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showrootslove
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09 Oct 2010, 4:10 pm

Hi Callista,
Yes, I have decided if that happens again that I am going to the principal. The teacher that I work with has already told me to go talk to her, but since I am new there, I was trying to tread lightly.

It has been said on more than one occasion that someone was going to come observe in the classroom setting. So far, nothing yet. I do not want him to slip through the cracks.

I actually know the superintendent of the district quite well. If someone doesn't take action I am not above giving him a call to get his opinion. I just didn't want to jump the chain of command, whether he is my friend or not.

In another district I taught an AS student who had no IEP. I spoke to his mom a lot, and I don't remember why he didn't have an IEP.???

I really want someone to help him so badly. Thank you for responding!!


Callista wrote:
He is definitely missing out. This child needs a diagnosis.

I grew up without a diagnosis because my mom was in denial. It caused me a great deal of trouble. I didn't know how to take care of myself when I left for college and nearly ended up homeless (well, technically I was, but I had somebody's couch to sleep on so I wasn't actually on the street). The boy is probably going to miss out on being taught the stuff he needs to know.

You're an assistant, you say; so can you talk to somebody higher up the totem pole? You don't have any influence with his parents, but maybe a teacher or a principal could help. Try to stay away from the administrator-type person who treated the kid so badly... I have been treated like that and it just led to meltdowns, and my feeling that I was the most horrible, immature child on the face of the world.

Is there maybe a school counselor with some psychological training that you could talk to? Or maybe your special ed department; they probably usually work with students who have more intensive needs than your student, but maybe they could point you in the right direction...



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09 Oct 2010, 4:15 pm

Wow. I feel like I am possibly fighting a losing battle. People who are not sensitive to the needs of aspie students should not be in education. I am sure that is probably most people in education.

I hate that you went through all of that. Reading things like what you experienced makes me want to do something BIG about AS. I cannot stand the idea of aspie students having to live this way.




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School sure broke me. School broke my spirit for many years. What was even more sobering, was finding out that my top role model had nearly the same school and home experiences that I had growing up, but 30 years apart. I was told not to cry. I was told to look the teacher in the eyes. I was even dragged into the bloody washroom, and ordered by the stupid teacher's aide to go to the bathroom against my will, when I didn't even have to go. It turned out that the b***h didn't make me go. That woman was pointing at the smallest toilet in the bloody washroom. I'm sorry, but I can't walk past a school washroom. without feeling angry. I only had one accident in Grade 2 and that b***h blew it out of proportion. That only got me straining even harder to go, before going places at school and at home. You know the rest of the story.

My parents did what my teachers didn't do. My mum sent me to my room, every time that I started crying, and my dad thought it would be a great idea to throw medicine balls at me, the day that my sister and I went to his job with him. He thought that it would be a good way to toughen me up. No wonder I hate yelling, screaming parents. You heard me right...I hate screaming, yelling parents.



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09 Oct 2010, 6:07 pm

showrootslove wrote:
Oh my GOD that is absolutely deplorable and brings tears to my eyes. My AS husband went through his entire school career with no diagnosis. He is very private and only sometimes tells me things about when he was younger. I hope he did not endure this, and I sure hate to hear that you did. I hope no one tries to do this to this student in my class. I hate when he goes to art class because the teacher always brings him back complaining about his behavior. She is about 100 years old and needs to just retire. I am considering just keeping him out of art each week so he doesn't have to endure whatever she says or does during that time. I don't know if that would be the best decision or not for him?


My parents began to see me showing signs of odd behavior that I picked up from the other kids I was with in the special education classes that I did not show before. My parents complained about this when I was in third grade but by the time they figured out what to to I was in fifth or sixth grade and they decided to put me in a normal art class. The first thing the nt students did was to interrogate me asking me why wasn't in my art class with my own classmates. They did not like my answer so they proceded to torture the hell out of me both physically and mentally. Everytime the teacher was helping another work table the kids at mine would be bullying me while the kids at the other tables laughed their asses off. One of the kids stuck a paint brush covered in blue paint in my ear so I threw a cup of red paint into his face. He was given a towel to clean up I had to go to the nurse to get my ear flushed out. I was the one who the principal yelled at even though the art teacher was on my side and I could have gotten some kind of hearing damage. At the end of every class she would apalogize to me. I had her for several art classes in the high school and she said she still felt bad for me.

When I started begging to be taken out of the art classes but the special education teacher would say your parents wanted you in some normal classes so now your in a normal class. Complain to them not me. That kid is probably being bullied by the other students and is acting out because of their cruel antics. The NT kids are sly enough to hide what they are doing but autistic kids are not. That is what happened to me a lot. I think they got off of on me getting into trouble.


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