Unfortunately, the social skills that Aspie's have trouble developing are very important to the development of relationships between NT's. In adulthood, when Aspie's fail to display these skills, they often are misperceived as being purposefully rude, loud, insensitive, and disrespectful. Moreover, adult NT's, who have learned about Aspie's, must constantly reaffirm their patience and control over deeper emotional reactions caused by the Aspie's behaviors. Please realize that when NT's display these same types of poor interpersonal behaviors towards one another, it usually is a personal attack.
In childhood, the situation is much, much worse, as the untrained and immature NT children misunderstand the Aspie's behaviors and often respond in inappropriate ways, leading to serious forms of peer rejection and abuse. Perhaps Aspie's develop a redirected anger at NT's during these formulative years.
I think this thread is touching on a very, very important subject that can lead to healing. I hope it is discussed further.
Warmest regards,
Rich