Do you know any 'as*hole Aspies'?

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Uh he is a pedophile. No one would want to see child porn or even want it. How can someone have it and not be a pedo?

Well....it's a long story. I've shared it before on WP and it's a bit too late to do so again now. Suffice it to say the guy basically swears he is innocent and he really believed the child porn videos someone sent him were just "like any other movies". I don't believe him, but the other members in the Asperger's support group he started seem to. Those members would include his live-in girlfriend btw. I only attended the group meeting once and after I heard about this, I never went back.

In any case....he MAY NOT be a pedophile if were going by strict DSM-IV technical criteria. I have no idea about all that.... but he's creepy enough.

I met this guy one time before I knew about his crimes. He was wearing a button-down shirt with Disney characters all over it. When I think of this shirt in light of what I now know about him, I am forced to believe he wears it because it might serve as a child magnet.

Yeah, me.

My father had his moments.

I think...that I've had some, but I never intended to be a jerk. However, the effect is still the same.

Me a bit, my father a lot more, and the only person I know with AS [other than me and my father] is nice.

I can't draw any conclusions compared to "normal" people (vis-a-vis jerks to jerks), but I can say that almost all I've met in person have been jerks, and most on the 'net too.

I know 2 in real life, and plenty more than that on the internet.
I can be an a***hole myself sometimes, and so can anyone else.

I don't think you are. I have enjoyed your posts.

I met few people who were using the disability card as a ticket to do whatever they want even if it has nothing to do with their condition being aspie or other.

It offends me more that they bring up having Asperger's than the fact that they're being as*holes because they make it harder for other respectable aspies to gain the respect they deserve in an already prejudiced world.

I'm sure qualify as that to some people. But I'd rather be that than "disabled"

Noone on this thread.

One IRL.

I think... there's a difference, both in reality and in effect, between setting out to hurt people and hurting people unintentionally or being forced to hurt people because of circumstances. The former does make someone a jerk, the latter does suck, but is a matter of circumstances and not a reflection of a person's character. I know that personally, the effect of the 2 situations on me is different.

I am uncertain what the collective definition of "as*hole" here on this thread exactly means, but I'm assuming it's a mean person. I don't use AS as an excuse (I try to be cognizant of that pitfall at least), but I have been called an as*hole on several occassions. I don't feel like a mean person and, generally, I want to be a likeable person because I have enough strikes against me, if you will, in a predominantly neurotypical world. But I suspect that some of my Aspergian traits have caused me to come off as an as*hole without there being any intentions on my part to inflict harm, pain, or insult. So I guess I'm an "as*hole Aspie" then?

Everyone is an as*hole some of the time, some people more often than others.
Concerning the use of autism as an excuse for rude or hurtfull behaviour, as mentioned in this thread I do sometimes wonder if that's the case. I don't think I do, but I've been made aware that certain members of my limited social circle believe I do.

Thats the thing, I dont use my AS as an excuse to be one. Its just my simple lack of caring about people that does it, as I feel people just get in my way 99% of the time. Its a bit difficult to explain exactly what I mean.

I think I understand.

When someone is percieved to be a rude and hurtfull person and doesn't show any remorse or shame for their actions, while being open about having a condition like AS, it's not uncommon for others to think this person is hiding behind their condition.

Often when I'm argueing with someone about my behaviour and bring up AS to clarify, I am immediately accused of "making excuses". Some people have trouble understanding the difference between an "explanation" and an "excuse".

I have to keep reminding myself of that; sometimes I can be an awful hypocrite.

You will become just like the people who are mean to you. And then, if you complain about their meaness, you will be a hypocrite. That's how I was most of my life, and still often am. We have to try to remember that wise old saying "Two wrongs don't make a right."

I've only met one Aspie IRL, and I only learnt that he was one recently. The guy was kind of a jerk, though part of me wonders now if he was merely very blunt.