to be. By living in such a community, after a time that ice would start to break, as we didn't the normal misunderstandings in day to day life.

I like the outdoors you know...
I think i'll start a delivery service... door to door. And i'll sell little lock boxes for my customers so that they can put the money in them, and i can leave the delivery and the change in there and they don't even have to talk to someone if they don't want... they can totally seal themselves off if they want... But, as I said, I think that attitude will wear off very quick.

I do have one question though... what about non-AS children of aspies? do we have to give them up for adoption or something?
Also there is the issue of classic autism children born to aspie parents, that'll upset the few posters that were adamant that there be none.

We got a lot of details to work out, but I could see this working just fine. We might have trouble finding an ISP that is willing to service the area without having special rates (like 5x higher) for us though... Just imagine the bandwidth we use. It would be like a company offering flood insurance in the middle of a flood plain.

As for being a step towards segregation. I don't find that it really is segregation, I don't see it a gated community, though I do see some sort of residency restrictions being in place. I know there are similarities to a racial community, in that this is something people were "born with" not "decided to be" but on the same token it's a group of people that share something "real" with each other, are similar in behavior... not just in the colour of their skin.... which to me is no different than the colour of their eyes or of their favourite shirt.

Sure, if we didnt gather together as close. I have a comfort zone around me that is around 2 meters/yards, anything inside that and i'll start to feel annoyed/irritated.

But other than that, living in a community with people who think differently all the time - including the girls/women - i'd love it!

I would love to live in an Apserger's community. My best friend is an Aspie. I think I could get along better with Aspies than the people in the supported accommodation I'm living in at the moment (I have mental health problems so I'm living in government-paid supported accommodation for people with menetal health problems).

How much would it cost to live there
If it cost a lot; I'd rather move to another country instead cuz I'd have much better lucky finding someone in an area that's more traditional/conservative & has arranged marriages. An Aspie community does sound nice but I would imagine it'll be very hard to find a partner there considering the ratio of guys to women; I'd have lots of guys to share my frustation thou so I wouldn't feel like I'm the only person who cant find someone(no offense)

Easy fix: allow each woman to marry five men.

I wonder if some of us already do live in an aspie community, big cities like the one I am in, being involved with special interest social groups, looking out for eachother. I suppose I've been quite lucky to stumble upon such a group, or groups would the case be. I find that the spectrum tendency is more apparent with the social groups I am involved with. We don't live together but we do encourage the social skills practice and the group has been very understanding and helpful.
I've had many aspects in my life help to improve my aspie problems as I've learned many things about myself.

Still looking for my niche though.

I could not handle that. I'd want to be her only one cuz she'd be my only one. It mite make a good movie thou like a spin-off/spoof of that Rodney Dangerfield movie My 5 Wives. Lifetime mite show My 5 Husbands

Living in an Aspie would be interesting to say the least though, it would require a great amout of patience and understanding in being able to deal with other people's quirks..

Quite simply, no, I wouldn't.

I don't want to be stuck in a social ghetto of any kind - in the same way that if I were black I wouldn't want to socialise only with other black people, or if I were gay I wouldn't want to cut myself off from mixing with straight people. It's true that NTs often don't understand us, and vice versa, but they're not the enemy.

I would like to live near several Asperigans for the simple fact that I could relate to someone in the neighborhood. However, I feel that I would close myself out somehow to the dynamics of the real world if that were to happen. It's like living in a gated community. Only certain people - shall I say "types of people" - are allowed to enter the premises of a particular neighborhood. Although a gated community is supposed to make one feel sheltered and safe, it feels like you are sheltering yourself off to other people outside of your realm. My sister used to live in a gated community and that is how I felt.

Also, this website is certainly a community since I do not know anyone in the real world who has AS. I may not post a lot but I read lots of the topics posted on WrongPlanet. Therefore, we do live together in a community in a sense and that is WP.