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10 Sep 2010, 8:38 pm

As several other people have stated, weddings are BORING! Nothing like on TV at all. The TV ones are over in 5 minutes. Somehow, every RL wedding I've been to, the preacher has managed to stretch what should be a short ceremony into a two-hour long naptime, except you aren't allowed to nap, play a DS, text, or anything. The reception can be fun, though; I haven't had the bad food experience that Celoneth mentioned...



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10 Sep 2010, 9:34 pm

Ugh I hate weddings. I've been to 4 in the past 3 years. I wish people in my family would stop getting married. It's not like their marriage has a chance anyway...


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10 Sep 2010, 11:08 pm

i hate them. too many reasons to list.


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10 Sep 2010, 11:47 pm

I thought I'd mess up royally at mine, from learning the cadence of walking up the aisle together, to the probability of forgetting the vows when he says, "repeat after me."- :lol:
The photographs all were sub par ; I'm closing my eyes or I look a million miles away in thought.

The whole custom of this whole scenario was overwhelming whilst working full time secularly: from printing and formatting the invitations, the 'ring' , the attire, the license, the blood test, the food menu, etc, etc.

In my opinion things should be much simpler.



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10 Sep 2010, 11:58 pm

The three weddings that I have attended were very boring. Religious, dragging, uber-traditional, exactly the same except for the couple being married. I personally find the ceremony to be the most boring part of the wedding. God this, rings that, blah blah blah.
The food afterward was good, though.

My wedding ceremony was completely non-religious, lasted less than five minutes, and actually had unique personalized words that hadn't been heard thousands of times before. There were no flowergirls, ringbearers, bridemaids or groomsmen, or even an aisle! There was no poetic lovey dovey BS (except for a teensy bit in our handwritten vows), it was all straight to the point. Our officiant was not a priest or a judge. He was my husband's best friend.
And we were standing on top of a picnic table. And we fell down while we were kissing. My "bouquet" potted plant spilled onto my dress, getting a little bit of dirt on me. Most of those ridiculous wedding "traditions" were cast aside in favor of a laid-back fun affair. It was AWESOME!
And then we ate food afterwards.

I didn't even want a wedding to begin with, to be honest. It was my husband's idea, to appease his mother. She loves to make a huge fanfare over everything, and threw a hissy fit when one of her other sons just eloped. :roll: Weddings are a waste of money, best spent on a nice honeymoon for some one-on-one time as a newly married couple. Sometimes I still wonder if I would have been more satisfied if we eloped...


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11 Sep 2010, 5:16 am

I think weddings are the ultimate display of arrogance: "Oh look at us we are in love and are going to try to have a long relationship and start a family." And everyone cheers them for doing something that all living things have been doing for millions of years (procreating).

I hate the whole day affair (ceremony, meal, reception). Far too much crammed into one day. I honestly don't know how the couple deal with all that attention on them just because they are having a serious relationship. It's like celebrities who allow the cameras into their houses to film them eating breakfast and argueing with their kids or spouse. Some people just love attention.



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11 Sep 2010, 7:05 am

lots of peoples have been choosing to have a smaller wedding or skip the whole thing and spend the monies saved on a house deposit or a better honeymoon.

If I ever get to that stage I will go in that direction also.

My brothers wedding I thought was good because it was a small gathering at my house and it didn't drag on for ages.



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11 Sep 2010, 7:29 am

Robdemanc wrote:
I think weddings are the ultimate display of arrogance: "Oh look at us we are in love and are going to try to have a long relationship and start a family." And everyone cheers them for doing something that all living things have been doing for millions of years (procreating).

I hate the whole day affair (ceremony, meal, reception). Far too much crammed into one day. I honestly don't know how the couple deal with all that attention on them just because they are having a serious relationship. It's like celebrities who allow the cameras into their houses to film them eating breakfast and argueing with their kids or spouse. Some people just love attention.


I understand what you mean, but many of those large weddings aren't the doing of the bride or groom. In fact, they often have little control in reality. It's rarely for them or by them. It's often their parents who create all the fuss and want to create the big to do for all their friends and family to remember. Their parents are often the reason the guest list seems to grow exponentially and as a result so does everything else.



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11 Sep 2010, 10:19 am

Robdemanc wrote:
I think weddings are the ultimate display of arrogance: "Oh look at us we are in love and are going to try to have a long relationship and start a family." And everyone cheers them for doing something that all living things have been doing for millions of years (procreating).

I hate the whole day affair (ceremony, meal, reception). Far too much crammed into one day. I honestly don't know how the couple deal with all that attention on them just because they are having a serious relationship. It's like celebrities who allow the cameras into their houses to film them eating breakfast and argueing with their kids or spouse. Some people just love attention.


Anthropology is quite interesting to me, as customs,ceremonies vary dramatically in different times and places.
Some cultures are much more expressive than the U.S. and others more 'attenuated.'

What one believes and participates in, to be so static and absolute, is 'merely the way we experience doing what we do,' "the subjunctive."



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11 Sep 2010, 10:28 am

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I understand what you mean, but many of those large weddings aren't the doing of the bride or groom. In fact, they often have little control in reality. It's rarely for them or by them. It's often their parents who create all the fuss and want to create the big to do for all their friends and family to remember. Their parents are often the reason the guest list seems to grow exponentially and as a result so does everything else.


So true. Heck my Great Aunt just had a quick ceremony at the court house while wearing a pantsuit. Her parents weren't too happy about it but she didn't let that stop her. However, every other girl in our family since has had a more formal ceremony.

I'm not gonna lie, I watch all the wedding shows on TV and want a celebration for my future hubby and myself too. Hey, there's nothing wrong with wanting to feel like a princess for a day right? Granted, I won't be spending thousands of dollars on my dress either because that's just silly. I could use that money for a house instead. ^_^



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11 Sep 2010, 11:42 am

Oh goodness... Don't remind me of weddings >.< I've got mine coming up in just over a year. Thankfully the other half and his family are aware of my problems and have happily agreed that I can have a small, very quick, informal humanist ceremony without endless hassle, noise and endless drivle. My parents are probably still going to try and make me invite everyone and have something over the top and so on, they weren't involved until the important bits had been delt with to avoid them taking over. As long as it doesn't go over ten minutes I think I can last it out!

TBH I probably wouldn't even bother with a wedding but it's difficult moving abroad when you're not legally married as not so much weigh is placed on just a couple and there is more chance of rejecting one of us and having to remain here >.<


I went to my cousins last year and found it horrific. The venue smelt damp, hundreds of people all dressed in bright colours milling everywhere, the echos of any noise in the church (I am certainly not having a church for that reason alone, even before that I'm not relgious comes into it!), the noise of that damn organ and to top it off lots of people crying... I really don't understand the crying. The ceremony even went on for an hour and a half! How can it take that long?! I had to leave straight after the ceremony, I knew I'd have hated the reception. She had one of those 'disco' things so lots of noise, drinking and mad flashing colours which certainly does not appeal to me, I dispise all three of the key aspects.


Sorry for the rant, they are often something I cannot stand for so many reasons! ^.^



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11 Sep 2010, 5:21 pm

Weddings have a word that is associated with them and it's incredibly blunt: boring.



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11 Sep 2010, 8:46 pm

I have stated multiple times that one of the advantages of not having many friends is fewer weddings and funerals to attend. I can tolerate a reception if there is alcohol. If not I hate just having to sit around and watch a bunch of people who think they are superior to animals act like animals. There was one wedding though (besides my own) that I did enjoy. A couple friends of ours had an outdoor non-religious ceremony where they walked down the aisle to live music from Star Wars and read passages from The Lord of the Rings. Saki, sushi, moonshine and a bonfire for the reception were also nice :)



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12 Sep 2010, 3:52 am

I don't mind it, they can sometimes be fun. I do remember, though, that the last one I went to had the ceremony in a very hot hall, and I had to wear a suit. I had a sensory overload and it felt horrible. That's not specific to weddings, though, that's just unfortunate weather.

Anyway, I usually find the ceremonies themselves boring, but I do enjoy talking to relatives and family friends who I didn't know before or who I rarely see.



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12 Sep 2010, 3:56 am

I just don't get the point! I don't identify at all with what is going on. I get that originally weddings where for the families to symbolize merging together as one... but now it is just another excuse to party and get drunk and legitimately go "all out" for the best night of their lives.... 'cept no one ever seems to be happy. Everyone is running around stressed and upset that something went wrong and frowning. :?


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12 Sep 2010, 4:11 am

MoralAnimal wrote:
I just don't get the point! I don't identify at all with what is going on. I get that originally weddings where for the families to symbolize merging together as one... but now it is just another excuse to party and get drunk and legitimately go "all out" for the best night of their lives.... 'cept no one ever seems to be happy. Everyone is running around stressed and upset that something went wrong and frowning. :?


Very true. On the topic of marriage itself, I must admit that it's completely pointless.