Weird variation I got of "you're so quiet"

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I'd probably just say that I was quiet because I had nothing to say, and that they'll know it when I do.

Another reason I sympathise with this thread. I've had "Open your mouth" as one overly common line.
Maybe I should try "Do I get a treat?" next time.
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I would have stared to. Her behavior was rude. Maybe she didn't realise that till you were stareing? I have gotten that sort of behavior from just about any Neuro typical, but never the spectrum. I am beyond tired of it myself.

I got that a lot, in the cesspool, that I like to call, High School. People would ask my name, to get me to talk. Of course I'd tell them my name, and they'd say, "I thought that you were quiet, because you were ret*d, but now, I know that you're British." I just told those kids, to have a nice day, and than I wouldn't be bothered, until the next one would come along, three months later. It was a different punk, every time. That went on, from the time I've started Grade 8, until I've graduated, five years later, in Grade 12. That happened a total of 15 times.

I'm always told I am being too loud.

I also got this a lot, especially when I was younger. I remember getting this nearly everyday when I was a kid in school. I just didn't want to talk to the bratty NTs who were obsessed with (insert famous 80s singer here) and new hairstyles. Yuck. I'd rather think about whatever my special interest was at the time.

I've been asked if I speak English, if I know how to talk and just general inquiries about why I was so quiet. I don't understand why being quiet is so perplexing to other people.

Same here! Only I tend to think about dragons. Generally what I tell people nowadays is that I like to write stories or make movies in my head, or thinking of a new art piece, and they say, "Ah, you're one of those creative people."
Somehow the normal world accepts that to a degree.

Once we had this new teacher who never shut up talking about herself. she was doing a sort of register and asked who *my name* was and this douchey guy who always bugged me nodded at me and said 'shes the quiet one'. The woman just looked at me and asked 'why are you quiet?'.wtf do i say to that. why are you so loud b***h

Oh man... I have a story for you guys that I just remembered. *shudders* Wish I wouldn't have remembered this.

In fifth grade, I developed a very severe stuttering problem, but it only happened when I was at school. When I was home, the stuttering went away. So, I was ridiculed daily by the other kids to where I would cry every day when I got home from school. One day, we had a substitute teacher and he asked a hard question that only I knew the answer to. Feeling proud of myself, I raised my hand. Just before the teacher called on me, some girl interrupted and said, "No! Don't pick her! She'll take forever to talk and we'll be stuck here forever!" Guys... the teacher actually made the @___@ face and said, "Oh, well thanks for letting me know. Okay, I guess no one knows the answer."

I ran to the nurses office and made myself get sick just so I could go home. I never heard my parents simultaneously scream so many obscenities into a phone at the schoolboard before that night.

Wow... I still cry about that sometimes. No wonder why soem Aspies are so quiet!! !

It's hard to know how I would react unless I'm in the situation, but when people say odd things to me, I do generally say something back, generally to clarify, and sometimes challenge, what they are saying. I'd probably say something along the lines of: 'Ah, so you were doing an experiment on me, rather than approaching me to be friendly? That's interesting. Why did you wait so long, if you've been wondering all this time?'

Depending on her response, and how interesting I found it to engage her, I might then say, 'Oh, I just asked out of curiosity to see what you'd say. I wondered if you're on the autistic spectrum, as people on the spectrum sometimes approach social interaction as an experiment, and sometimes say socially inappropriate things that could be interpreted as rude.'

I imagine she said it knowing full well it was rude and hoping to elicit some kind of reaction out of you. I doubt very much she's on the autistic spectrum, but it would be fun to turn it around and ask her if she was! I find sometimes people can become more real and interesting if you say something unexpected that challenges the assumptions behind what they've just said!

On the other hand, depending on her tone, I might have just stared silently at her, totally speechless! I do that sometimes when something someone says seems so totally ridiculous and rude that I'm lost for words!

you know, i really hate it when people do that.

i mean, what good does it do to point out the fact that i'm quiet?
is that really your best shot at starting a conversation?
what do you expect me to say to that??! should i state "Me know how speak" like a f***** neandorthol, or what? i hate when people ask rhetorical questions and expect an actual answer.
it really pisses me off when i know they're just asking it to get attention or poke fun at me.

*sigh*...
i usually just nod my head and go 'yeaahhh....' and just return to whatever i was doing.
lol.


(edit; i just finished reading through all the posts. i'm glad to see this annoys the SH** out of you all as much as it does i. hahaha.)

Here's what I would have said:

Her - "Young man? ...what's your name?"

Me - "Guess."

Her - "Oh I only asked because the whole time you've been here I've never ever heard you say a single thing....that's the reason I asked your name, to see if you would actually talk or if you still wouldn't say anything."

Me - "I never talk, and you never shut up, interesting contrast isn't it?"

Her - "Young man? ...what's your name?"

Me - "Kai."

Her - "Oh I only asked because the whole time you've been here I've never ever heard you say a single thing....that's the reason I asked your name, to see if you would actually talk or if you still wouldn't say anything."

Me - "Congratulations."

I think you're reading way too much into it and worrying way to much,

Whatever way you responded is the right way (bar physical and verbal abuse). Honestly, as long as you didnt throw anything, your reaction was perfectly valid.

When people are this rude, don't waste your time worrying how you 'should' have responded. Respond the way you want to.

"You're so quiet. Why don't you talk?"
".........................I can't....think of anything to say."
"Just make stuff up! That's what I do!"
"...........I don't know how." (which I think I said to myself because by the time I got that out she was onto soemthing else with someone else).

and

there was some longer conversation between me and some girl who tried to get me to start going to her church group (she "used to be sad all the time"...then she "met the Lord").

"Why don't you like people?"

this same girl at some other point promised that she would be my friend, if I ever happened to want friends.

i got asked why i was so quiet a lot in high school. people were still asking me in my senior year. i still get annoyed when people comment on how quiet i can be. gym class was the worst for me because half the class we just stood in the gym and weight room and did nada. everyone gathered in their little groups during these times. the guys would actually exercise together while the most of the girls did nothing. i normally just sat in a corner with a group of people and said nothing. i once fake being sick just to get out off that class. i pulled out some fake tears i was so desperate.

Lady A: "What's your name?"
Me: [complete failure to respond]
Lady B: She's our mute student.
*Commence laughter from Lady A and Lady B*