Are your parents divorced?

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My parents were very intimate with each other. I'm sure they'd still be together now if my dad was alive. My dad did have one short-lived previous marriage, but he did it for his previous wife's kid, not his previous wife.

No, everyone in my happily is either single or unhappily married. The ones who are married would rather fight with their spouse every day than get a divorce, because the minute they admit they're not happy with the spouse of their choice, that's when someone would gleefully step in and say, "I told you so."

Not all of them are on the spectrum, but sometimes I think they should all be locked up in a mental hospital.

My parents got divorced just before I turned 6 then my sister (NT) and I had to spend the next 40 years listening to my mom's incessant vile comments about my dad to the point that nobody could ever believe that such things could possibly be true. It was only about 6 months before my dad's death that she mellowed out about him enough to become reflective of his life. Neither of them have/had AS but my mom is highly obsessive, typically centered on herself and her imaginary superiority and is preoccupied with minute, insignificant things, so she does have asome AS traits, without the least possibility of ever qualifying to be ab Aspie. Her mom before her was equally obsessive, but a much mellower person. It is interesting to note that when I was age 4, bu dad was brushing my teeth one night (he was a dentist too) with me standing on top of the toilet seat. All seemed right in the world to me and then my mom walked in the bathroom with a raging scowl on her face, tied into my dad with all of her anger and ripped his glasses of then stormed out of the bathroom. Until I was abut age 12, I truly believed that this event and something about myself was the real cause for their divorce.

I read somewhere that there is a 75% divorce rate among the parents of those on the spectrum (I still have that link but the statement is no longer there), presumably due to the strain of having to deal with the autistic child and the inability to have any really meaningful relationship together as a result. I guess the results of this poll show that this statistic is not too far from the truth.

I think my dad was on the spectrum, but highly functioning. My mom is weird too, but in a different way. Both were very understanding of my problems or rather not understanding them to be problems, but completely normal, since we all had problems like that (my dad, me and 2 of my siblings just a bit more).

Both were married for over 40 years, until my dad died. I think in modern times, they might have divorced and definitely would have had less kids, but that is hard to judge.

I think they stay together so they have someone to argue with. They have been married 42 years.

My parents have been married over 25 years. Both don't have aspergers.

My parents married early(ish) - 23 and 25. They're still married, 25 years later. I don't know when I'll get married. I'm in a LTR, but I don't want to for another few years.

My parents have been married 34 years, and they definitely should be divorced.

My parents are still together after 36 years, They got together when my mum was 30 and my dad was 40 then had all us kids.

Both of em are on the spectrum, or at least have aspie / autistic traits.

My parents divorced when i was 18 months old. I am sort of glad i don't remember them ever being together they are extremely different. My dad never remarried and my mother has been married four other times. My father has only been diagnosed ptsd from serving in the Army's infantry div. during Vietnam. My mother has the bipolar diagnosis and is extremely paranoid she says a lot of inappropriate things that she can shrug off but analyses the hell out of everything other people say. My mother obsesses over relationships my father over work (mathematical, measurements, ect) I have always been told that I am just like my father (appearing cold, aloof, not liking physical contact, lacking eye contact, absorbed in my thinking process)

My parents got married young (mom was 20, dad was 23), were both still in school, only had dated for a few months, and never lived together beforehand. Sounds like a recipe for disaster, but they've actually been happily married for 20 years. My mom might be an Aspie; my dad has a couple traits but he's definitely an NT.

Nope, been together for 31 years and married for 28 years.

My dad has aspie traits and my mom was able to find her way around them and find other good things about him. He hurts her feelings a lot and she has complained about what a jerk he is but yet is still with him because she loves him and sees there are good things about him. All I know is he was a good example of what not to be like and not what to do. I think I have better social skills than him and sometimes his temper is bad and I don't want to be that way so I'm not.

Oh yeah I used to tell my mom why doesn't she just divorce him whenever she be complaining about what a jerk he is, she'd always say there are good things about him than his faults and everyone has them.

Ironically, my dad was always telling me I need to learn to deal with things and I learn as I get older and things get better when you grow up. Sometimes I wonder if he was speaking based on his own experience. I have no idea if he struggled in his childhood or with people. I never asked. He was the one who also taught my mother and I "worrying is a waste of time of energy." Why worry if there is nothing you can do about it? Him and I have the same personalities and I can see where my thinking comes from and my attitude on the world and people. He also says people are stupid and he was the one who taught me there are lot of weird and stupid people in the world and I grew up and saw he is right. Even m husband has noticed I have most of my dad in me and we both act similar and he has agreed he does have AS traits.


None of my parents were married before. But they were both engaged however to different people but my mom broke up her engagement because he was holding her back and wanted to run her life and she didn't want it and my dad and his fiancee both went off to college in different states and she met someone new and they just drifted apart. I don't remember if they were both actually engaged or in a relationship but I think he said they were going to get married but they went off to college and they lost contact and she met someone else. Now I can see why some people would have issues with their partner going off to college in another state. Then my parents met each other through a blind date.