Anyone the only aspie in their family?

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I am the only DIAGNOSED Aspie in my family, but also the most empathetic (or maybe just the most expressive).

I am the only one diagnosed, but don't believe I'm the only one who is Autistic...just diagnosed.

I am under the belief one of my Uncles has it, but he's been brainwashed so intensely into conformity, only one or two things at this point really really suggest he is.

I am positive my Mom was, and my Dad has something though I don't think he's Autistic.

My grandfather--Mom's father--I believe was Autistic, and from what my Uncle told me I'm more than positive not only was his Dad--my great grandfather--but so was his Dad.

In fact, here's a little funny, yet scary thought:

My great grandfather passed away the day my mom found out she was pregnant with me. I like to joke around that I'm my great grandfather's re-incarnation.

My biological mother probably really was an aspie but due to the unlightned times (late 80's) and she was neglected as a child so she probably never had the chance to learn to be high functning so her offical labed was mental retardation. The only thing I know about my biological father was that he was a playboy who had six other kids with diffrent women. He basically raped my biological mother.

I swear my adoptive parents have AS traits, and my dad could easily be diagnosed.

There is no one with AS in my family either. I don't know anyone with it other of special education groups.

I'm almost certain that I'm the only one. I don't know a lot of my family though so there could be someone else.

Three of us are on the spectrum, at least (me, father and second little brother).

So, no.

I heard one of my cousin's kids is recently suspected or diagnosed with AS. I don't see em often but I'm not sure I agree with it. He's in like 1st or 2nd grade & he has a lot of behavior issues & he isn't potty-trained well but I think that is because he doesn't want to be. He's very smart & knows how he's supposed to act & he is very well behaved with certain people; he's very good socially sometimes but he does not want to behave with his parents or school. My cousin never punishes him or tries to discipline him. Instead of being involved they take him to the docs who put him on meds & say he needs a special diet that is not helping at all. I think a lot of his issues are related to my cousin's parenting; he knows there are no consensuses for his actions so he does what he wants. I guess it's possible he could have AS but no one is dealing with it in a good way.
As I said earlier in this thread my dad has a lot of AS characteristics but my cousin's kid is related to my mom's side

My children are not on the spectrum, but they are the only people in the world who understand me. For some reason, I was able to tune in to them from the moment of birth, and we have great communication. They are literally the only people I can share a home with. I love hearing their "take" on things. I love that they know me inside out, better than I know myself, and they still love me whole-heartedly ~ not despite the way I am ~ but because of who I am. No one else even gets who I am, much less loves me for it.

To answer the OP, I haven't been diagnosed with AS... but my nephew has. No one else that I know of... but, I have some relatives who I don't know well enough that I'd necessarily be aware of their neurological differences and/or labels.

Not trying to be mean, but you have a lot of opinions about that child & his parents, considering you don't see the family often.

I think it's unlikely that a 1st or 2nd grader would not want to be potty trained... unless there were issues that made it more difficult for him to accomplish it. Where's the benefit in that?

Maybe he "does not want" to behave at times ~ or maybe he has trouble holding it together at those times?

Punishment does not equal good parenting IMO, I think it would be even less appropriate to punish a child for showing autistic traits that it would be to punish a neurotypical child.... There are better ways than punishment to teach children of every neurological variety, that are both more effective and more ethical than "punishment".

On what basis do you suspect that, if he does have AS, "no one is dealing with it in a good way"?

I wonder if your parents perhaps (consciously or not) talk negatively about these relatives in front of you, or do you have some other reason for disliking them? Oh wait, or . . . (bear with me, I'm slow sometimes) are you maybe a Troll?

He' has a very different personality than me & other Aspies tend to have. He's very active & social & seems to love being around others. The kid seems to like the attention & he smiles & laughs when he's bad & his paretns are upset with him & his paretns seem to ignore him the rest of the time; it's like he's rebelling because he wants attention.. The only disciplining they do is threaten to beat his a$$. I may not see them a lot but that's how it is when I see em. I see him with my aunt sometimes when his paretns aren't around & he's a very different person. He listens to my aunt & my grandparents & he has no potty training issues with them but when his parents are around; he goes crazy. I do NOT think it's a good idea to put a kid that young on medication unless other things were considered & tried 1st. It seems like they want to medicate him instead of trying to learn to deal with the issues.

I was talking to my mom about this topic today and she told me about my great-uncle (also on my dad's side). She said he used to mark in a book how many cycles he used on his washing machine. Like he recorded the date and made a check whenever he did a load. That is really not normal behavior!

He also used to catalog his videotapes in a certain way. Whenever he recorded a TV show or movie, he clipped the information for it out of the TV Guide and glued it to the tape. He had piles of TV Guides and videos in his living room, but they were all organized.

Sorry, I wrote that because I hate loud noises and parties, and I've never had the opportunity to go out to a party with NTs, nor have I ever been wanted properly by NTs girls of exactly my age. But all I've got is mild Aspergers - not Autism.

Perhaps I'm just someone born with low self-esteem and no confident, even if I was NT.

"Asperger's" is mild Autism dude. And yer not born with low self-esteem and poor self-confidence; it takes work to have both. Most don't seem to want to put forth the effort, but that's their problem...and that goes for NTs too.

Even if I did help my self-esteem, I'll never be invited to parties with a load of cool NTs because I just find it really difficult to mix with other peers. And I can't change the way I mix because it's easy said than done. The social part of my stupid brain is missing, or is very small, or doesn't work, (that's what I was told), and so I can't use the brain cells I haven't got, as much as I'll love to.

So yer hating yourself and obsessing over the cards life didn't deal you.

Yer right, you can't use what you don't have at your disposal; but you'd be surprised what you can do with what you do have.

I'm adopted and my adoptive family is like the opposite of Aspergers. Growing up with them was not easy. Eventually I tracked down my birthmother and from what she told me about my birthfather, he sounds pretty Aspie.