Do you regret being an A-Hole to people so much?

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Should I take that as sincere or sarcastic? I'm leaning towards sarcastic at this point.

Either way no problem. I'm proud to say that I do in most circumstances take the side that no one else here likes or at least play devil's advocate for the absentee party. It's good to get positive recognition for what I bring to the table.

I think the biggest problem some people with asperger's face is thinking that they are the problem in social interactions when it really is that they are different, not worse, just different. I had to explain to my boyfriend (an aspie) that all his past social mishaps were mostly not his fault. I think blaming himself made him feel depressed and more isolated. I also think that there are a lot of mean people who will treat people like crap because they can, especially if they think they will get away with it. A lot of aspies get to the point that they are tired of taking mistreatment and being excluded. That may make them bitter, but it would make anyone feel the same way. I feel deep sympathy for aspies who have been consistently misunderstood and blamed. That said, there have, no doubt, also been situations where little empathy, which aspies have to deal with on both sides, may have caused unintentionally injury or injury to an extent not anticipated. I think less ignorance in neurotypicals, such as myself, would be the first, and possibly biggest, improvement of the situation.

Hindsight? Eh... I don't regret much. If I make a mistake, I do what I can to fix it. I learn and better myself.

No not really. If someone gets pissed at me, I can apologize and if they still don't get over it, their problem, not mine.

Sometimes I am blessed I said something because it told me what kind of person that person is. Some people just are not nice or they have issues themselves so it makes them be jerks.

Only time I ever regretted saying something was when I called my aunt and uncle cheap in a thank you card.

I also think people get offended for no reason because of their issues or their crazy hormones so what can I do about it? Plus some people are just too sensitive and they take things the wrong way.

Hard to tell as an aspie if you said something inappropriate or if it was just that person with an issue and you did nothing wrong.

I regret it terribly. I have a short fuse and go off on people, sometimes because they deserve it and sometimes because I'm having a meltdown (or in some cases severe stress that may not rise to an actual meltdown), but I regret all of it.

In the moment, I feel like I have to avenge the wronged, including myself, and I come out waving my sword and start slashing off people's heads (metaphorically, of course). At the time it seems righteous and just, but then I feel sad and hurt when it all winds down. And the retaliation I have had to endure on some occasions has caused me some real, lasting pain, not to mention a scorched ground of burned bridges.

Being older, I am less obnoxious now. I generally do not feel too bad about the misunderstandings. Remember, there are far worse people in this world than those of us with AS.

I used to stir the stick all the time, when I was younger.

No Piston that was very genuine.i wasn't trying to be an "A-hole" about it.

Being crapped on by others hasn't escaped me. but i just wished I didn't crap on others that i shouldn't have.

Thanks, you bring a lot to the table.

It's funny, I actually came off as arrogant to someone on this board yesterday because I misunderstood what she said.

But I don't regret coming off as an a-hole at times. In fact, like pistonhead said, I'm usually too nice and get cheated by others. Lately I've been abandoning my fear of looking like an a-hole - especially when I drive, I give people the finger a lot

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